i am submissive and am well aware of that. Unfortunately i don't submit to just anyone and that is why i am here. i'm looking for that "one" Master that i can give up control to. Of course that comes once i can trust him and he has shown me he is an honest person. To me this is more about the mental awareness of who is in control. i believe the whole relationship is getting into someone's head. For me i have to want to serve my Master in all he desires. There is no switch to turn it on and off as it always has to be on. i want to enjoy the vanilla things as well with this person. i want to be happy and enjoy him when we are together no matter what we may do and want to miss him and think about him when we are apart. i have no interest in a married man, someone that is attached or one night stands. i'd rather be alone than settle for something less. If any of this interests you send an e-mail and we can see if we have common goals and interests. After all you will never know until you take that first step.