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So i was asked what i was looking for in a Master, and i was surprised that i didn't have an answer ready to hand. So here is my fumbling attempt at answering that question. It make take some refining...
Firstly, i suppose i seek someOne who has the time and energy to own a girl. This is one of the reasons why married men are on my list of hard limits, totally aside from the moral qualms. i don't know whether i will end up being a sub or a slave, but i know i am something of an emotionally needy creature, and i crave a Master who is prepared for that and who wants to keep in contact with His girl even when they are apart, set her tasks and reward her for completing them
At the same time, i want a Master who has interests outside of the lifestyle. i crave a Master who i can talk with and discuss the state of the world, whose mind i can admire as well as His force of character. i want a Master who will respect my mind, even as He degrades, uses and abuses me. Is this a paradox?
i want a Master who can enforce His will properly. Harsh but fair i suppose i mean. i am not a deliberately bratty sub, but i think subconsciously everyone tests the boundaries of any given relationship in one way or another, and i want a Master who is able to call me on it if i do that.
This list says nothing about the mechanics of BDSM, and i think that's no coincidence. i think the mechanics, the crops and gags and blindfolds are the icing and not the cake. |
