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Male Switch, 22

Female Switch, 41, Tucson, Arizona

Male Dominant, 56, Labelle, Florida

I question everything. It's just a part of who I am I guess. But working for The Jerk, I am starting to question things I don't think I've ever questioned before. For example, do I even want a man in my life? I don't want someone in my life who feels like he's is "sugar coating" everything or "kissing my ass" every time he is considerate and kind. Maybe I should consider trying a relationship with a woman, if men are really so hard and insensitive. I'm not sexually attracted to women. Maybe I could find a special girlfriend who just wanted to have cuddle dates and watch movies together. lol Just doesn't sound that appealing.

"I just don't think I can ever get past your weight issues." This really should have been my first clue.  I don't let myself cry over men often, but I cried over this. We had talked for a couple of weeks online and through texts, and he was so much of what I wanted. We had scheduled meets, but he kept having things come up. This was his reason why. We had met on adult friend finder, so I knew he wasn't looking for a 'typical' relationship. He said up front he just wanted a friend with benefits. He said he was just coming out of a long relationship and didn't think he ever wanted a serious relationship again. Somehow we still ended up meeting. There was definite chemistry on both sides. The sex was great. He was vanilla but kinky. We chatted through texts daily, texts he initiated as often as I did. I could deal with this. We were just having sex, but we were friends. He didn't have time for more between his business and his children and I was okay with that. Deep down I hoped more would eventually develop when he was ready. When I told him I'd just been to my first munch he was intrigued. He had started talking about wanting a sub or a slave within a week or two after I mentioned the munch. In another week or so he was talking about wanting both. He couldn't understand why I didn't relish the thought of serving him and letting him use me unconditionally, then having him go out and date as he pleased, eventually having him leave me and go to his 'real' girlfriend. If I were really submissive, I would be satisfied with pleasing him, and I would give up my needs for the emotional connection of a real relationship of any kind. Of course, he would never acknowledge me openly. He couldn't let his children meet the woman he used in the ways he wanted to use me. One afternoon, he made the time to come to me and we spent an hour or so fucking. He left almost immediately afterward. Later that day or the next, he told me he had been on a date. He had went to her straight from my house. I was crushed. He had been so adamant about not being ready to date or for an emotional connection yet. That was around three years ago.  The girl he went out with that night is now his live-in girlfriend. Notice I say girlfriend and not sub or slave. He calls her his sub, but if she is it is only sexually. He does all the cooking as well as what house work is not taken care of by their housekeeper who comes by once a week. Am I a stalker, that I know all this? No, but I must be crazy. I work for him now. It's an interesting dynamic, but when we decided to try this we agreed that it would have to be professional with no physical complications. It has been almost therapeutic in a lot of ways.

Female Dominant, 32, Los Angeles, California

Male Submissive, 19, winston-salem, North Carolina

Male Dominant, 28, Helena, Montana

Male Submissive, 23, Brighton

Male Submissive, 32, Grand Rapids, Michigan

Male Dominant, 45, Centreville, Virginia

Female Switch, 26, Miami, Florida

Female Submissive, 44, Hudson Valley, New York

Male Submissive, 41, billings, Montana

Female Dominant, 49

Male Submissive, 41, billings, Montana

Male Switch, 41, Ontario