Metalismytherapy

Male Dominant, 65, medford, Oregon

Male Submissive, 21, Virginia Beach, Virginia

Male Dominant, 18, Alburtis, Pennsylvania

**READ ME** So I've been asked countless times since I've been a member here "What exactly are you looking for?" So instead of replying to each and every message that asks this (because most do at some point or another) I'm going to write out a Journal Entry pertaining to exactly what it is I'm here seeking. So I know this is going to piss a lot of people off, But I'll be honest. I don't know what in the hell it is I'm looking for exactly. I was married to my best friend and cuck/slave for a long time, I lost my husband to some rather tragic circumstances about 10-12 years ago. It's taken me a very long time to move on and I'm still not entirely sure I'm ready to, But I feel like it's what he would of wanted and I'm slowly dipping my toes back into finding somebody new for me.  I would prefer to find somebody who has similar interests, both in and out of kink and the bedroom and the vanilla world. I'm not saying we have to like the same exact things, but having somebody who I share some common ground and interests/hobbies with, both vanilla and kink, would be nice.  I've written a fair bit about my vanilla self in my "about me" section of my profile. It's not perfect, There's quite a bit that could still be added, but it's a work in progress.. This post is to primarily explain what it is I'm looking for in a partner as far as kink and BDSM.  I don't want to rush into things... I want somebody who I can start out as being friends with the hopes that it grows into something more "permanent" for lack of a better term. Hopefully if you're writing me you've taken a look at my full profile, interests in the vanilla and kink included. If you have then a lot of this shouldn't come as a shock to anybody..  I work very long hours. I love what I do and I wouldn't have things any other way. Typically I work three 12 hour graveyard shifts, Doing what, I won't disclose publicly.. That's not the point.. Working three 12 hour graveyards as you can imagine, Leaves me pretty beat when I get home and puts me in the "I don't feel like doing anything" kind of mood, as I'm sure most people can understand that same feeling.. That's where my partner/sub/slave comes in...  Your "Vanilla" responsibility in our relationship would fall greatly on focusing on helping me keep the house in order. , So the house would be your responsibility during the day. If you're living with me, I would expect you to help me do the cooking, the cleaning, and other typical "housework" like helping me keep up on the laundry. I am NOT looking to take care of somebody.. I have a son, I raised him on my own during the toughest years of childhood and parenting, and I survived it and have gray hair sprouted throughout my head to prove it. I love him dearly, but I'm not looking to raise another child or take care of a man-child. You are required to pull your own weight and contribute to the household. When I say contribute to the household, I'm not only referring to the stuff that has to be done to keep a nice house, but financially. Let me be clear on this... I am NOT a "FinDomme" I do not offer my services as a Domme in exchange for payment, gifts, or donation. I DON'T require lavish and expensive gifts, Although everybody deserves to be spoiled from time to time, I would prefer you didn't, as that's just who I am. I don't like having a bunch of money spent on me. But to focus more on the point.. You are expected to pull your own financial weight.. Whether that be accomplished by us sitting down, discussing, and agreeing upon a set bill(s) you'd like to pay, Or... How I would much rather work it, If you were to become a permanent staple in my life and it became a live in situation... You would just contribute to the monthly bills. We will sit and discuss what I typically spend on food, electric, internet, and other daily/monthly costs of living and you would pay whatever the extra cost is to each of the bills by adding a 3rd person to the household.  If you've viewed my interests you can see that I'm heavily into ass worship, face sitting, queening, and smothering. This would be something that would be multiple times a day and you need to be okay with the fact that, hey. It's an ass, it doesn't always smell like roses... Am I going to use your mouth as my restroom? No, not unless that's your thing, in which case if it is, I'd be happy to accommodate that, But if you're worried that I'm going to do my business and then come to you as my toilet paper, I won't, unless again, that turns out to be your thing, then I'll be happy to let you be a personal toilet/ass cleaner for me during restroom use. I know that's a bit extreme, but hey... Different strokes for different folks. However what I DO REQUIRE is for you to not be intimidated by an ass. It's an ass, Asses aren't always clean and they don't always smell good. I want, No.. NEED a slave who has no problem with me coming home from a long night on shift or even a double shift, kicking my boots off, taking my pants and underwear off, and sitting my possibly (most likely) sweaty ass on their face for a nice relaxing ass eating session before I even bother considering a shower. You need to be okay with the fact that you're going to be REQUIRED to eat my ass MULTIPLE times a day. You would also have to be open minded to the fact that I would require the same with my feet. After a long night, I want to come in, kick my boots off, whip my socks off, and enjoy a good foot massage, toe sucking, and foot licking. If you're someone who needs their Dommes bodily parts to be squeaky clean and fresh smelling in order to serve her, Please move along, we probably won't work out. I would also like to note that you need to be okay with women who have full on 60's / 70's style bushes. I have had terrible reactions anytime I've shaved no matter how fresh the razor is or how careful I am. I'm too sensitive to shaving and waxing down there, so I don't do it. I trim it back with scissors as needed. I know for some reason pubic hair has become socially unacceptable and if you tell somebody you've got a bush or don't shave they are personally offended, Well with me, It's not worth the discomfort and skin break outs for me to even bother with it. So you need to be okay with and love your lady with a full on bush, because I've got a thick one. I trim it back with scissors as necessary and I keep myself clean, but at the end of the day, it's a pussy.. I take good care of my feminine hygiene but I've always been rather strong scented. At the end of the day, it looks like a pussy and it smells like a pussy, and it tastes like a pussy.  If you're intimidated by a hairy pussy with a natural musk to it, don't waste your time or mine. All potential slaves, whether male or female, need to be familiar with chastity as I require both men and women to be in chastity devices and they need to be able to  tolerate being in them for awhile as I keep my slaves in chastity weeks, and sometimes even months at a time only being let out once a month (if that) for proper cleaning of the device. All potential slaves must have the ability of self control. If I can't trust you outside of a chastity device and the first thing you're going to do is touch yourself, that'll be the last time you're out of that device for a very very long time, so you better really think and make sure it's worth it before you touch yourself without permission.  Until you show me that you can be trusted, I inspect my Slave every morning when I get home from work and every night before I go to work to make sure that their chastity devices haven't been tampered with in anyway and that they haven't tried to get out of them or touch themselves without my permission, When I come home from work I expect my slave to be kneeling at the door waiting to welcome me home.  As I explained earlier, I work graveyard shift so a lot of the slack during the day would fall on you (laundry, cleaning, dishes, etc) and I would expect those chores to be finished or in the process of being finished upon my arrival home. If you half ass what's expected of you, YOU WILL REDO IT.  If this for whatever reason doesn't answer or isn't a satisfactory answer for "What are you looking for?" and you have further questions, send me a message.

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