mrbrightside

I'm in a deeply committed, loving relationship. Its great. But there's a gap. BDSM is a deep deep part of me. Its not a deep deep part of her. So I'm looking for someone to help fill that gap. A buddy, a play partner, perhaps someone in the same situation.

Never really been interested in one off play. BDSM works best when there's a connection, when it touches the soul. So I'm looking for someone to build a relationship with. But only a mutually agreeable partial relationship.

While I'm looking for that I find this a great place to hang out. BDSM somehow seems to go hand in hand with the kind of exploratory intelligence, wit and intensity of character I find a natural affinity with.

In day to day life I'm a down to earth, intelligent, mild mannered, imaginative , articulate, successful career, blah de blah.

Smile inducers:

Adrenalin, imagination, coriander, laughter, puligny montrachet, loud music, random acts of human kindness, bicycles, great cities, mountains, soul, movement, creativity, caught smiles, New York, wings of desire, lunch, poets, challenging minds, veuve clicquot, great buildings, the sea, cooking, leaping in, diversity, geography, dry martini, Paris, vintage style, spectacles...

Frown inducers

Boredom, TV lives, Bad food, abuses of power, botherers, injustice, unrequested violence, closed minds, the daily mail, stasis, snobbery, lack of freedom, blandness...

Sexually complex. I'm a sadistic masochist with a little more s than the m. More dominant than submissive by nature (and by experience) but perhaps more excited by submitting to someone because of that. A feisty, provocative submissive. And a tender, supportive Dom who leads subs through their limits and beyond with gentle words and the power of the mind (as well as brute force ;). Refined, polite and apparently reserved and a filthy, boundary pushing sexual explorer with very few limits. If you're full of contradictions resolved by a deep desire to push boundaries, explore and see what happens we'll probably get on.

I've also been involved in mentoring subs. Happy to do this again for the right person.

Be great to chat to likeminded souls.