“Growth in wisdom may be exactly measured by decrease in bitterness

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-Nietzsche

Touché, I received my first critical but well-composed and solidly founded email...  It was clear about the persons dislikes with intelligent rhetoric to back it up and they allowed me to respond.  Thank you.  That is all I ask.

I find it disgusting that so many people here have never heard of a little thing called courtesy. There are so many people in the world that think people in this lifestyle are sick, perverted and twisted; so we come together to lend one another support and yet there are still a few out there that insist on being discourteous , judgmental and abusive. 

(Yes I believe hurling an insult at some one and running away is not only abusive but cowardice as well.) Have you never heard of manners? Everyone is more than entitled to their own opinion but there is no need to remark on anything that you do not have the ability or courage to back up.

Imagine, if you will; sitting in your pajamas, enjoying a warm cup of coco,  reading delightful and intelligent emails from old and new friends, enjoying your morning and basking in happiness  … and then … opening an email that insults you, your intelligence and your physical appearance; when you try to respond to understand this persons anger you find they hit and ran (sent the email and blocked you). I felt like Kathy Bates in Fried Green Tomatoes when the rude obnoxious boy knocked her down and just hurled insults when she asked why he did not acknowledge his rudeness. 

I hate that this site forces me to be a whiner. I am not the type of person that normally does this and it goes against every fiber of my being but I have specifically asked people like that not to email me. 

These types of responses keep me from writing what I really want to share in my journal. Why would I put myself out there if I know I am going to be overwhelmed by abusive emails?

For all of you who have been so patient and thoughtful, thank you.  For the rest of you who have made what I thought would be the greatest experience of my life a horror show ... well ... you fill in the blanks. 

If you are of the type that thinks just because I am submissive that I am the type that will fall to your will the moment you show interest please bypass my profile.  If you are the type to think I am so foolish as to meet a perfect stranger off the internet please bypass my profile... and if you are the type that feels righteous in calling me a name because I politely decline an offer that I feel is not time appropriate PLEASE BYPASS MY PROFILE.

I am here to find friends, advisors and perhaps a relationship.  I am not here to have cyber-sex, flirt with married men or call total strangers.  I can do all of those things in a much safer environment if I chose to do so.  I am not here because I am lonely; I have a wonderful, fulfilling life.  I am an intelligent, well-off, stable and sane woman who has no problem finding dates. I am here trying to fill a portion of my life that I have had to deny for a great number of years and I refuse to let the juvenile, sex-deficient deviants who can only insult women to feel better about themselves ruin it for me.

I work very hard at being polite and answering every email I get.  There is no need to write me if you are not capable of the same.