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New here and I'll add some kind of picture soon.
I've gradually over the last 10 years or so discovered how into BDSM I am. It started innocuously back in college, with a partner asking to be spanked. Somewhere around the time I shattered a hairbrush on her ass, I realized, okay, something seems to be awakening in me here. From there I moved on, with her and other partners, onto increasingly heavier stuff like paddles, restraints, clamps, gags, blindfolds, etc., and I learned how amazing it feels to consensually inflict pain and control on a willing partner. The intensity, the endurance, the trust, all of it, produces a high that no drug can.
Some of my bigger turnons include: tit slapping and clamps, ass hooks/plugs, throat fucking, very hard spanking/paddling, fisting, ropes, pussy slapping, and clearly communicated desires and boundaries.
Feminism and anti-patriarchy are core components of my ethical worldview and I think a lot about how to navigate BDSM in a way that doesn't undermine my beliefs. Even though intellectually I completely believe that temporary consensual surrender of control can absolutely be empowering and positive for both parties, it can still be kind of a dissonant head trip. As such, I'm really not into "1950s" scenarios or relationships that involve full-time dominance. If that full-on slavery stuff works for you, hey, all the best, but what I want is someone to destroy and/or humiliate in the bedroom and then be friends and equals with a normal relationship outside of it.
I don't have massive amounts of experience; I'm not an amateur either. If you're looking for some dude with a fully equipped dungeon who's had a million subs, that's not me. What I am is a guy who's had a handful of long-term submissive partners, is really fucking into it, owns some of the basic stuff, and is looking for subs who are at a similar level (or maybe even just beginning to explore). I am also creative, confident, and determined to enact memorable and mind-blowing scenarios.
Lastly, even though I identify as a dom on here, I think I might secretly be a low-key switch. Lately I've been imagining how it would feel to just completely succumb control to a sexy lady. I haven't had a chance to actually try it, but the idea of just totally letting go is... intriguing. This is definitely a much lesser aspect of my sexuality, but if you're a girl who wants to be dominated most of the time but maybe try doing the dominating once in a while... we should probably talk :)
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