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Male Dominant, 56, Mill Valley, California
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About MindOFaBoy
Collared -
Thanks for stopping by. I'm unavailable as of Aug 21st. |
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Another milestone to celebrate!
Over the weekend, I applied for and was accepted into the training of a Master.
Because I've been learning from four mentors, this action made it necessary to make some changes.
These are real men, with real feelings. All four believed in me enough to invest their time into my development. It was not easy to tell three of these men that I'm no longer an available submissive. Each one of 'em is a winner. Any one of them might've been The One.
And even though it stings to say goodbye to those relationships, it's worth it. It's the cost for being free to focus on Master, to allow His influence to become greater, and to feel closer to Him. |
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Today, I stand on new ground.
The phase of being a beginner ends today. Today, I am a student/protégé.
I'm fortunate to be in contact with excellent mentors... a few guys who are guiding, coaching, and leading me.
This evolution is important. Without it, I'm merely a pretender - a wannabe.
I hope you'll cheer and support this progression. It's worth celebrating!
It doesn't matter whether You're a Dom who's been able to guide a boy to this place, or whether you're a submissive who's made this same realization... you know the importance of this day for me.
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It's about time I told a bit about my past and my level of experience - which isn't much.
Don't get me wrong - I've been to a few dungeon parties. That's not what's new in my life.
I've always been a 'caregiver'. That's not new either. It genuinely makes me feel good to help someone and/or make them happy. I naturally seek out opportunities to give pleasure.
The thing that's new is a realization.
It's unnecessary to 'compartmentalize' my life - letting my submissive side out just during a play party and then hiding it again until the next time. Holding back like that is unnecessary since I naturally get pleasure as a caregiver.
It's the "caregiver" aspect inside me that makes the difference. If a rule requires me to give a massage - I'd do it. And I'd do it well. But I get much more pleasure from doing it without being asked.
It's an eye-opening realization. And it causes me to understand why a fantastic dungeon experience sometimes causes 'day-after' regret. I think I've started searching for something more satisfying than a few hours of role-play.
And my Dad is going to get just as much satisfaction from saying GOOD BOY as I get from hearing it.
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It's been a week! Now that I've been a member of 'CollarMe' for one week, it's time to update my profile - removing notations that say I'm a new member.
The mini-vacation I took was restful - just what was needed. There was one unexpected surprise: The night sky on Saturday was so clear it was possible to see 3 of Jupiter's moons.
Astronomy isn't a hobby. It probably never will be. But a mind that's curious will never complain about being bored. A mind that's curious is open to amazement.
So point the way, Dad. Which way to your star? |
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I've looked forward to today. It's the start of a mini-vacation for me.
Three or four times a year, I have the pleasure of driving to Northern Minnesota and spending time with good friends. It's a beautiful area!
- Sometimes a bunch of us rent cabins in the wilderness area. Leave your cell at home. A compass, a knife and some toilet paper are a lot more practical out here.
- Sometimes we stay in the city. We hike the boardwalk along Lake Superior, starting in downtown Duluth, going North 5 miles to the place where the boardwalk ends.
It doesn't matter what we do... cigars, shooting, a bonfire, dancing, maybe an art exhibit at the Tweed... the bond of friendship makes it all good.
And even though these guys don't have an interest in dominance/submission like I do, I'm confident that when I introduce them to Dad, he's going to be welcome.
Word reaches me that the snow has almost finished melting up there.
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I admit it - I've been searching profiles here on CollarMe.com. I'm a newbie! It's what newbies do; learning how they stack up.
The initial anxiety I felt about publicly declaring I am a submissive is beginning to fade. I'm grateful to all who've contacted me. I was ignorant and unaware that what I am is valuable. Even untrained and unowned, you've encouraged me to follow.
Those of you who have called this a second 'coming out'... you're right. That's exactly how it feels.
As I've browsed profiles here, I've learned three things.
1) When there's a mismatch of goals, people get frustrated/angry. Example: Dom's goal is a 24/7 live-in slave but they encounter subs with a goal of no-strings encounters. This teaches me I need to communicate my goals clearly.
2) Some Doms describe what they do to their sub. Other Doms describe a meaningful purpose for their sub. This teaches me I'm a sucker for 'meaningful purpose' and I need to be more aware of possible conflicts for lifestyle and for expectations.
3) Beware of Scams - Do I need to say more?
One last note: Shouts to Ogie in the Philippines!
I added Ogie as a 'friend' on my CollarMe profile today - a first. I knew him before joining CollarMe. A shared interest in hypnosis is what originally brought us together (over the 'net). It continues to amaze me how small & tight-knit the subculture is for M4M recreational Hypnosis. Got WebCam? |
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It seems funny that I'm a submissive gay guy with a interest in Breast Play, doesn't it?
I guess the system admins here on www.CollarMe.com don't realize there are guys who enjoy nipple stimulation (Nip Bottom / Nip Top).
I've recorded a hypnosis mp3 on the topic. It's for guys who want to enjoy nipple play on a deeper level. My favorite clients are Doms/Dads/Tops whose nips are hard-wired to their cocks. Interested in giving a listen? |
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