Caring, honest, understanding, Living but strict DOM with strong leadership skills looking for a 24/7 LTR.

My D/S vision

The Dominant

The Dom’s chief job is to love the sub.

A perfect Dom would be self-disciplined, selfless, trustworthy, sensitive, strong, attentive, fun, caring, consistent, empathetic, compassionate, intelligent, confident, fearless, assertive, well-educated, and secure in my career. It is the Dom’s duty to use everything he knows about the sub to bring out the best in her. The Dom should have emotional intelligence and maturity. He is a father figure guiding, disciplining, and providing structure to the sub in a loving way.

He should be able to train the sub using rewards and punishments to make her all she is able to be. The Dom is a leader who protects his sub and keeps her safe and in the best possible physical and emotional health while she is in the process of becoming all she is able to become by diminishing her attachment to her ego.

It is helpful to think of the D/s relationship as like dancing. The Dom’s focus should be on how his sub is feeling and not how he is feeling. A Dom cares for his sub and always has her best interest at heart. The Dominant is a leader, doer, and someone who provides for another. The Dom should try to do what is best for the sub, and make her feel safe and cared for.

The Submissive

A sub is a person who voluntarily wants to serve her Dom usually sexually and domestically. Since her service is voluntary, she may end it and leave at any time. Her submission is based on consent, which she freely gives because she wants to be loved. Ultimately, the sub, not the Dom is in control of the relationship. Being submissive is NOT being passive

It is the sub’s duty to communicate with her Dom. The more intelligent, self-aware, articulate, and honest she is, the more effective the communications. The more she understands her real needs and desires, and communicates them to her Dom, the more effectively and skillfully the Dom may be able to love her. She needs to communicate her limits clearly.

It is the sub’s duty to communicate all hard and soft limits to her Dom and it is his duty to respect them, even if he occasionally stretches her soft limits. It is the sub’s duty to learn the difference between sensation and sensitivity and to free herself from craving more sensation.

She wants and needs to let go of all useless thoughts. She needs awareness of the present moment, which is the only moment when life is lived.

Thoughts for both

• The relationship between the Dom and the sub is, for should be based on love.

• Being a good sub and a good Dom are learning experiences and the learning never stops.

• Essentially, the Dom’s task is to guide and protect his sub and to enable her to become more herself.

• While some sensation is good, more sensation is not better. More and more sensation correlates to less and less sensitivity, whereas less and less sensation correlates to more sensitivity.

• If sex is made into a means for something else, it becomes less satisfying. It quickly moves into lovers merely using each other, often mechanically, to achieve orgasm. Instead, if it has no end beyond itself, it opens up the fullness of the present moment beyond thought into genuine interconnectedness or unity.

• Expect a lot. Give a lot in return

• Be the best version of yourself

• To love is to act for the benefit of the beloved.

• Being loved skillfully is for the good of the beloved.

• Loving is giving, not taking.

• Pain and pleasure are intensified by occurring together, the end is orgasm.

• A bad day for the ego is a good day for the soul.

• The Dominant commands the submissive, the submissive serves the Dominant, and both serve the relationship.

96% Voyeur

96% Dominant

93% Rigger

82% Exhibitionist

77% Master/Mistress

76% Daddy/Mommy

70% Brat tamer

64% Owner

51% Vanilla

51% Primal (Hunter)

42% Sadist

41% Experimentalist

33% Non-monogamist

21% Ageplayer

21% Degrader

3% Rope bunny

2% Masochist

2% Submissive

2% Switch

1% Primal (Prey)

1% Brat

1% Girl/Boy

1% Pet

0% Degradee