A potential asked about SEX and affection:

If we meet and I click with you and the feeling leads me that way, then perhaps I will have sex with you in the traditional sense at that time. I don't promise "sex access" to my body, that idea makes me uncomfortable. I am super comfortable with playing sexual games, such as tease, denial, some chastity, or hurting you some while you masturbate. Even hypnosis suggestions about an invisible cock cage or that you can't orgasm without permission. But to actually promise anyone that eventually they get to stick their penis in my vagina no matter what is a no.

Regarding affection, I pet, pat, grab, and verbally remark on jobs well done. My version of aftercare is feeding a boy by hand or letting them rest their head on my thigh while they drink water.

So, I will not be distances and only touch you with harshness.

The rest is left up to what happens and feels comfortable. But if PiV sex is your goal and your need, then you are correct in that we are not a match.

Your Focus
A potential asked if I really had space in my life for a "pet" and when thinking about it, I realized that I need a very specific kind of person, far more specific than even the two exceptional boys i have. I'd have to say any third's main focus would HAVE to be the home.

I tend to be focused on plans. I rarely tend to be still enough for anyone to worship me because I'm too busy making sure "all the things" get done to really have the time to lingeringly enjoy what I have; two amazing loving submissive men.

If "all the things" were already done, I could finally slow down and stop ordering people to clean, cook, build, rake, and instead, rub my feet. Otherwise, if I pick up another sweet subby man I like I already have, as lovely as that would be, I'd still be directing people in their little free time with me to do "all the things: and never get to the kinky scenes part.

If you want to maintain a full blown career outside the home, then we are not a match.

I need a very specific kind of person, far more specific than even the two exceptional boys I have. Any third's main focus would HAVE to be the home.

I tend to be focused on plans. I rarely tend to be still enough for anyone to worship me because I'm too busy making sure "all the things" get done to really have the time to lingeringly enjoy what I have.

If "all the things" were already done, I could finally slow down and stop ordering people to clean, cook, build, rake, and instead, rub my feet. Otherwise, if I pick up another sweet subby man I like I already have, as lovely as that would be, I'd still be directing people in their little free time with me to do "all the things: and never get to the kinky scenes part.

If you want to maintain a full blown career outside the home, then we are not a match.

My plan and methods for adding a third are as follows:

Connect with someone. Get to know them over two weeks. Offer them terms of consideration. Consideration Period lasts two months, and in this time, the potential must physically visit for two weeks. The potential has to pay his own travel, but I host and lodge him. During this two weeks, he will immediately start doing what it is we've been speaking of. He will interact with my current two boys. Their opinion matters, but I always have final say.

Since the purpose of the third is to "keep house" as it were, I will be assigning tasks every morning. I will have a schedule. This schedule will allow for some free time 2x a week to either work on a part time job you want to keep that does not take your focus elsewhere, or a hobby that is enjoyable to you, or even, if you prefer to be caged, to simply be caged and rest.

I and my two subs have school and work schedules, but the third will mostly conform around MY schedule so that my needs are met, so that my current two subs can give their focus elsewhere for their studies. And when I want to play, my house will be clean, and I can just play. hoorah.

My household dines for dinner together, no exceptions. We usually go to the movies together, go to events together, go out to eat together. 

I pair off for scenes, sex, and batheing.

A violet wand is like static electricity on steroids, but nothing close to a stun gun by any means. It tends to glow violet.

TENS unit can be used for muscle work but it can be uncomfortable over long periods.

The short version of my hard limits:

1. Tribute*
2. Online financial Domination.
3. Being your sugar mama
4.  Nude Photos
5. Cyber Sex
6. Sexting
7. Female Supremacy*
8. Age Play
9. Diapers
10. Nursing
11. Forced Bi
12. Forced Gangbangs
13. small penis humiliation
14. feminization as humiliation
15. Needles
16. Catheters
17. Toilet service
18. Intentional bleeding of any sort
19. Kids
20. Animals
21. Nonconsensual Consent
22. Breath play
23. cum eating
24. cuckolding
25. Cheating on your relationships

*Means if you're more curious, ask

The Long Version.

Online Financial domination:
I've done it, once. I felt like a sex line operator trying to keep him on the line. I didn't like it. Nor do I like the position of power it accidentally put him in, as he started expecting things and my morality concerning "customer service" caused me to feel like I had to. I want expectations to be clear,rather than all the wishy washy requests and general disrespect.

That said, I am curious about Real Time clear cut d/s flavored sugar baby scenario s

Flip side of the above:
I love to spoil my boy(s), once they're established as mine. I'm open about my income so anyone interested knows I'm not a free loader and have established the basic form of adult responsibility. I find it entirely inappropriate for anyone to ask to borrow money if I don't have easy access to breaking your knees when I don't get it back. The thing is, I don't lend out money unless I absolutely know I can live without it- with the expectation that it would be nice if you paid me back. I did make a FOOD care package for a boy the was under consideration, but food is entirely different from cash. Putting you under consideration means nothing but that I'm dedicating time to getting to know you and eking out whether we're a match.. Not that I trust or love you or wouldn't mind lending you cash. That comes later, after actually meeting in person. Experience with your personality. You know. Reality.

Reciprocation concerning nude photos: 
I have been blackmailed with nude photos before. Not in the "Oh this will be so humiliating to all your facebook friends" kind of way. But the "You won't get the job you've been looking for for 18 months because I'm showing this to your possibly future boss," kind of way. You either see my curvy sexy body in person, or not at all. The end.

Cyber and phone sex:
Cyber just doesn't do it for me. I can't even read erotica, more often then not. The words so rarely do it, when I've had it in person for so long. Don't bother to offer; I won't be remotely tempted. When I do write erotica, I skip over the intercourse part near entirely. Scenarios of power exchange are much more erotic than any described juices flowing. I actually have enjoyed phone sex. I really like sounds. Only with people I've gotten to know. Example: Someone I've spoken in depth with for a month and then I OFFER. Don't ask for it or you'll get blocked. ew.

Sex text:
Similar to cyber sex, unless it's used to tease my boy. But I know him. And I'll get to come home and tease/use him in person a few hours later. Not interested in strangers, it bores me just as much as cyber sex does.

Adult Baby
I have not one maternal bone in my body towards those in diapers or who are just freshly out of them and I don't want to watch an adult pee/poop on anything, drink from a bottle, or talk in baby speak.

Believed female supremacy:
Mostly, I just don't feel it. I would break into giggles at myself the first time I even portrayed it for fun. I can't take it seriously, but respect those who feel that way about the female sex. I don't think less of them for it.

Forced bisexuality:
True non consent is not safe in a legal way, and I'm not willing to risk it. "forced bisexuality" sounds too much like "rape" to me. Although you may air a wish to be forced, I have to know that that is actually a "wish." AKA, "I want this and this to happen. I'm letting you know I would enjoy that." As long as consent is involved, I can get into it. However, I have a heavy preference to watch boys wholike boys playing with boys. So, forced isn't really my preference, and I don't seek it for that reason.

Toilet Play/scat/urine/catheter play:
I was a nurse aide for 4 years, and I remain in the health field even now. I've seen all sizes, shapes, amounts, and smells. It's not sexy. It's not clean. I'm not doing it.

Blood/needles/cutting/living corset
I hate seeing needles go into my own skin. I don't avoid it, but I only submit to a needle when I have to. I've never found blood pretty, nor does it have a very nice smell or taste. I associate cutting with people who have emotional problems, even though logically I understand masochists just have different receptors. I won't do it to you and if you're with me, I'm not interested in watching or encouraging the action.

Kids:
Although I've joked with my boy that I get the benefit of legally enjoying his "boy" looks, kids are kids. And today, kids are even less mature, despite the amount of sex on tv. Then there is the legal risk. Not interested.

Beastiality:
I just think it's wrong. I have strong vegan like values, and I don't think an animal is capable of consent. Not much need to elaborate on that.

Breath Play/true non consent:
Dangerous. Not doing it. On the latter, it's dangerous in a legal way.

Married Cheaters:
I got married in 2013, despite not actually believing in marriage as it is most often portrayed. I don't need a piece of paper that allows the government to be further invasive about my relationships. I do think of marriage as an interesting right of passage, like actually going to the Graduation Ceremony of Highschool. Would you have graduated anyway even if you hadn't gone? Yeah. I would want to know how your poly relationship worked and, if we dated more than 5 seconds, a little un organized chat, because I'm a curious person and it would make me feel more comfortable and trusting regarding both of you consenting to my relationship with you, the married person.

M.E.