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I'm seeking an articulate, intense, cerebral, evolved, poised, confident, highly intelligent and experienced dom between 30 and 45 with good taste and a great imagination, who is psychologically savvy enough to handle this complicated dynamic with finesse and sensitivity. My experience is limited, but I'm definitely looking to learn.
My body follows my brain, and experience with the mental aspects of bdsm is equally, if not more important than the physical. There's a big difference between kinky sex and submission.
Please don't waste your time and mine if you live in Indonesia, Oklahoma, Siberia or what have you. I don't have the patience to open worldwide mail, and no, I'm not going to give you long distance material for your wack file.
I'm sensual, adventurous, curious, and competitive. I'm somewhat "type A", so if you are one of those who thinks that precludes any submissive skills then you should stop reading and move on. .
Some more about my lovely self; I am empathic, honest, passionate, indulgent and spontaneous, and I emote and experience life intensely. A bit of a bleeding heart. It's critical that someone shares my irreverent sense of humor; I want someone who takes themselves seriously, but not so much so that they can't laugh at themselves and life in general. Humor keeps people resilient. I tend to gravitate toward clever, politically incorrect men with a sardonic sense of humor. I have a temper, and can be caustic when angered but I relax quickly and rarely hold grudges. I've had some unnerving experiences on this site so don't take it personally that I am initially a bit wary.
Dealbreakers: lack of motivation and ambition, religion, regular smoking, pretension, and intimate photos, (ie "cock shots"); they are crass, unnecessary, and demonstrate a complete lack of understanding of women. Inability to identify and clearly articulate thoughts and emotions, negativity, and bad spelling/grammar. Messages containing sexual lewdness, or presumption of dominance of me when no such relationship has been established will get you blocked. Knowing someone's sexual predilection does not denote instant intimacy. Daddy Dynamics give me the creeps and make my skin crawl.
I'll likely respond if you send me an intelligent, civilized, and respectful message with a picture and something more than a "hi", "how are you", "read my profile", "how was your weekend" or the unmitigated worst, "do u wanna chat". I don't expect a haiku but please be at least functionally conversant.
I understand the need for discretion, but I'll expect a photo after a few email exchanges. Physical attraction is non negotiable, and if that doesn't exist, then any further communication is pointless. And no, I'm not looking for online friends.
I can't address anyone as Sir or Master with a straight face; I want to use your real name and hear my own. If you're into that sort of staged, contrived stuff, "collaring ceremonies", silly theatrical role playing, or wearing weird shit to prove your dominance, then I'm probably not your girl. I don't consider this a role, and I want reality, not gimmicks, because that's where the intensity lies.
Sometimes BDSM can become all consuming for me, yet I'm NOT 24/7 and I'm not looking for someone to take care of me and/or run my life, nor do I extend this dynamic beyond the bedroom.
I'm open to fun BDSM play with the right person, but am primarily looking for this in the context of a potential relationship. I'm uninterested in fake extended online courtship. If you're legitimately interested let's meet, if not, find your online intimacy elsewhere.
Finally, don't contact me if you're married or attached and your significant other isn't aware of your overtures.
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