MelindaKitty

About MelindaKitty

Bi but lean towards men & consider myself submissive, sexually into BDSM (with men). Very pretty, busty, amply voluptuous; not at all thin, but many think I'm very sexy. Pics are current, genuine, the real me. Medium-length dark blonde hair, blue eyes, glasses. Dress casual/athletic, sneakers, no makeup or jewelry, etc. Natural, down to earth, very genuine, sincere.
Extremely intelligent, creative. Artist, writer, tech geek. Love art, literature, film, technology, philosophy, conversation, meditation, nature, hiking, camping. Also love to spend my time with fascinating, creative, intelligent, intellectual, unique people. Fairly vanilla in life, albeit bohemian pothead philosophical buddhist prophetic rebel...
Sharp intelligence & creativity make me HOT. Men: super smart, creative, can be a little nerdy but very masculine & dominant. Intelligent, know it & are arrogant, sarcastic, cynical? Always done it for me. Attractive, but - key is of course chemistry! Am looking for genuine connections with real chemistry & true eroticisim. Consider myself submissive, NOT A SLAVE. I am NOT into those who make total lifestyle of BDSM, go to clubs, parties, etc. Not into in going public sporting leather or collar/leash! Sincerely seeking real, down-to-earth men w/ casual appearance, vanilla life, but wild & kinky behind closed doors like me, to draw me out & make me insane w/desire. I have to feel I am so intensely desired that a man just can't help himself & must possess, dominate, play with me. NOT own me - I am very much my own person. I love attention and flattery, not so much humiliation unless its purely RP & no genuine cruelty/hostility involved.
Not into heavy BDSM but want to establish relationships w/chemistry & trust because I love to be: creatively mastered & dominated, pinned down, tied up (shibari, rope over heavy bondage gear), blindfolded (no masks), hair pulled, (very) light chokeholds (no death please), lightly bitten (sometimes harder) all over - am very oral, love kissing, licking, biting; being spanked & lightly slapped (sometimes harder) all over. Can get into whips, crops, flogging but no paddles or canes. No serious pain but the more excited I get rougher I like it. Enjoy being handled roughly, moved around, love the feeling of hands holding my wrists behind back or above head. When I get really turned on I get into light nipple torture - if done right, with the right expert hands (often clamps) can make me see stars. Love my breasts bound, slapped, whipped, flogged, pinched, bitten, sucked, licked, nipples sucked hard, pinched, twisted, clamped (no clothespins, clamps must not be extreme) - love them wet & stinging, pain followed by kisses, caresses. Enjoy concurrent face slapping & caressing. Pinch, clamp, slap my own when masturbating, but doesn't compare to man's strong handling... Really love being handled all over, enjoy my pussy lips pinched, light slapping, would love to try clamps there, never have.
Do like my limits tested with growth of trust, but not too much - am pretty clear what my boundaries are. Do enjoy new experiences with new people, being surprised in fun ways but expect basic sanity. No real cruelty or genuinely twisted sick perversions or fetishes; while open to trying new things I have definite boundaries around certain fetishes & behaviors. NO: needles, cutting, blood, urine/scat, medical anything! No: extreme pain, bondage, masks, gags - at most hand over mouth but absolutely no gagging. No uncomfortable positions for long periods, corner time, any of that. Really don't enjoy crawling w/collar, leash etc. but will do to please if absolutely nec. Prefer proximity to distance, adoration to humiliation. Also, I repeat: I AM NOT INTERESTED IN BEING A SLAVE. Want you to be open, genuine w/me from start - no ulterior motives, please.
I definitely can really enjoy opening up, servicing & surrendering to a man who can do me right - almost ANY way he desires (and I mean almost ANY, aside from expressed limits). It REALLY turns me on to make smart, strong, creatively dominant man who I have serious chemistry with totally lose control & climax in ways he never imagined. I am an excellent lover & am also in tantra. To me, when a truly fascinating, attractive man chooses to master, possess & dominate me, it can be the highest & sincerest form of flattery & I will absolutely RECIPROCATE. As long as there's no real danger or hostility, it's all good. Creativity & new ideas in these areas drive me crazy sexually. I want my partner to be able to think of lots of ideas outside the box. I'm looking for a meeting of the minds - I find it so enjoyable & more intimate to get into someone's mind before I get into their pants. And, the only way to get into my pants is to get into my mind. If you don't understand this implicitly, please don't bother. Biggest turn-off: lack of patience, rushing things & hurry to get laid & get off before even knowing each other or establishing chemistry & trust. Not into 1 night stands, prefer true eroticism where time is taken to build energy between us. I'm worth the investment & the time & deserve to be treated as such. If its all about you getting off, go to a meat market & have Jersey Shore DTF vanilla bumping uglies! Gross!
You can dress me up if you want to, again, not a heels, makeup, etc. person but will in bedroom if that's partner's desire. Do like to wear sexy teddies, etc. Prefer not to be totally naked, prefer breasts to be spilling out of bra or bound as mentioned, etc. Something about being partially clothed at all times does it for me. Plus am shy about my body & feel very uncomfortable totally naked unless alot of trust is there. Definitely open to corsets, etc. as well if you choose to get them & put me in them. Do look beautiful in a corset, my hourglass shape designed for them. Love toys, accoutrements but prefer your collection, or getting for me. Dont have much of a collection myself. Not into those SO into toys, etc. they don't know how to use their bodies (especially hands, cocks!). Prefer flesh & blood to a box of toys. Can make love to those at home. But open to play & do immensely enjoy being 'trussed' up by a man. Can heighten eroticism in the extreme, & creativity in these areas can be a LOT of fun. Open to exploring much w/right partners.
Have dated mostly black & ethnic men, mainly because I enjoy my body to be appreciated & these men tend to love my figure. However, there have been too few intellectual matches & none who totally fit the bill, so yes I am open to other races. Don't have to be physically bigger, taller than me, but helps. As long as you are strong, physically & personality-wise. You also don't have to be super well-endowed but also helps-no tiny tims. Also I am absolutely NOT switchable!!!
W/women, I enjoy very pretty, lipstick bi, feminine, busty, very full figured (like me) dark brunette or black-haired women (raven haired beauty, blue eyes, glasses-HOT)-again-CHEMISTRY. I'd consider putting on show w/girl for 1 or 2 men - 3somes & 4somes are possible but no bigger groups. Again, only be willing to experience if I feel comfortable w/trust. Being w/woman & both being dominated by 1 man does NOT do it for me (like to be star attraction, but can entertain idea of 2 couples for fun party). I also DO NOT wish to be dominated by women, do not like aggressive dom women. Gentle, feminine, sweet does it for me there.
Big fantasy I have is 3some w/2 men, but one would have to be my lover & trusted already. NOT interested in 2men into each other - attention has to be on me.
Want to get to know those who would want to be friends w/anyway & who feel same. Want to get to know then explore possibilities. Would be nice to be in relationship w/man to do all this w/, but am not exactly seeking committed relationship. Genuine, sincere, fun companionship at very least.
Also, ANYONE, no matter pref, who likes me & want to be friends, please contact. Want to surround myself w/smart, creative, interesting, fun people. Do not drink but 420 & occasional party recreational but NO hard drugs.
Ask me anything, love to talk, & love people who are smart, genuine & real. Am good friend to have. I am truly fantastic and know how to enjoy life, hope you do too!
ABSOLUTELY No phone or cyber-sex before meeting. MY 100% RULE IS to skype or vidchat before meeting as well.