In recent years I've spend consideral time speaking to women (of all ages) who identify as'Littles (young girls usually between 4 and 12 years) or babygirls (younger than 3) or a pet (mostly kittens).

From the conversations I've had, the things I have learned from these women and my own studies, it's become apparent that most of these women have something in common.

Let me first explain that women who identify as little, babygirls or pets arn't twisted freaks who are into sex wih underage children or beastiality, in fact often, when they are in this 'space' there is often no sex involved at all. As for the men (or other women) who might be called daddy, mummy, master, ma'am or sir and are their 'caretakers', they arnt neccesarilly either, they simply enjoy the nurturing, care or petting perhaps, that goes with their role.

Those who are into purely the sex without the emotional connection, I would be extremely cautious of.

It seems that most women who identify as a little a babygirl or pet have at some stage in their childhood experienced trauma. Trauma may include violence or assualt (sexual or non- sexual), neglect, abuse, abandonment or a dysfunctonal family or environment.

It's most likely that if she identifies as a pet she is (for a while) able to escape who she thinks she is and be someone completely different. Kittens particularly have permission to play, they are cared for and petted, they can sit on your lap and gently held and they arnt hurt or a recipient of anger, a kitten is loved and feels wanted.

The same can be said for a little, she gets to colour and play, maybe watch her favourite
movies, she is loved and nurtured, cared for, perhaps groomed and allowed to dress up and feel pretty. She feels safe within defined boundaries and knows that Mummy and/or Daddy loves and guides her.

For a babygirl, the need for care is much more important, she relies on Mummy and/or Daddy to provide all of her care and love her unconditionally She adores the attention, she cant exist or feel safe and secure without it and it makes her feel wanted and adored.

Often women who fit in to these roles have low self esteem, though it may not always be
obvious. They can carry out parenting roles very effectively themselves or have a career that requires inner strength and power. Sometimes however, they like to slip into these places in which they feel comfortable, loved and secure, a place they can be their happy selves.

Treat them well, dont ever take advantage of them while they are in their 'space', it is where they go to in order to feel safe and can be happy, in a lot of cases, it's the only place they can.

After several months in hospital and rehab I am pleased to be back online and look forward to knowing you.

The saying "This is going to hurt me more than it will hurt you" is rarely true

You can wear your corset, stockings and heels put your hair up and make-up on and look absolutely divine but the moment you look a me willingly with your heart in your hand asking me while you offer me all of you - that's when I cannot resist you.

Substance is sexy

Dear sub

I do not know yet whether or not I deserve you,  do not know yet that I can fulfill you enough to help you be the best sub you can be.

I can promise however to nurture you as both a sub and a woman and help you be the best you can be and help you reach your full potential.

You are and will always be the most important and the most valuable person in my life, I need you to help me be the best I can be and help me achieve MY full potential as a man and as a Dom.

Together we will help you emerge from the safety of your cocoon, a place you feel safe and have you emerge a beautiful butterfly, colourful, admired, awakened and free to serve.

We will do that by working together, achieving goals and learning through respect and training, we will do that by taking chances and sharing wonderful, special times together.

I do not know yet whether or not I deserve you.

Sir

Some Dom's will probably disagree with me, I may even receive some hate mail for this, but it's ok I have broad shoulders and can handle it - lol

Dear Sub,

You have self worth and you have value, you are worthy and  you are deserving.

No matter the dynamic, a Master is not a master without a slave, a Dom is not a Dom without a  sub, A daddy is not a daddy without child.  

Never allow your Dom to degrade you to a point you feel you worthless.

Remember, before you found the sub in you, you were a woman and every woman deserves to be treated with respect.

Mike