I thank you all for the messages, and for checking in. I know I've not been around.

I am fighting a recently diagnosed illness, so that is where my focus has been.

I hope everyone's new year has gotten off to a great start. Thank you again for the concern. It is truly appreciated.

Saying that you 'specialize in financial domination' is basically the same as saying you're an expert pimp. It doesn't take a special skill or talent to take someone's money. It just takes greed, and a likely unearned and undeserved feeling of self-entitlement.

For very personal reasons, I will be away this weekend starting Saturday morning. I may or may not check in on My phone for messages, but even at that it will not be often. I will return sometime Sunday evening but may not check messages until Monday as Sunday is going to be a particularly difficult day for Me. I expect courtesy and patience and will not accept anything less. Anything rude or impatient will be deleted and the individual immediately blocked. I will not be lenient on this.

This is the last time I am going to say this..  I expect patience from those who send Me messages. I grow tired of getting messages from submissives who only wrote Me five or ten minutes earlier, apologizing and attempting guilt trips just because I did not respond right away. I reply on My time, not yours. Just because I may not reply immediately does not mean I am not going to at all. If you keep writing Me over and over again, trying to "nudge" Me to write back, however, that is a pretty good way to ensure that you will likely not hear from Me, and if you do, it won't be as pleasant as it would have been had you just been patient. From now on, I am just going to start deleting these messages.

The difference between a Pro-Domme and a fin-domme --

Pro-Dommes earn respect without immediately demanding it.

fin-dommes immediately demand respect without earning it.

The "trend" where so-called "Pro-dommes" are concerned is becoming more and more blatantly obvious.

 The true Pro-Dommes are the older ones who demand payment for services rendered. If/when they scene with a sub or a slave, payment of some kind is required. In the vanilla world, that would be called working.

The younger ones -- the teenagers and early 20s on the other hand are always the ones demanding "tribute"... gifts and money just for the sake of gifts and money. Being "beautiful" (or at least self-proclaimed as such) does not make you worthy of anything, and demanding money and gifts from a total stranger just so that they can speak to you does not make you a Domme -- it makes you greedy and fake. The fact that 95% of the so-called "pro-dommes" on this site who demand money and gifts right off the bat are between the ages of 18-23 is suggestive of nothing more than a bratty child who does not want to have to go out into the real world and make their own money and buy their own things, so they play under the guise of being a Domme to get other people to do it, instead. It's taking advantage of the eagerness and sincerity of a submissive for personal gain. The true Pro-Dommes are the ones who have been in the lifestyle for a while. Yes, I realize that there are also those older ones who demand it just to demand it and I have seen younger ones who demand it as payment for a scene, but I also can't help but wonder how a 19 year old could possibly have "years of experience" as a Dominant. You barely have years of experience at life let alone with the depth, responsibility, and understanding that being a Dominant requires.

Yes, I know there are those out there who *want* to give tribute, and if your thing is giving your money away to some kid right off the bat, more power to you. Seriously, though. 19 years old and demanding "tribute"? Try going out and getting a job first, or in the very least scene with a submissive before requiring money and gifts. I hate to break it to you girls, but being you is not a valid and worthy enough reason to be paid and showered with gifts.. no matter what you think. Why not take some lessons from a *true* Pro-Domme; one who grasps the concept of payment given for services provided? That's what tribute is supposed to be for.

The decision to go to the doctor's was a good one..  so says the ear infection and the walking Pneumonia. Joy.

Still feeling like death warmed over.

Soothing myself with chicken soup, My favorite blanket, and a play list of songs I love to sing (that is when I'm not hacking up a lung), with my top 2 favorite ballads right at the top.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ODDtLMiGnY

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBcMKwbMEcQ

This damnable medication had better start working already. This Domme rather enjoys being able to breathe freely.

Just because you *have* a dick doesn't mean you have to BE one.

Keeping the people of Louisiana, Alabama, and Mississippi in my thoughts as Isaac's wrath slams through. If you live in one of the places being battered by this storm, stay safe and I wish you and your loved ones well. I hope that you are spared from his nasty and furious temper.

In other news.. ugh. Still feel like walking death. What I would give for a nice, hot, soothing bowl of chicken soup...

Feeling like creeping death. I do believe the flu has struck. Goodnight, kids.

                                                                                                                                       The woman behind the Domme
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
    

1) There are few things I detest more than being told I "can't" do something.

2) Music is my Xanax. Lyric-writing is my therapy. Singing is my passion, my release, and my Utopia. My voice has been likened to Amy Lee's (Evanescence).

3) I want to be able to write like Adele.

4) I am a twin, and he is my best friend in the world. I would be lost and incomplete without him.

5) Who I am is not always beautiful. It doesn't have to be.

6) I am A Wiccan/Pagan. I find tremendous peace in that path.

7) I don't eat meat. I haven't in 20 years. I still remember the night that happened.

8) I could have gone to Julliard when I was 9. I still dream of what that would have been like.

9) My greatest dreams since childhood have been and still are to write/record my first album, and write my first best selling novel. I am determined to make at least one of those dreams a reality.

10) In my world, there is nothing more crucial and more fragile than trust. Earn mine, and there is no part of my heart you won't be let into. Break it, and you will never get close again.

11) I am an unabashed 80s music lover.

12) For me, chocolate's greatest form is the brownie. It's my Kryptonite.

13) I have a journal full of incomplete song lyrics. One day, that journal will become my self-proclamation, my self-tribute, and my greatest anthem.

14) I adore the ocean and anything water. If I could survive there, I'd have vanished into the ocean a long time ago.

15) I try to be a healer. Sometimes, I just forget that I need to be able to heal myself, too.

16) I want to be a wife and mother.

17) These started coming to me in a dark room, at 6am on Christmas eve. I'm quite sure there's more to come.

18) My relationship with most of my family is splintered. My relationship with myself is considerably stronger.

19) My totem animal is the snake -- ever changing and shedding its skin for the stronger, healthier, and more colorful.

20) I have my own website devoted to the cause of domestic violence, for victims and survivors. If you want to see it, ask.

First and foremost, I will be attempting to return messages over the next couple of days. I have a lot going on right now, so I will do so as I can and have the time.

Moving forward.. last evening I came across a profile, and upon reading further I wasn't sure whether to shake my head, raise a brow, or just laugh. I am sure I will get plenty of "feedback" on this, and quite frankly I am not all that concerned about who might disagree or why. The profile belonged to a "Domme" who was chastising male submissives for paying tribute to pro-dommes, insisting that they are the reason that this site is the way it is. Now, I do not agree with the whole "tribute" concept. I think it's ridiculous that a person should be expected to give a total stranger money and/or gifts just so they can carry on a conversation with them. There is a difference between a Pro-Domme who charges for scene play, and a 'pro-domme' who demands money and gifts just for the sake of demanding money and gifts. One is called business. The other is called greed. Being a Domme/Dom does not *entitle* a person to anything. The desire to serve is -earned-, proven deserved through trust, time, and consistency. I also think it is ridiculous to lay the entire responsibility ("blame") for the tribute trend on the submissive. Without the Domme/Dom demanding it to begin with, the submissive would likely not be making any sort of "tribute". That's like blaming a pregnant rape victim for getting pregnant instead of blaming the rapist. Without the rapist, there would be no pregnancy. Without the Domme/Dom demanding said tribute, the sub wouldn't be or feel required to provide it just for the supposed 'privilege' of conversation. Point the finger at the source, not the target. Are submissives responsible for whether or not they provide money and gifts to a total stranger? Absolutely. Does that relinquish responsibility from the Domme/Dom for demanding it to begin with? Absolutely not. Let's be honest and realistic here, hm? It takes two. Without the Domme/Dom, there is nowhere for the aforementioned "tributes" to go. If you're going to attempt to take responsibility for the life and actions of someone else, you should first at least be able to take responsibility for your own behavior and the role it plays in the actions of those others. Do what you're going to do, but at least be adult enough to own up to your part in it when things aren't what you think they should be.

Going away for the weekend. I'll be checking messages sporadically, and I will return on Monday afternoon.

If you message Me telling Me you hope I will consider being your "dominate", I'm going to direct you to a dictionary. I can't be a verb. Oh, and there *is* a difference between "your" and "you're". It's staggering to Me how many so-called adults don't know what that difference is. *You're* wrong and need to brush up on -your- spelling and grammar rules. See how easy that is?

For those who tend to write Me longer letters, your patience is going to be required more so than usual. I was in a car accident last evening, and sustained a slight concussion and a shoulder injury. I can type, but doing so for consistently long periods aggravates the pain. There are a few of you who write me long letters many times throughout the day -- please refrain from that for the time being and keep it to one long message. The shorter back and forth ones are easier to manage as they tend to give me a few minutes respite between. Those messages that question why I've not written back yet or otherwise try to press for a faster response will be disregarded and deleted.

Your patience and understanding are appreciated.

Hey.. idiot "dom" who just made a sad attempt at insulting Me --  the word "woman"? It doesn't have a y in it, and it doesn't make you look cool to spell it with one. It makes you look like a 15 year old ignoramus who is trying like hell to recapture his lost youth, even though he's probably far closer to Viagra. Try acting your age instead of your shoe size. In the mean time, try investing some of your so-called money in a razor. You look like Sasquatch.

Have a delightful day, and thanks for the laugh.

Just because I will reply to every intelligent, well-thought out message that consists of more than just "hey, how are you?" does -not- mean I will reply to every intelligent, well-thought out message right away. Messaging Me a half a dozen times, saying that you hope you did not bore Me, or otherwise trying to get My attention will not get you responded to any faster -- quite the contrary, actually.

I respond on My time, and that is just the way it is. If you cannot handle that, do not write Me. Pretty simple, hm? (And no, this is not directed at anyone in particular, so let's not inundate My inbox with "I'm sorry, mistress! I hope that wasn't aimed at me!").

If you view Me, I likely will view you back just out of curiosity (the first time, at least. I'm not going to view the same profile every day simply because they view mine that often). It doesn't mean anything more than that. Hey, by the way -- if you DO feel compelled to view My profile more than once, why not actually write while you're at it? You're clearly interested in *something*.

 The true Dominant does not simply demand devotion and capture the body..

       The true Dominant earns devotion and captures the mind before the body has even realized it.

Sometimes, the most unlikely and unexpected connections come from the most random messages ;).

Yes, it takes someone of incredible intelligence and wit to throw insults at total strangers on an internet personals forum. I have certainly seen some.. interesting, not to mention amusing and pretty pathetic attempts to insult me - all loaded with blatant misuses of words, misspellings, poor grammar, and just a general blaring lack of any intellect. That of course is capped off by the blatant cowardice demonstrated by the fact that these mental and intellectual midgets don't even have the balls to keep their accounts open long enough to receive a response.

People, please. For the love of the gods, grow up. Hurling insults at strangers over the internet does not make you tough and clever; it makes you pathetic, attention starved, and desperate. Rest assured though that no matter what it makes you, it makes Me amused and similarly disinterested. Your messages are as easy to delete as your existence is to disregard... and I do both.

Have a delightful day.

I am going to clear up confusion regarding a question I am being asked over and over again:

No, I did not attend nor have I ever attended MIT. I know that My user name is their motto, but it had nothing to do with My decision to use it. I chose it for its English from Latin translation of "mind and hand". I felt it appropriate given the lifestyle I engage in. I am a college student. Just not a student of that particular school.

I am also going to clarify that if you are from another country, chances are I am not going to respond to you. Aside from the one I am speaking to from Australia, whom I've seemed to have sparked a connection with (unexpectedly!) and that thus far has had little to do with D/s, I am really not interested in relationships with such a vast amount of distance. I have done the long distance relationship before -- they do not work, and I want and need more.

Further, while I certainly have no problem responding to messages from men older than mid 40s, and I am absolutely not opposed to friendships with them, I have no interest in a relationship going any further than that. I am in My early 30s, so the absolute oldest I might be willing to go is 48 when considering a potential intimate relationship (there would have to be an amazing chemistry!), but I prefer no older than 45-46. It is just My preference.

If you feel the need to write Me just to sling attempts at insults at Me, be aware that not only will I not respond to your effort to waste My time, I won't even read it. I have far better things to do than engage fragile little egos in their efforts to inflate themselves. If you cannot come up with anything better or more meaningful to do than insult random strangers on an internet personals forum, you are not someone I have any desire to even acknowledge the existence of, let alone feed the insecurities of. I suggest professional help -- and lots of it.

Happy hunting, kids.

Just a thought out loud here:

                                                                                                                                        Saying you want a "female Domme" or a "male Dom" is like using the phrase "cash money". It's redundant (not to be confused with oxymorons like "government intelligence"). A Domme is a female dominant and a Dom is a male dominant (yes, I get the whole transgendered thing. Let's not split hairs, here).

Oh, and by the way -- no, I will not submit to you... but I very well might laugh at you and tell you to jump off a bridge. For those misogynists who believe that *all* women are submissive? It's not the 1950s anymore. Get your head out of your rear-end and come back out to where the light is. It's easier to see that way. Before anyone floods my inbox with defiance and argument - I have the utmost respect for those who still gravitate towards the 1950s style of life -- provided it's mutual -- but approaching a total stranger with "you'll submit to me, slut" is not only discourteous and ego maniacal, but it also makes you look like a pushy ignoramus (are those words too big for you? I'll try to speak in single syllables from now on, so you don't get confused). No, I am not submissive and no, you will not change that.. no matter what your overly-inflated ego might be telling you. I have nothing but respect for true dominants who are here to seek, teach, train, and guide, but any man who believes that a woman should submit simply because she is a woman does not deserve to have a woman -- any woman. Submission is a precious gift and should be nurtured from those with the natural tendency towards it. Approaching another dominant and demanding submission just provides humorous fodder for the person on the receiving end, not to mention reduces or completely eliminates any credibility you may have started out with. I personally merely laugh, possibly thank the source for the entertainment, and move on my merry way.

                                                                                                                                      Once again, I reiterate -- attempting to open a conversation with me with "hey how are you?" is likely to get you ignored. If I want that kind of mindless drivel, I will get an AOL account. If you're trying to get my attention, that is not the way to do it.

                                                                                                                                           I have made a few great connections here (and reestablished a connection with someone I have always enjoyed talking to -- you know who you are, dear one ;)) and I have enjoyed some in depth and meaningful conversations. I hope to see it continuing in that direction, as this is the most pleasant experience I've had on this site thus far (and I have been on it quite a bit over the past year or so).

If you are a submissive or a slave and you wish to address me, do *not* call me "Mistress". "Master" and "Mistress" are titles that should be reserved for after ownership is established. While I appreciate the respect, Ma'am, M'Lady, or even Goddess will do.

Please, for the love of the gods, if you're going to send me a message have something more to say than just "hey, how r u?". Firstly, if you can't be bothered with proper spelling I probably won't be interested in speaking with you. Secondly, that is the kind of simple and essentially meaningless dribble that winds up leading to prolonged silences when the conversation runs dry. While I appreciate being asked how I am, I appreciate it a far more if there is something more to the effort than just that. We are not fifteen year old crushes nervously text messaging one another for the first time. I personally am attracted to intelligence, which in forums such as this is reflected in the messages sent back and forth. Effort made is obvious -- as is lack of effort. If you are hoping to engage in any kind of meaningful conversation with me, put a bit more effort into your initial greeting, otherwise I am going to lose interest -very- quickly.

Oh and just as a side note: If you message me and I do not respond right away, if you're truly interested in speaking with me, messaging me over and over and over again following the initial message is *not* the way to get my attention. Quite the contrary. It will aggravate me, likely to the point where I ignore you completely. Just because I receive a message at 6:30 doesn't mean that by 6:32, I'll have responded to it. I respond in my own time, at my own speed, and according to my moods. Sometimes, I just don't feel like being social. If that is the case, I will respond to your message when the mood to strikes me. What that -shouldn't- warrant, however, is messaging me an hour later and asking me if I'm interested, or trying to appeal to my empathy by suggesting that you "must not be what I'm looking for". A person with zero patience who expects immediate gratification? You're absolutely right. You're not what I'm looking for. I have made a handful of friends on this site -- probably not even a handful. Those individuals whom I do willingly and regularly speak to I do so not only because I enjoy the conversations and interaction, but also because I know that they are not going to go obsessive and self-pitying on me if it takes me a day or so to respond.

My time is valuable. If I don't feel the conversation is going to go anywhere, I'm not going to engage in it. Plain and simple.

No, you are not a "dominate".. you're a dominant. Dominate is what you do.

I just felt compelled to specify that, since I've been running across it *a lot*.

I was called an airhead this morning. I find this quite amusing, especially coming from someone who couldn't even be bothered spelling out simple, three letter words. I suppose it was the best insult he could come up with. Clearly, another example of a submissive who does not take what he claims to be looking for seriously. Attacking and berating people online is like coming into a gun fight with a knife. You may get a swipe in on your opponent, but in the end your efforts are going to prove counter-productive and pointless (and leave you looking stupid).

Come on, people. We're all adults here, or at least we're supposed to be. Regardless of differences in preference and opinion, we should all still be able to either hold an intelligent and mature conversation, or go our separate ways without it breaking down into attempted insults, name-calling, and mud-slinging. This is a social media tool, not a political campaign. I have neither the time nor the interest to invest in those who seek to engage in verbal sparring matches with strangers. My time is valuable, so I prefer not to waste it. I do not begrudge anyone their opinions, but I also do not and will not bring myself to a lower level to meet the maturity (or lack thereof) of someone else. I welcome open, honest, intelligent, and mature conversation.

If you want to berate, name-call, and demonstrate closed-mindedness and a decidedly judgmental attitude, join one of the presidential campaigns. Keep it out of my message box, because I will not waste my time.

Clearly, there are some out there who have a problem with reading profiles, or perhaps just reading them all the way through. I am going to clarify something here and now, and only once:

I do NOT accept chat requests on this site. From anyone. Ever. If you send a chat request, expect that it will be declined.