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Halloween is coming! It is often a favorite in our community, I hope you are making terrific plans! |
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You, Sir, are a Top, NOT a Dom
If, when asked about your skills as a Dominant, you can only cite your mad flogging skills, your badass caning, or your unparalleled whipping skills, YOU ARE A TOP! You might be a great top, even the best top this side of the equator, but to be a Dom, your list of experience better include more than just tools of the trade.
If you want a D/s relationship, "Mr Dim Dom", you had better be prepared for the emotional side of a relationship, too. Most assuredly the amount of devotion a sub feels for a Dom is unparalleled. If you light a fire in a submissive with promises of a deep, meaningful relationship and then turn and run when that fire explodes, you are a coward and a fraud (and I'm calling you out on it today because you are not worthy of such an important title)
Here's a list of "Domly non-negotiables".
You want to play? Bring your tools.
You want a relationship? Bring these.
*Patience
*Consistency
*Fairness
*Flexibility
*Maturity
*Encouragement
*Openness
*Honesty
*Passion
*Composure
*High moral standards
*Leadership
*Intelligence
*Humility
*Tolerance
Look, if you want to be a Top that's awesome...be the best Top you can be! Hell, maybe one day we can play together. But do us all a favor, don't advertise for wanting more (a deeper relationship) when you are simply looking for fun. It makes you an asshole of epic proportions.
Not one tool in your bag of goodies makes you dominant. It's your behavior. You, Sir, are NOT a Dom. You're just a little boy with a whip.
Thank you to the author, Complikated
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I updated my picture, but I'm not looking, just happy. Thank you for the responses. |
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What a beautiful day it was today. I love being near the ocean! I hope you had the opportunity to be out and enjoy it as well. |
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Happy New Year Friends of Kink :) All the best to everyone in the coming year! |
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Vote "Yes" for Scottish independence! The vote is the 18th.. Countdown!! Enough English Rule! Keep the Queen and Out with Cameron! |
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Ventura County Residents! There is a BDSM "Slosh" at Paddy's (2 Main Street, Ventura) This is a spacious, and lovely establishment, that treats us very well. They are open to all alternative lifestyles, and it reminds me of the bar in Star Wars. Come on out! If you are nervous, use a fake name if you like, most of us are all on .com. It is a free anonymous site for us kinky people, like Facebook for muggles. Paddy's is lenient, but we are in a public place so dress appropriately. I've heard people on here say we are all fakes etc. Come and meet people in person with no stress and no expectations. I can tell you for a fact there will be people there looking to meet someone. (Not me, happily) Anyway, I ramble.. 8:30 tonight. |
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As a sub, the best thing that can happen is to find the person that can quiet you with a look, never has to raise his voice and you body can feel him nearby. No questions, no concessions, it just feels right. Some amazing sex is icing on the cake.. I'm a happy sub right now. |
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Waking up, read the BBC news, take a swim, have a long shower... make a good cup of coffee, and catch yourself dancing to Aretha Franklin. Life is good! |
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Intrinsic Equality. Now Ladies and Gentlemen, I'm a big fan of honorifics, (Sir, Daddy, Master, Lord King Master of the Universe, whatever) But those aren't applicable for me unless we develop some trust, and I consent (If you still want me to), to be your submissive. Consent is something they aren't teaching in Dom school these days I guess, because many "Dominants" seem to assume a lot. Please respect a sub's right to choose. Choosing you might be the last choice she makes for a while, please be worth it. |
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All of you near Ventura County, CA: Our BDSM group will be meeting at Paddy's Pub in Ventura, tonight. It reminds me of the bar from Star Wars, anything goes! (keeping in mind that this is a public place) Come out and have a beverage! We have a big group, so blend in if you like, just watch till you feel comfortable.. but we are mostly harmless and good people. Many of us are on .com (Free, Anonymous,Kinky version of Facebook) Look forward to seeing you! |
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Often people misunderstand humiliation or why it would be arousing. The responses sometimes include people who think insulting someone, is what I'm talking about, or calling names, or other crass wastes of time. This is not what I'm talking about. My humiliation and arousal is being forced to acknowledge that I'm aroused by certain behaviours. The fact that being treated as property makes me wet, and not just implied, let's look and see how wet. Make me tell you how wet. Which of the humiliating activities is more arousing? Tea-bagging? Or begging to do it? I hope I've cleared things up a little. |
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Mmmm Some needle-play and a couple of good floggings, and I'm feeling like my old self. An excellent recharge. |
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Isn't it strange when you notice there are a lot of reasonable good looking Dom profiles from somewhere just out of reach? For me it's been Oregon. I see these handsome men with well written profiles, and they are from Oregon. Good for you Oregon women! |
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Some people believe you can't be in love in a D/s relationship. I disagree. All I seek is a brilliant, confident, understated, dominant person with a great sense of humor. Step right up!
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Crosby Stills and Nash... A portal to my past. |
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Looking for a Lesbian Dom, local to Ventura County CA, and age appropriate. Please say hello or take a look at my profile. |
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Reading my own profile just turned me on.. I ache to be seduced and charmed and owned. |
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Warning to all Doms***
I'm a terrible submissive. Do not contact me for any reason. I'm older, I have to get to know you, go out a few times, talk a LOT, find some reasons to have respect for you, understand each other and find each other funny, laugh a few times together and maybe even have a private joke, before I decide I might want you to own me. Then we have to agree on it. It's nuanced and slow and grows. It includes friendship and trust. I'm no good at all to any of you. |
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Cosmos... How I love thee! Today I'm watching molecules.... So much fascinating data. |
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This came up in a group on about submissive women with dominant personalities. I explained it thus: Allow me to use this metaphor... In a herd of horses, there are horses that are going to do exactly as you tell them from the first. If you are their Master they are quietly submissive and if someone else rides them they are quietly submissive. Then there is the spirited filly, that one no can break, people demonize it, because certainly if THEY can't dominate it no one can. It must be gay, or crazy or fake or any of the other words that have been bandied about to describe that type of horse, until the right rider comes along, he is especially experienced and skilled and understands and takes time and has the right tone of voice, the right intelligence level.. the rider is just, "the right one" and that horse becomes the most loyal horse anyone has ever seen. Not to everyone, but just to the One. She still scares off the less worthy and the fools, as she won't suffer fools and mistreatment, but aches to see the One and please his every whim, and he has triggered something in the filly that allows her to respect him and WANT to please him. I tend to think we are those Fillies. We aren't for everyone, nor do we choose to be, and when owned are satisfying on a different level. Not everyone understands, or desires this type of relationship. It takes finesse and seduction and work, but the rewards are... intense. I hope this helps. |
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As I was just reminded by a very wise Man, there are reasons a person wants to submit to someone. There is an old adage, "A Master orders, a good Master asks, a great Master inspires. Another great man told me, it's not that I (me, Mordayne) am reluctant to submit. I'm enthusiastic to submit to someone that can seduce my submission, my mind, and my heart. Are you that person? |
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There are two things coming up. Jan 30 is the second new moon of the month, making it a "Black Moon" It's a symbol of new beginnings and big change. Also, Sunday is Feb 2, that has several names. Imbolc, St. Brigid's Day, Groundhog's Day. It's a Pagan Festival of Spring and rebirth symbolized by flowers peeking through the snow, or Brigid's Cross. (Not a Christian Cross) |
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I'm a Happy Bear's Fan!!! Go Kap! Go Harbaugh! Go 9ers! Thanks for doing what we couldn't. |
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I am Sapiosexual. Thank you to those of you write to me in a well thought out, interesting way. If you include a recent face picture I am more likely to write back. |
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I watched "Ron White, A Little Unprofessional," and it was well worth watching if you get a chance! |
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For those of you who have expressed an interest in meeting, I will be at a BDSM New Year's Eve gathering tonight, at Paddy's in Ventura. It's an alternate lifestyle venue, free to get in and you only pay for drinks. I think of it like the bar in Star Wars, where everyone is welcome. We are often gathered on the patio. I look just like my photos, and will be talking somewhere. If you don't like me, there will be others there you can approach or if you don't want to, don't approach anyone. Totally safe. See you there, and Happy New Year! |
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Wonder thus, what pleasures does the next year bring?
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Happy Christmas Eve Everyone!! |
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Has anyone seen the Chicago Bears? Their stand ins aren't doing so well in Philly.
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I'd like to thank the Football Gods for letting the Bears beat the Browns in spite of J. Cutler's best efforts. Yay! Now... Go Cowboys!
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Whew! Friday already? This week has been a whirlwind. Have a great weekend everyone! |
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Football Gods, please the great Adrian Peterson get some rest today :) Go Bears!!
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GREAT ending for the Auburn v Alabama game!!!
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Happy Thanksgiving to all of my Collarme family! |
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Having a luxurious Winter day next to the fireplace is a pretty great way to spend a day off. And with all of you! |
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It took us 5 hours and 16 minutes but the Bears beat the Ravens! |
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A sustainable D/s relationship between two adults in love is not too much to ask.
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Thursday Night Football! yay :) |
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The Fall is a gorgeous time of year as it fades into Winter... darker, colder. Time to be with one you serve, as we all grow older.
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I'm looking for a sustainable relationship, and in my opinion for professionals to live D/s and flourish both professionally and emotionally, there has to be a lot of understanding on both sides. So if you are the "Uber-Dom" I'm not your girl. I have things to do during the day and don't have time to get permission every time I pee. I'm going to wear underwear, speak to whomever I need to, and love my job like I do every day. You should do that too.
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Aside from my Bears, football was amazing today!! Go Colts! |
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The people that love you, remember your birthday. Oh and people on Facebook because they get a reminder. |
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The phrase is: "Worth Your While."
The proper usage is: I am a Dominant, who likes to dominate. (noun v verb) When searching for an adjective try: I am a dominant person.
This is not meant for people who are learning English as a second language, but unfortunately for people who have only ever spoken Americanized English. |
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Thanks for writing some of you, but I don't date married people. There is no future in it for me. It's also very disappointing to talk to someone really great and find out they are married. So just bypass me :) Thanks! |
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In this lifestyle there is plenty of time to get serious, but getting to know each other only happens once, and it's fun if done correctly I think. Let's take our time and enjoy the newness of it. |
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And the first Bears game of the season! YAY!! Of course Cutler is typical. |
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Go Blackhawks!!! Great Series! |
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Hey! I met a couple that met on this site. They are charming attractive and intelligent. I have met charming intelligent people on this site as well. So don't say the reason you can't meet someone is because there are no real people out there. Be optimistic and enjoy :) |
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I'm getting ready to go to Dublin in July! Do you live in Dublin? Are you familiar with the area? Any recommendations? Maybe a munch? Happy to hear from you :) |
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The Bears could have done better in the Draft. **Sigh**
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Football is back! Thank goodness! The Olympics were amazing... Oban is fun in the Summer! How did you spend your Summer? |
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Thank you for contacting me but I'm in a long term, committed relationship. I am only here for friends and events. Happy Lives Everyone! |
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So, I was sorting the toy bag this morning, and I realized those canvas wine bags you get that have 6 separate partitioned areas for the wine bottles? Works great for "insert-able" toys! |
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I was thinking maybe some translation is needed for profiles and journal entries and a little good natured fun. For example:
Sane = agrees with him about everything
Sweet = doesn't complain when he accidentally hurts her in play
Wannabe = Didn't want to date/play/be raped by Him
Fake = Someone of the opposite gender/status/role than they claim to be.
REAL fake! = Someone who is all of the above... OR won't date Him
Not a real submissive: Someone who disagrees with Him
"Ridiculous Fake Wannabe!" All of these terms together, can be used by the rare and precious "Online Dom" when a girl won't show her pussy etc on cam for him.
Beware the man who can't spell "dominant" But expects you to call him "Master" before you ever see a pic.
In all fairness, we are a fun lot, and I have met some GREAT men here. Also.. it's all good because the Reese's Peanut Butter Eggs are out for Easter!!! xoxoxox |
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BOLD 2012! Are you going? |
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Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.-Dalai Lama |
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Happy Lupercalia! (aka Valentine's Day) May you all have romance, love and passionate, mind blowing sex this week!!! Or.. be nursed by a she-wolf. Maybe those two things aren't mutually exclusive. |
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"Get 'em up Dudley Douche-bags!" ...Archer |
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"I believe that whether a person follows any religion or not is unimportant, he or she must have a good heart, a warm heart."
~ Dalai Lama |
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Some times you just get that.. "Feeling.." It's Friday night on a three day weekend, and I want to get into some mischief... |
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I think the rain is making me reflective tonight. What with the New Year and all... I think the only thing that is truly easy is to follow our hearts. That is my plan for 2012. Those who worry for us, and care for us and never let us down.. those are the people that love us. We should care for them as well. |
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Happy Hogmanay to all of you here in Hell's Kitchen :) |
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Happy Boxing Day to one & all :) Hope you are sleeping off great times! |
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Merry Christmas to all of you! Many of you are my friends and for that I count my blessings, and for my Master, and now for Christmas, maybe Santa will let my Bears beat his Packers!! (We have an inter-divisional relationship)
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May the Solstice bring you love & laughter! |
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Twelve days till Solstice... Christmas spirit and D-rings jingling. Isn't it an amazing day??? |
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The weekend is afoot.. Muahahahahah |
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Oxnard Teen Shoots Gay Teen in the Head - pleads out to 21 years in prison. Two lives lost because of hatred. |
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Charleston is Gorgeous... Like old magic with Spanish moss and old homes... Once owned by the King of England, it reminds me of things we have forgotten. |
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The best thing about new luggage is using it for the first time. It's all new and clever... |
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Good food, good Friends, work is wonderful and my Master is amazing. A terrific Tuesday! |
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Cali, (my dog) has asked me to take her pic off of Collar Me. She said the number of guys that tried to tell her that their dog didn't understand them and they were having to look outside the relationship were disturbing to her. She gave me her collar back and moved in with my ex in South Carolina. It's complicated. |
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Ben & Jerry's "Red Velvet Cake" is not their best work. |
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Aren't Daddy Doms delicious? |
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I love waking up with an ocean view... what a gorgeous way to start your day.. or decade as it were. Yay!! |
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The sun just set on 49... Welcome 50!!!! |
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I love our community and all aspects of it. I can not however Domme anyone. I am a sub and no matter how headstrong I might seem, that is not dominance. It's the need for a Dominant in my life, and just part of who I am. Please understand... I will not, and can not Domme you. |
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Ventura Pride rocked! It is a great community, and so so supportive of alternative lifestyle. If you live in this area, come join our BDSM community and share laughs and break bread with kindred spirits. |
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Local D/s communities can be amazing.... Ours is!!! OMG I got to try sword & knife play last night. So great! If you want to try.. don't let another day go by. |
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The sweetest sound is your employer calling you back to work after a lay off. YAY!!!! |
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Hey guys... I'm seeing a lot of pics of older actors posted as the person on here. Really? I think that is despicable... Unless you look like Cary Grant.. then we will work it out. (wink) |
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Heck.. I'd complain if you tied me up with new rope! |
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I tried cupping last night!! VERY cool.. I thought it was all easy and fun till they started coming off! lol I have a cool design on my back. The flogging afterwards was a bit spicy. I feel so relaxed today. Talk about stress relief. |
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Knife demo tonight... Mmmmmm scary! It makes me tingle... |
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Armand Assante as Friedrich Nietzsche... simply brilliant.
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Happy Solstice Everyone! Keep track of your dreams tonight, they are the harbinger of things to come. |
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Last night was the first munch for Santa Barbara Social.. It was great!! If you are in that area... the people are warm and welcoming and sexy... all good. |
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I had the opportunity to meet Venus DeMila yesterday and she is a gorgeous powerful woman. I was so impressed. She is a slave personally and owns a production company for BDSM photography. She is an activist for our community and has a weekly show. If this interests you in any way.. VenusdeMila.com Don't take my word for it... even if you just want to see a hot woman in bondage scenes. I am a fan... |
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D/s can be like a man and his horse... Some men want a horse that is easy to train. That takes direction well, and is solid and you can count on it. If something happens, you know it will be standing right there when you need it. That to them, is a good horse. Some men.. Like the training.. like a little more spirit. They smile when the filly is at her worst stomping and snorting and making a fuss, knowing that when she does as she is told and submits.. it's gonna be SOME ride. I want that man. |
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I'm feeling naughty today... |
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One of the wonderful things about our lifestyle is that i believe everyone would be happy to see us each involved in our own yin/yang of our own perversions. I love our groupe d'amour. |
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I found myself giving someone advice on being more optimistic and realized I had allowed myself to forget how lucky we are to be looking for the "needle in a haystack" somewhere with the right kind of hay!! Of course it takes talking to lots of people to find the right one... but imagine.. starting from scratch? Here we already know they have some interest in the lifestyle, and we can narrow down the geographical area... What a huge benefit! Good luck everyone! |
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Strong subs are for Strong Masters. |
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The Romans had the right idea... Hot baths... intellectual pursuits... I'm missing something... weren't there orgies? (smiles) |
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BDSM Demo in Ventura was amazing... tens units for everyone! |
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My new hot tub is amazing! I'm so relaxed... Want to get hot and wet with me? |
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Mmmm an evening with my daughter and granddaughter. Eyebrows.. pedicures and Chinese food.. (not for the baby lol) They are gorgeous!!! Good Medicine. |
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I'm cold. I'm tired. I'm disillusioned. I'm tired of cleaning up other people's messes. I'm tired of being the grown up. I need a good Daddy Dom, to step in.. take control and tuck me into bed. |
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Happy Mother's Day!!! Big kisses to all our hot Moms! |
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Whatever decisions we make, we are solely responsible for the consequences. Maslowe's Hierarchy of needs says we can't care about others until our own basic needs are met. Do you know what you need? Do you see it late at night in the dark when you touch yourself? I do. |
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If we tell people that we are looking for a D/s relationship and they say they are as well, why then, does it become "that shit you are into" when they realize it isn't "Dungeons and Dragons" with sex. This isn't.. "Hey Scrabble? Or that spanky thing tonight?" THEN Which part of .."I'm a Pagan... " weeks ago, illicits today: "Hey.. that is freaking me out... that witchy/warlock creepy secret powers thing.." This isn't fucking Bewitched.. do I LOOK like Paul Lynde? You have a PhD!! Do they just give those to anyone? Finally after 20 minutes of "You are insulting me, why don't you stop talking. Find a sweet girl somewhere.. it's not me.. " He says: "I don't think we work well together." You think?? No Shit!! Thank you for reading this D/s PSA |
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Happy Beltane!! If you have a chance to dance naked around the Beltane Fires... By all means do so. (Raising my glass to all!) A Maypole will work just as well. (smiles) |
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Lewis Black and The Root of All Evil. I love him. |
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Dog Thoughts: A roll of paper towels.. what fun! Chewing.. and tearing.. and spreading the tiny pieces... (Mommy Yelling) Oh Sh&%! I'm so sorry Mommy for... (What am I sorry for?) The paper towels! Yes.. I should have known better.. No.. I don't know what possessed me.. (They are swept back into a pile) Look!! bouncing in a pile of paper towel confetti!! (Looking at Mommy... ) Too Soon? |
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Greatest Feeling ever.... "... (Groggy) I wonder why the alarm hasn't gone off? Hmmm I have to pee... I wonder if I have time to pee.. and get back to sleep before the alarm.... I still have to pee.. Better check the alarm... OMG it's SATURDAY! Yay! (Leaping out of bed!) |
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Today I took my gorgeous dog Calie (Caledonia) to the beach for the first time. I'm not sure it was her first time, as she came into my life recently, but it was "our" first time. What fun! She romped and played and laid on the wet sand to cool her belly. Every day is special. |
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I wish Sir Henry Haggis a good journey and raise my glass for one last time. Slainte. |
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There comes a time when we taste sour
To learn to savor the taste of sweet
Humiliation is when there is this hour
When the taste of both within us meet
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My love affair with the Violet Wand continues... I was fortunate at the party to have a friend cuff me naked to a St Andrews Cross, (Ok I was wearing panties... but they were tiny!) and use various attachments on me connected to his VW. It was AMAZING... simply a sensation cornucopia. My favorite was possibly the simplest.. His fingertips running through my hair on my scalp... omg. Viva Le Baton Violet |
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Bluebeard by Catherine Breillat ... If you like French Films wow. |
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Play Party tonight... I love our BDSM Community! What a terrific group. WCPX is my family. |
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I love my new dog!! I am so lucky she rescued me. |
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"So take me as I am, This may mean you'll have to be a stronger man" |
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Joan Osborne - These Arms of Mine And she remixed "The Weight" I love modern chick blues. Good stuff... KT Tunstall.. "Black Horse and the Cherry Tree" It's that kind of day. |
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Ok, so i'm on my way home on PCH.. I'm on the side of a mountain, and there is a flock of pelicans.. right next to my car.... awesome... so I see this painter... with paintings leaning against his car and I pull over. He has these great,, Van Gogh/Wyland-esque pieces... so I buy two paintings.. for what I have in my wallet ($200) and 15 British pounds. Then he customizes the paintings for me, adding in some things I want... amazing!!! The greatest things happen to me. The Universe loves me. |
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Safe and warm on a stormy night, with good friends, and lots of laughter. Life is a good place to be. |
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Ahhh to be a dewy eyed girl, gazing lovingly at a Hermann Hesse-esque philosopher, and lover...
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Congratulations Packers! Well played, and hard won. I loved the Coke commercial with the dragons! |
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I hope everyone enjoyed Imbolc yesterday. Yes.. Feb 2nd is more than just a day for Groundhogs. Although the Spring topic is accurate. Happy Halfway between Winter Solstice and the Vernal Equinox! (We Pagans need to work on our catch phrases) |
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Well Played Green Bay... congrats Raji!! You are going to the Superbowl! Now Go Steelers! |
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If you love things Celtic, please see The Secret of Kells. The art, the story and the symbolism are stunning. |
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There is a reason people don't like the dentist. I thought the young handsome dentist would be fun.. but alas.. It just made me miss the middle aged average looking dentist that knew what to do. A life lesson? |
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Yay football.. :) Go Bears! |
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Ok.. Qi Dao exercises were meant to be done with Cat Stevens, America and the Mamas and the Papas... Yeah! The "Almost 50" work out! lol |
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The New Moon is a good time for New Beginnings, and this is the first New Moon of the New Year, of the New Decade, and was welcomed with a solar eclipse. I wish my lifestyle friends health, wealth and happiness. Love you, Mordayne |
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Drizzle, drazzle, druzzle, drome; time for zis one to come home..... Thanks Mr. Wizard
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I believe in a lot of things.... Santa Clause, The Easter bunny, Bigfoot, "We are not alone," All the characters from Lord of the Rings, I want to teach at Hogwarts, however, A monogamous Dom with a large penis? Can it be true? This might test credulity ladies and gentlemen. I have heard it rumored that they exist... Richard Attenborough did a special once, but had to cancel it when the Dom in question sent his sub out to find a "sister-sub" and bring her home to Daddy... So shall I dare believe it's true? |
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In London for New Years, was in Scotland for 10 days before this ... I'm having a magic time. I wish you all, young and old, Dom/me and sub, A Happy and Healthy New Year,
Love, mordayne |
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The swans of Oban have mythological fame.... as it is said... when the fates are on earth, they appear as swans. The past, present, and future... and as all things, they change and grow. There are more swans now... offspring of the old. Tip your glasses in honor of the three fates.. let them not trim our threads too soon. Slainte! |
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Here is my theory... swans are the Old Guard Dominants: graceful and strict,.. ensuring order and protocols. Not afraid to use a little force to keep order. Seagulls are the needy submissive.. pushy and no manners, what about me... how can I get your attention. The rare puffin is the highly sought after 40 something BBW sub. Quiet and chunky.. soft and warm.. calm and courteous. Sexy and sensual. Seals are the hedonistic Dom's... we will do things my way, and have fun.. and ill enjoy you till I see something even more interesting. Now Otters... they are the prize. Intelligent fun loving... confident, good with their hands.. just being around them makes you want to please them. Those are the dominants to have. Im a puffin... if you are an Otter... please contact me. |
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I enjoyed "The Milkbitch Trilogy" it was fun reading porn on my kindle. Frances Gaines Bennett includes some excellent BDSM erotica. |
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After harrowing travel adventures, I am here in Scotland. My biggest concern now is that the seals and swans outside my window are a little loud at night. Mmmmm I wish you all Happy Holidays and good health. Slainte'! |
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I want to date Liz Lemon.. AND Selma Hayek.. a sick twisted threesome, with food. *apologies to Tina Fey |
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Dear prospective Dominants. I'm a simple girl.. a teacher. My picture is up and I tell a little about myself. I can understand if you prefer to email the pics, rather than post them here. However, if you are so super top secret that you can't ever share your picture, you are too impressive for me. If you want to stay online for a while to see how things work, I'm not your girl. If you want to have a long term phone relationship, no thanks. I'm not a 976 number. Please.. Protect your secret identity and your life that can't ever find out that you want to spank a girl's ass. Goodness knows that ranks up there with smoking cigarettes and watching television. Do not contact me if I need a decoder ring to figure you out. I have no desire to be Lois Lane. I like to keep it simple. Please have an education, a job, and have picked a side in this little lifestyle we have. "Deep" is great, "intense" has it's place... I enjoy it on occasion, but in general, laughter and happiness is what I'm looking for. I'm too old to feel angst about every little thing. Be a leader, be in charge, be a fairly responsible human being. Pretty please with sugar on top? |
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21 Days to Bonnie Scotland!! Bodysearches and weather be welcomed... |
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Happy Thanksgiving Everyone! As you truss the turkey and beat the potatoes... Think of us :) |
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It's the holidays, and people are often lost and alone this time of year. I have found that this community is one of the safest, and most intimate places to be and take refuge. For those of you in need, I hope you find solace, for those of you with emotional means to reach out, I extol your virtues, and for those of you who have come to my aid in recent times of need and fear, I thank you... I appreciate you... and I hope one day to return the favor. |
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Veteran's Day: Too many of my friends and loved ones that are Veterans are working today! I send you my love, respect and gratitude for serving and protecting our country. Americans can be a forgetful lot, but we know you are out there, and we know we are safer for your courage. Thank you. |
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I have an idea... If you are dyed in the wool crazy... full frontal nuts... Please contact me ASAP. I have no doubt that if you are one spoon short of a setting I will find you, and attempt a long term relationship, but i'm hoping we can move through the process more quickly. So.. If people tend to shy away from you on the street... Your relationships are often featured on afternoon television, or if you are only here for a short time because your home planet is sending a ride, please contact me for a "forever" relationship. You must be the One! |
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Now things are starting to shape up! I found D/s stories for my Kindle. "The Milk Bitch Trilogy" was only 8.00 instead of 21 on Kindle. (smiles) Goooo Amazon.Com! I signed up for some pony groups... All is well with the world. |
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Loss of a parent is a difficult experience, even when we are older. Suddenly, the things you remember are.. etched in time., No longer just a vague thought in your head, but the history of that person. I wish my Dad the afterlife he expected. |
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I became a Grandmother this week. I can't think of a thing that decribes it, life is so amazing. On this Samhain weekend, I wish you all new beginnings, true loves and cherished memories. |
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Today I am 49.? What a wonderful time it's been.? So I was SURE that I was entering "crone" status.? (Maiden, Mother, Crone.. the three facets of a woman's life)? I went out with 12 AMAZING women, and was informed in no uncertain terms, I am NOT a crone.? lol? I have not earned my way into that special club as of yet.? I love you guys... ?
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Powerful combination: The Gutenburg Project and my new Kindle, I may never sleep again!? Amazing!
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"Sometimes I think six impossible things before breakfast. "? Number six:? I will find my One. ??
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Happy Autumn!? For you Pagans out there,? I wish you a happy Mabon, and urge you to celebrate your inner child.? I went to the beach and played with my toes in the sand. ?
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Ok.. GREAT DAY!? I have been a little depressed for a while.? I'm not in a relationship... I have been out of touch with some close friends... sad. ? So, to ward off the dark feelings I have been looking forward to my trip to Scotland in December.? Last time I went, November '09, I came home to two fabulous days at the LAX Hilton filled with room service, great sex and more laughter than I could imagine.? What a terrific way to get over jet lag??? When I got home I had to go to work and got back in the swing of life.?
Today, I decided to pull out my suitcase and as I think of things I want to take on my trip, I will put them in the suitcase.? I thought, this might cheer me up.? So I go and pull out the case and open it.? Inside.. It smells like a Scotland vacation....? I found postcards I never sent, books I had almost bought another copy of, forgetting I already owned it once, and a gift, given to me by Laird MacKenzie, a book of his family history, and with a lovely note written in the front cover.? After the tears... I called a close friend and laughed with him about it.? I am sooo pleased!!? Now, not only am I so happy with my life, and aware of how lucky I am, but have a renewed excitement about my upcoming trip. ??
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If I may indulge myself once more in singing the praises of my local Farmer''s market... Today I experienced? A hand made incense burner.. Some great conversation, random acts of kindness... and smiled for the couple of hours I was there.? Tonight, I enjoy the fresh food, the agrarian environment where I live... and that I had interaction with other humans. ?
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If you haven't seen Mary and Max?? You might want to give it a try.? "Her eyes were the color of puddles of mud, and her birthmark the color of poop."?
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Here is my suggestion.? If you are looking for a little light reading?? Move on.? If you want something with no intensity, casual, or "no strings" Keep going.? I am looking for something that is so dark sometimes we both get lost in it.? Intimate till my Master has to pull me out or I would willingly stay in the abyss forever. .. Then he takes us both back. ?
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I love the coastal weather.? I had to put on warm clothes today.? It's the kind of evening where you should be in restraints, and someone's arms. ?
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What a wonderful play party last night.? I am officially no longer a public play "virgin."? I was flogged and beat... soooo fun!
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I would like to thank Grant for his kindness recently.? I think the situation sorted itself out.? **Kiss on the Cheek**?
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My Pandora Station plays, Harry Connick Jr, Frank, Dean Martin, and how charming... Jimmy Durante!? nice...?
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If you are calling me... and you have your phone set to "unknown number"? I don't answer...? To compound that problem... if you don't leave a message...? I don't know who it is.? This is all fine, but then don't be pissy later and say you tried to call me. ?
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Tell me I didn't blow out my knee last night, and I'm not missing Harry Connick Jr. at the Hollywood bowl??? Ok, well, the drugs are interesting. ?
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Is anyone familiar with Oban?? I'm going to be there for 10 days.? It looks gorgeous...
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Ok, the hard part is done!? I have a room for Hogmanay in Edinburgh... And possibly in Avebury for Solstice... Now looking for a place to hang out in between.? This is SO fun!
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Got a great hand made clay pot for baking today.? There is a Brazilian dish with seafoood and fresh herbs that is slow baked in a clay pot.? I can't wait to make it. ?
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I just got my ticket for the holidays in the UK... Solstice in Avebury, Yule in Cardiff and Hogmanay in Edinburgh. ? I'm so excited!!??
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Marley and Me...? I have to suggest, that if you have ever lost a pet, be prepared. ?
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I apologize for the confusion, but the picture of the pretty, pierced pussy isn't me.? I't s just a picture I found erotic.??
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If you say... it's all my fault.. why would the other person take pleasure in telling you how it's all your fault!?!?? Especially when it isn't your fault in the first place.? (laughs)?
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Ok.. so there is this group behind me at the concert hat has had a little too much to drink and is a little too loud.? I was getting annoyed until the loudest guy yells out in a quiet moment, "Stevie!? Play "Love is a battlefield.""? There is quiet for a moment... and then the sounds of his own friends beating the crap out of him. ?
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Stevie Nicks was amazing in concert. I am so happy I went. The Santa Barbara Bowl was gorgeous but was such a steep climb that it reminded me of the movie "Logan's Run" I was hiding my palms the whole way. |
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Yay!? I'm going to the Stevie Nicks Concert on Wednesday at the Santa Barbara Bowl.? How cool is that? ?
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Happy Lammas Everyone..? This is a Pagan Holiday.? It is the first of the waning year festivals, suporting a good harvest.? If we translate this into modern terms, what are you harvesting in your life?? How are the results of your efforts coming along? ? I light a candle for all of you.. May your harvests be bountiful and satisfying. ? (Kiss on both cheeks) ?
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I was arranging some fresh flowers and listening to Richard Thompson... and it came to me ... I adore my life.? Thank you all for being part of it in either a big or small way... ?
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I am home.. from my adventure.? I cleaned my fridge, saw some amazing friends and went to the Farmer's Market today.? Along with my usual love for the community and co-op I found an artist today.. she was yung and stunning and wild... like a forest fairy.? Her work was ephemeral and touched my soul.? I said do you have anything Pagan.... I'm a Druid... She said "I only have these tree goddesses .. I painted four.? One for the oceans.. one for the earth... this one is kind of airy and these two are passionate in red... They remind me of fire and heat." ? They look amazing at my house... Her name is Delphine.? I was grateful to meet Delphine today. ??
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I'll miss you guys today... Enjoy Summerland even without me... (kisses)?
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Think about how resilient the heart is.? How many times can it break... and we still say "More Please?" ?
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When someone says.. "Creative Cock Shots..."? How creative can you be?? Dressing him up in little outfits?? Turning him sideways and giving him a deep voice with a French accent???
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Awwwwwww The Velveteen Rabbit made me cry!
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I am so tired.... but happy and pleased and relaxed.? What a wonderful world we live in.? I'm watching the Velveteen Rabbit. ?
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I was just flogged for the first time.. and it was amazing.? OMG!? I got a suede one to start... And I was begging for more!? I'm SO excited!? I am trying lots of new sexy things.? (well new to me.. )? Yay!? what a fun lifestyle.
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What do you say, when you are displaced from your job?? When you have to drive 113 miles each way?? I'ts a 4 hour a day commute and $40 a day in gas?? They don't have a place for you and the weather is hot like Hades is rumored to be? ?? I say, I'm happy to have a job.? I'm just happy to have a job. ?
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Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.
Carl Jung
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Happy 4Th of July everyone :)? I hope you are all sore and a little achy and maybe a bruise or two.? Oh!? That has nothing to do with 4Th of July :) ? Let's be safe out there!
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"Not in this life but, like all of us of the old ways, you must believe
that this is not the only life where we could have met. There's
something between ourselves already. You felt the power of it and that's
why you left the hall. Am I right, lady? If I am, could you rightfully
resist it?"? (Uther meets Igraine in The Mists of Avalon)
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I attended a play party with WCPX tonight, our local BDSM group.? I had an amazing time.? First of all, I'm so proud to be friends with all of you.? You are so fun!? The food was great, the flea market was amazing and the play after.. Was .. well.. Steamy and sensual to watch!? I am now addicted to the Violet wand.. that Rocked and I only got a taste. ?
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Still looking for the Golden Ticket, but tonight,. I will enjoy a group of like minded people.. sharing food, debauchery and swimming in the nude. ? As I look at all the happy couples i will be reminded why the search is worthwhile. ?
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The Farmer's Market:? Regular people, doing regular things.? How very extraordinary. ?
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I was supposed to be on a plane today to Heathrow.? I had to cancel, but my heart is on its way to Cardiff. ? Don't forget the Solstice is coming all...??
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I just made halibut salad, with chopped, blanched basil, and that thick brown bread.. toasted.? Oh my goodness.. the Farmer's Market has changed my life. ?
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Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
Carl Jung
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Today I held my eleven year old Bullmastiff in my arms while they put him to sleep.? My heart is truly broken. ? I miss him so much already. ?
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The Dark Moon signals the end of old cycles, patterns, and heartbreak, while the New Moon allows us to introduce new loves and new beginnings.? It's time. ?
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The Dark Moon signals the end of old cycles, patterns, and heartbreak, while the New Moon allows us to introduce new loves and new beginnings.? It's time. ?
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Ok, here is a business idea for some creative person...? Did you ever get struck dumb when you were trying to cum?? Ok, it's mid-afternoon, you are masturbating.. it's hot and wet and steamy, but you can't quite get to the punchline..?? I need a number for that.. "Hi, I was fantasizing about... X and I need a big finish please?"? Ok maybe just a genome web page...
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I just made fresh spinach with shallots and a little bacon fat, black
beans, hot bread? and ice cold water.? Oh!? Fresh strawberries for dessert...What a great dinner!? I'm still in love with the
Farmer's market.?
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Ok.. Transporter III is on.. and in this movie is possibly THE hottest chick ever.? Natalya Rudakova.? OMG people...? When she pees in this movie... i would pay good money to ... well..? OMG people.? I'm not even a fan of redheads...? But.. I want to kiss every freckle. ?
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OMG Fresh cilantro hummus and fresh baked bread with strawberries that taste like heaven. ? Lunch anyone? ?
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Today I had promised myself I would go to the Farmer's Market.? I have a friend here who goes and I thought that is the person I want to be.? Soo.. today I threw on some jeans.. braided my hair, grabbed my canvas bags and went adventuring on a misty day at the harbor.? As I walked up a girl says Hello Marlene!? I know her from my hair salon and we talked.. I felt good, like I belonged here.?? It was gorgeous, there was a guy playing guitar.. old 70s tunes that reminded me of how much I always wanted to be a hippie, and people shopping and selling, laughing and tasting, all of their senses engaged.? Our Farmer's market is at the harbor.. so the background couldn't be more beautiful and there was a fresh fish market too on the dock.? I felt Steinbeck smiling at me, like this is how life is supposed to be.? People were holding hands, and smiling faces were helping me choose better vegetables from the tables, as we all laughed.? As I made my way back to the car, with all my bags and bundles a man slipped a flower behind my ear and smiled.? I don't think I've ever felt more a part of my community than today. ? ?
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What a great, relaxing day!? I feel balanced and relaxed..? and I have a big smile on my face.? All is well with the world. ?
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The Big Bang Theory was about D/s tonight :)? Funny stuff! ?
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My Respects to all the military men who have given their lives for their country and to their families who had to go on without them. ? Thank you. ?
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I just finished my 4th graduate class since January.? (yay!)? I'm taking a month off... Woo Hoo! June is gonna rock :) ?
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Tell me someone is spending this long weekend in the throes of passion and unquantifiable submission, sex and humiliation?? No seriously... tell me..? ?
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Mythical creatures please take a number.? Those with special... "Skills" see the hobbit. ?
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My Grandmother told me once... Don't react out of love, don't react out of hate, Just clear your mind, and act from the heart.? It will be true to you.? I miss her. ?
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What a FUN day!? Nothing beats acting silly with friends and laughing all day, eating good food and drinking good beer. Then the evening ends and everyone says I love you to everyone else.. this has to be what life is all about. ?
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We are not human beings trying to be spiritual, we are spiritual beings trying to be human.? Teilhard de Chardin
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Come on Gentlemen really? My last post was not a challenge!!? lol? Oh, and I might be convinced to participate in Hobbit sex.? It's been broached.?
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If you are a Dom you CAN be a friend.. But it means no sex, no play, no naked.? No Naked cams, no phone sex, no cyber sex, no telepathic sex, no Borg mentality sex, no sex.? No troll sex, no hobbit sex, no Gorean sex.? No third person girl talk, no house keeping, no costumes, no high heels, no 50's underthings.? No pictures of me peeing, painting my toenails or smearing food on me anywhere of any kind.? Still Up for it? ?
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