Mauser


	Mauserman Male Dominant, 54, Lawton, Oklahoma	mauser765 Male Dominant, 43, chillicothe, Ohio

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	About Mauser "The girl of my dreams has nightmares about me." What am I looking for? I'm just looking for one woman, who loves bondage and fetish as much as I do. She will be a Muse who will inspire me to bring out her beauty and spirit through the medium of bondage. Someone who can share in my enjoyment of the art. You must love Bondage, and be as much of a "Gear-head" as me. You dream of bondage so deep and heavy it's like an out of body experience. You should like to combine sex and bondage. Nothing turns me on more that the idea of a woman uncontrollably fighting her restraints in the throes of an orgasm. In a way, that makes her orgasm more important to me than my own. An unusual attitude, I'm sure. Like most men, I'd prefer someone young and fit. It's a safety thing as well. I should be able to lift you is what I'm saying. Not a huge fan of tattoos and piercings. Big fan of science fiction and anime and other geeky pursuits. You've got to know what you want and how to ask for it. Bonus points if you write me first. Negative style post: I'm NOT: Some pompous married jerk looking to add a slavegirl for me and my wife to play with, because in reality the wife isn't into kink at all, and he just wants to get his hands on some naive 20-year-old. (Okay, I can sympathize with that desire a little. But I'm unmarried.). I'm NOT: ...looking to build some virtual harem of "Collared" "Under Consideration" "Under Protection" "Mentored" or whatever the phony IRC Doms have. (Which is not to say I have anything against chatting, but I'd rather talk about real things than role playing.) I'm NOT: Some boot-licking sub pretending to be a Dom so that I can Order some girl to carry out my submissive fantasies. I'm NOT: In the market for a Pro Domme, Pro Sub or generic whore, or paying to see your webcam or buy a membership on your site. I'm NOT: ... willing to put up with the BS from some self-proclaimed Brat or SAM. I'm NOT: ... looking for some overweight chick with low self-esteem who has turned to "Service" as her last resort to make someone want her. Sucking Cock is something most people do, so it's not your special precious "gift". I'm NOT: ... interesting in providing 24/7/365 refuge for someone who has and is looking for life support and no demands but the use of her body. I want a lover, not a parasite. Things I won't respond to: Spam: If your first e-mail to me includes a Yahoo address, That's spam. Likewise if you try to send me to a website. First Contact Messages Pledging to be my Full time 24/7/365 slave without even knowing me. Spam. E-mails requesting money to help you relocate to me. (Like you a: intend to move or b: would stay, yeah right). Oh yeah.... "No Men!" :-) (Seriously, just set your profile to Lesbian if that's what you're looking for. Make the leap, or the lesbian Domme of your dreams won't find you.)

TinEye image search has a Firefox plug-in. So now I can simply right-click and instantly get search results on profile pictures that tell me which porn site someone's profile image was stolen from. My "Hidden" list has been growing quite quickly thanks to this.

It's very simple, if you're dishonest enough to steal a picture from a porn site to pretend it's you, then you're dishonest enough that I want nothing to do with you.

Ever wonder why anyone would e-mail you and accuse you of being fake? Here's a simple experiment. Go to the search page, hit Clear, and then type "Zamboanga" in the Text or City box.

Quite a surprise, that one city in the Phillipines seems to be home to more BDSMers than any other city in the world, and they're disproportionately female, mostly pretty (unless you're one of those asian haters), universally under 30, and about half of them claim to be Dommes. Seriously, there are HUNDREDS of profiles.

Examine the pictures closely, and you find them to be oddly cropped, to leave out the website name they were stolen from, or they're very blocky, because they were thumbnails taken from some other personals site and blown up to upload here.

I give that example just to show you how rampant the fraudulent entries are. They're actually posted from all over the world (The Netherlands seems to have a strangely high population of asian submissives too).

And even more strangely, they're actually maintained. They get logged into after creation just to keep them active. Somebody's got the job of grinding through these fake profiles and keeping them active. And if you ever made the mistake of e-mailing one of them, you'd find out why, as the scam e-mails come pouring in.

I really pity the one or two real people from that city who are in here. They will never be found.

So, how can you distinguish your profile from one like this? For one thing, you need a longer text. If you read any of these, once you get past the Engrish, they talk about themsleves like the blurb on the back of a Porn DVD. Either that, or they say something utterly generic that doesn't mention anything BDSM related at all. More than one picture helps. And since most of them don't have any interests checked off, make sure you check off some interests, and not just from the first page of them. (I really don't think that they have a Chapter of the SCA in Zamboanga, so seeing that checked off is a pretty good indicator of a fake profile). It might also help to mention some of those preferences in your profile.

Take more than one photo, but make them from totally separate times in different places, but still clearly you. Finding matching photos from different photo shoots is a bit too much of a task for the scammers.

Frankly, it pisses me off that something that should be a good resource for helping people like us, with rare interests connect to one another is perverted into yet another scam factory.

On the other hand, I do find it kind of amusing to think of the back and forth between the Cut-and-pasters and the scammers.

Just chalk it up to background noise and keep trying to find what you're looking for.

A couple of profile hints for you ladies.

If you're ashamed of your body weight and leave it blank, two things happen.? First, guys will assume you're heavier than you actually are, and b) even if a guy were to choose 300 lbs in the Max Weight parameter in the search panel, you would still not show up.? Thus you are actually hiding yourself from the guys who might actually want you the way you are.? (Admittedly, I'm not one of them, but still, the fact remains...).

Secondly, and this kinda goes along with what I said about the hostile profiles that only talk about what you don't want, there are the virtually blank profiles that just say something like "If you want to know, just ask me."

The fact is, there is nothing in the world that will stop the form-letter posters from e-mailing you.? The name of the game is to attract the kind of person you want, and then actually respond to them when they come along.? If you don't lay your cards out on the table, you have placed yourself in the unenviable position of being not door number one, not door number two, and not door number three, but the Mystery box Janice is standing next to in the aisle.

Look, guys get enough rejection and are ignored enough on sites like this (Thanks in part to the asshole form letter posters), so the serious ones are not going to waste their time on the Mystery Box.? If you leave something out, be it your weight, height, ethnicity, or even your entire description, the quality guys are not going to waste their time on you.

It takes time to write a well thought out letter that responds to the things you've said in your description.? That IS the kind of e-mail you want, right?? But if you've given us nothing to go on, what are we going to write?

Frankly, the low ratio of success to effort is probably what gives rise to the form letter guys.? If it takes less effort, a lot of failure isn't an issue.? But the quality suffers.? And you only have yourself to blame.

Let's be brutally realistic for a moment.

Fabulously wealthy Masters with Mansions, and the time to lavish weeks at a time on a sub only exist in bad BDSM fiction.

So if that's what you're looking for, you should be looking for web fiction sites. You're not going to find a kinky Bill Gates here. (A mental image that will make me shudder uncontrollably for the next hour or so).

(Also, the women in such stories are always slim and beautiful. If you don't resemble the women in those stories, don't expect your man to either.)

That's not to say that there aren't such people in the world. But they won't be here because since they've got their lives together, they don't NEED a site like this to find parners. Hugh Hefner didn't pick up his blonde harem on CraigsList. Angelina Jolie may be a freak, but she doesn't need to come here to find a guy.

So you're going to have to adjust your standards to what is actually available, and recognize your own defects that are keeping you alone, or in an unsatisfying relationship.

To really be brutally honest, being into BDSM IS, in fact, such a defect. I'm sure we've all thought how we could be in a happy relationship if only we were vanilla like everyone else. But we love our Kink too much to try to do without it.

I see a lot of people on here who are far more demanding than they have a right to be. I wish them luck, because they're going to need it.

In short, we need to stop asking for the world, and settle for just one person instead.

I find the "Hide" button very handy.? It's very simple.? If I've already seen someone's profile, and I am not interested, I hit Hide and I don't have to look at it again.? Reasons can be simple, like the girl in question has mentioned her new Master, or her husband, or how she only likes couples, or claims to be Bi but shouts "no men!".? Clearly, there's no point in looking at any of these.? Although it does leave the route open for them to contact me if by some amazing chance they actually want to.

I almost never feel the need to use the Block button.? Nobody harasses guys.? But I do have a use for it now.? When I send someone a message and it's marked as "Deleted unread" in my sent box, well, then I REALLY have no use for that person.? Read and not responded to is one thing.? It happens all the time.? But when a sincere message is treated like junk mail, that's where I draw the line.? You can tell a lot about people by how they treat strangers, and when I'm the stranger, I learn enough to not give them a second chance.

(E-mailing them about how rude and self-important I think they are is pointless.? It's just asking for another "Deleted unread" which would be justly deserved.? I don't go for harassment.)

Two statements:

One, will you asshole guys who send "On your knees bitch!" e-mails to every single woman on the site, and then act all grumpy when they rightfully tell you to fuck off please cut it the hell out? You're screwing things up for the rest of us who actually do this for real.

Two: You women who can't obey the rules of the site. If you can't obey the rules here, then I don't think you could obey me. And for that, you get flagged. No matter how clever you think you are slipping in your website, that merely hangs a neon sign over your head that says "Scammer."

And a third thing, if you've got a bitchy profile that's only about the things you hate, okay, fine, that MIGHT drive off the men you don't like (How's that working out for you? Didn't think so.) but if you say nothing about what you DO like, how do you expect to attract the RIGHT Dom? That IS the goal, after all, right? You're not here for the pleasure of deleting messages from the guys from point 1, are you?

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