milehighslv on Collarspace

9/2/2012 3:44:55 PM

First of all, I am a slave and looking to be owned. Some men read "slave" and expect a piece of property that will have no rights, no privileges, no limits, no say in how it is used or who uses it - and I suppose that ideally, there are aspects of that get me hard. But the reality is that I do have an idea of what it is that I am looking for and what kind of a Master I hope to serve. In my mind, three things go into having a slave: First, Control. The slave is yours and needs to meet your needs which means you need to be able to control its whereabouts. If you want dinner made and your slave is off with friends - well, it is clear that that won't work. Maybe your needs require a slave to be home at any given moment or maybe you expect your slave to be working and providing a certain amount to financial benefit - whatever the case may be, you need to be able to have complete control over where your slave is at any moment based on your needs. Second - Permanence. A slave that knows it will be free again after a determined length of time or that has the power to end its own slavery can also then choose to not obey a Master when its interest is gone. Being told to do something a slave doesn't want to do could just mean the slave starts looking for a less demanding Master or hedges until the moment comes when it is free. But a permanent slave has no reason to hedge or look elsewhere - the slave has no way of altering its relationship with his Master. Furthermore, the Master has to be able to establish that permanence - whether through physical bondage or limiting access to funds or transportation or whatever. And third, Obedience. Obviously a slave exists to serve a Master and the Master has to be able to ensure, whether through control, punishment, or whatever that the slave will obey and submit to the Master's will. I like the idea of a slave being naked or having certain comforts and luxuries, even just using furniture, be withheld so as to ensure a slave doesn't ever lose sight of his place vis a vis the Master. I am not saying those are necessary components of the relationship I seek... but they do get me hard thinking about them. :) The subject of limits always comes up... I think limits exist when it is just play. When a slave will be playing for a few days or weeks, than limits are needed to establish what that slave will do or not do. Kind of like renting a car or leasing an apartment - limits must be set that ensure that car or apartment will be returned at the end of the lease in a certain condition. But when the relationship is permanent, there seems to be no need for limits. The slave cannot expect to one day be free again, so how can it limit what a Master can or can't do with his slave? Of course, there things like fisting, for example, that I don't want to have any part of... but I think it is up to me to find a Master whose interests seem more or less to be in line with what I think I can do and or accept, and then to trust him and also to accept that once he owns me, he has unlimited control. That said, there are five things that are non-negotiable for me: Family - I have a good relationship with them and I cannot accept a situation that will cut me off from them. You as a Master can monitor and in some ways even limit (like move us far away, making in-person visits less frequent) that contact, but I have to be able to maintain a relationship with them. Legal - I simply won't do anything illegal nor want to be around illegal activities. Health - I expect not to be exposed to anything that puts my health and well-being at stake. Long-term security - I accept that as a slave, you may expect to control financial decisions or even limit my access to any kind of material goods, but should the day come when you decide you don't want a slave anymore, my long-term financial security must be no worse off than had I never been collared to begin with. That is to say, I won't accept being collared, relieved of all material and financial goods, and then released naked into the world again.. Transferability - Finally, I know a slave is property that you should be able to give away, sell or otherwise trade to any other Master without my being able to have any input, but finding a Master is a mixture of accepting his control, submitting my own will and desires to his, but also one of trust - and if he can just trade me off to someone else without my being able to build that trust... it just won't work. >I try to keep an open mind and will respectfully talk to and answer anyone who expresses interest. That said, my preference tends towards men who are basically fit or thin, not too much older than me and generally men who, to the outside world, could be seen as a boyfriend even if he is a completely controlling Master to me.