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Male Dominant, 46, Madison, Wisconsin
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About mrmadison
I am an attached dom, experienced. My sub wife has decided to explore her domme side.That finds me looking for someone to train with a good head on her shoulders, likes to laugh, is passionate, comfortable with herself, someone who can hold her own in conversation.
I'd post a pic but I'm a semi-public figure. But I have no problem exchanging pix once a connection is there. For now, I have mediterranean looks and am fit.
I think the thing some tops forget is that as much as it's being in the "top" position, it's also about "serving," being mindful of someone else's needs. Being mindfully attuned to someone is a powerful aphrodisiac.
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A sub I know, not someone a sub to me, but someone in the lifestyle for many years recently came to me very disheartened.
Years ago she found a nice dom and he was married but in a poly marriage. She was all excited because there was chemistry and they had similar needs. I warned her about "desire." It is a double edged sword. Unless you have a handle on it, it will have a handle on you and then there will be hell to pay. Desire always wants more because that is its nature. Water flows downhill; it doesn't flow uphill. It won't be long and you will want more from him.
Sure enough, now she wants more. She wants him permanently but he's not willing to leave his wife. Now she's feeling stuck. She's the other woman. Where at first she was getting off on the "alternative lifestyle" now she's right back in the middle.
But this has opened a new door to explore. What does that mean to be territorial with someone? What is "you have to be mine" mean? Where is possessiveness coming from? We all have this side to us. It's an? old reactionary side fueled by, perhaps, romantic myths of "forever love" with one person and good old judeo-christian values? of being with just one person.? It premises that when we love someone we have a finite amount of love to share with that person and sharing some of it with a third person means giving up some of that love with the first person. Doesn't make sense. If you have 100 percent with one partner and then share it with someone else, does that mean you take 40 percent away to give to someone else?
Some people don't want to or can't get past that. That's ok. We all have our limits.
Love is not a product. It's a process.
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