Matildax21x

Looking to buy new lingerie.  A gift card to Torrid will get you an hour session with me on cam in my panties for some kinky fun!

Bored, bored, bored. Doing some more kinky shopping. Any suggestions?

Just put in a new order from a few of my favorite online stores. Replacing my old ball gag with a new, more durable one and a leather and o ring gag, a new harness for my dildos, several more canes and a flogger.  

Am so sick of ab and dick pictures. There is a reason that most of my submissives are older, don't post photos and are loyal: they are less concerned with the status of their masculine body parts than serving a beautiful and experienced Mistress.  If you're going to message me, please don't put your dick in my inbox.

I have been asked by a group to reach out to those who may never have had any experience in the BDSM world, but would like a session.  This group will pay for your session with me, but there is a screening process. Let me know if you are interested.

You can go rot in hell if: you are going to spend five minutes talking adamantly about how you need me and then stop replying to my messages, you require cam verification and disappear while I'm setting up my cam, you "can't pay til monday" and then disappear, you aren't looking for the same things as me but you think you can convince me of what you are looking for, you don't come with money (PRO-DOMME HERE!), you are flaky and don't keep your promises.

Seriously...you know who you are.

GOING REAL LIFE

If you are interested in a service and what to chat, be AVAILABLE to chat.  Don't log on a dick around. My time is special, don't waste it. 

That said, I'm going REAL TIME.  That's right. I am willing to meet you, in person, in a hotel room for sessions.  You will have to meet me, or pay for my travel (within a reasonable distance).  I have been a Pro-Domme for three years and in the lifestyle for 5.  I have references, can cam verify, and expect to have a long chat about the brass tacks before we ever meet.  

If you are interested understand that I am Pro-Domme, meaning you will pay for my services.  No sex for Pro-Domme services!  That means no oral, anal penetration with a penis, or vaginal penetration.  My services are varied from humiliation, degradation, waterworks, body worship, foot worship, light/medium/heavy torture, CBT, bondage, service work, and more.  I DO NOT DO: sissification.  Pay a stylist to dress you up so you can get your rocks off. 

I accept men and women and require a small deposit off your total price to hold your appointment. Message me for details.

I'm taking a leap here and keeping my eye out for female subs who are interested in playdates. It would be for a Dom/Domme couple, but mostly you will be interacting with the Domme (myself). Prefer someone curvy, around my age (18-30), and local (northern IL/southern WI).  I am pretty open to persuasion and very willing to try out subs new to the lifestyle. We host and provide food and drinks (21+ subs).  Both disease free and excited to meet you! Please PM me for details.

I'm not giving you boys any fap fodder, but a sweet subbie gave me insight into the software Teamviewer. For those of you who don't know what it is, it's software that allows me to take over your desktop in minutes. I can undermine your firewall and invade your privacy!

I can delete your files, make new ones, change your background, chat with your friends, purchase gifts for myself, and send emails.  Anything you can do on your computer I can do, too.  Want to know what's really scary? I can even lock your keyboard and take your admin abilities away. I can install a keylogger and track your every move.  I can blackmail you into doing what I say, when I say or if you are good I can leave you rewards while you are at work or asleep.

I'm making plans to implement this tool more into my sessions. If you are interested, fill out an application and we can chat!

Everyone has one.  This is my rant entry.  My rant is directed, unwaveringly at bratty, bitchy, novice "dommes" who post something similar to the following in threads and on their profiles:

"HAAAAYYYYYY luzerpigs!!!!!!!!1Im Princess [insert stripper name] and im a real financial DOMME!!! For realz. I am looking for luzerpigs to line my wallet and pay for my bills!!!!Fat wallets only need apply. Im serious. Im a trained DOMME. I will ignore u while u begf or mercy while I bleed ur wallet dry and giggle at ur mizery!!!!!!1Dont talk to me unless u have tributes!!!!!!!<3"

Now, I know the pretty common complaint on FL and CM is that young Dommes are asking for money and it's rude and childish and blah blah, but that is honestly not my irritation with the entire process. If a Domme believes that someone should pay tribute to her for a simple conversation and there are men out there willing to do that, then by all means, they deserve each other.  How they conduct that aspect of their online persona means very little to me. I don't have to see it and I don't (usually) have to deal with it. 

More and more financial domination groups are springing up with posts like these. I don't claim to be an expert on financial domination and I'm sure my way of approaching the issue is much different than other Dommes, but it is increasingly frustrating to see these "dommes" springing up with their bratty posts and, even more annoyingly, with threads that say things like, "where all the paypigz at???!!!!!Every1 is a flake and a liar. Those morons don have a $ to offer me for my time1!!!!!"  Sometimes they are given good advice, sometimes they are laughed at, sometimes, and most annoyingly, the are coddled by other overbaked, manicured, asshat women who feel the same way.

I'm bothered by the notion that financial domination means taking someone's money and ignoring them.  It ultimately goes against the power exchange that the BDSM community builds itself upon.  Financial domination has to be part of a whole to be successful. To me, financial domination should be sexually and emotionally beneficial to both parties.  Submissives should learn to anticipate his/her Dommes needs and act upon them before being asked.  Being an ATM machine, to me, is not service to a Domme.  Dommes should put money and tributes received to good use.  They shouldn't take more than what is responsible for their submissive's income and the money should be used on something that is mutually beneficial (even panties if pictures can be taken and given to a humble and deserving submissive).

Dommes are shaming themselves by begging for handouts. Even posts geared to the "pitiful loser" crowd are, when picked apart, desperate pleas from a brat who won't get a job.  It's disgracing to Dommes in general and what's more, our community.

A common phrase I see in the BDSM community (particularly Dom(me)s speaking about potential slaves) is the need to own someone "mind, body and soul".  I'm aware that it is because owning slave is a mighty turn off to me, but can one ever really (and does one ever really) wish to own someone "mind, body, and soul".  I suppose first we would have to define these words. 

 Body is probably the easiest of these things.  The body becomes an object to be used at the whims of the owner, a vessel to fill with their teachings and understandings.  Even in this sense I find the idea terrifying.  Is there anyone in this world truly good enough to own my body?  Slavery contracts are "forever and ever".  How easily this can lead to abuse and coersion makes the entire idea unsavory to me.  

Mind is the mental state, the thoughts and the ideas that one creates.  It is our emotions and our passions as well as our fears and our nightmares.  I laugh at the assumption that one's mind can ever be entirely owned by someone else. I don't doubt that people can be trained, wraught into the mindful, obedience service of another human being.  But that really isn't ownership.  No, ownership assumes something far deeper, that you can control the thoughts that pervade their mind.  To some extent, maybe an owner can, but a wandering thought or organic idea is bound to happen every hour of every day.  I find the human race haughty in it's belief that we can understand the intricate ways the mind works, or less pretend we understand it, and try to manipulate it for purely sexual reasons.

Soul.  What is a soul?  To many it must be something as it is thrown around so flim flam in profiles and conversations.  To have a mortal human being owning your soul must be a terrifying concept.  After all, once you die, what does a mortal want with a soul?  What does it even mean to own a soul?  That you own the very essence of that being.  Is that even possible. It sounds so human to me for someone to even try, kind of pitiful.

Consensual.  It's a word that permeates our community.  Safe, consensual, sexuality.  That is what we are going for.  I'm tolerant of a lot of views in the BDSM community, but those that cross the line of consensual are something that I refuse to allow pass me by without saying something about it. 

Supremacist Views

In the vanilla world it is not appropriate to say that all black people should be slaves.  I'm failing to see how this kind of approach to the BDSM world is tolerated.  Whether it's male supremacy over female, black over white, female over male, or cats over dogs I'm against this rising attitude in our community.  My problem with supremacy is that, in a community that says it's on the cutting edge of liberalism and acceptance, it sets us back hundreds of years.  Supremacist attitudes, when acted upon, are not consensual.  Spouting this rhetoric that there is a hierarchy among all people based on color, creed, gender or religion, is backwards and dangerous the the integrity of our community.  

In a consensual D/s relationship we take on roles of dominance and submissiveness.  Neither can exist without the other.  Ultimately, values of superiority and inferiority cannot be assigned because the relationship between and dominant and submissive individual cannot exist without the other.  Supremacist views suggest that there is a nature hierarchy at play at all times.  It takes the value away from Dommes or Domes by saying one gender is inherently dominant.  It takes away the value of black dominants or white dominants by saying, one is naturally better and "virtuous" while the other is meant for slavery.

Exhibitionism

I don't mean at a BDSM gathering or other setting where other involved are part of the scene or the community.  More and more I am reading about tricking maids to walk in on slaves for purposes of humiliation or wearing collars, buttplugs, or chains that make other people aware of the relationship status outside of the community.  Involving vanilla citizens in our scenes is not consensual.  Not only does it make others feel uncomfortable, as permission was not given to involve them in the scene, but it also reinstates stereotypes about our community that we have worked hard to obliterate.  

No Safe Words

While I don't come across this issue often, when I do, I am terrified.  Submissives who refuse to use safewords and Dom(me)s who allow this are not only not playing safe, but at a certain point may no longer be playing consensually.  More terrifying are the profiles of Dom(me)s who refuse to allow the use of safewords.  Everyone should steer clear of these types.  Playing without safewords can quickly become unsafe and dangerous.  Rape is not off-limits to these types, even with a D/s relationship.

Whore. Prostitute. Money grubber. Fake.  Some places and in some communities Pro-Dommes are becoming second class citizens.  Wanting a real life, long-term D/s relationship is the equivalent of the "Mom, Dad, 2.5 kids and Spot" family.  I am greatly disappointed that in some places in this community Pro-Dommes are considered less than.  Her opinion is not valued because she is just after money anyways.  She isn't worth the time of the real Dominas because she only does session, she doesn't understand what it means to LOVE a submissive.  

I loved once.  He was waifish and freckled.  He was beautiful and kind and amazingly strong.  Dominating him was magnificent.  He never came groveling and begging.  He never called me Mistress or Domina.  He quivered when I cuffed him and took control of him.  It was my only reward then, and it was enough.  We lasted years.  Then, on a sunny fall morning in the middle of a job search, he was gone.  He died laying in my lap, in a crumpled heap of car, and it wasn't fair.

Don't tell me I haven't loved.  Don't tell me I am less than because I provide services at a fee.  Don't try to make me the villain in your chirping little flock of "real" Dommes because I am not looking to take on the responsibility of a D/s relationship right now.  I am what I am: a Pro-Domme and a business owner.  I'm disappointed that the "largest BDSM Community on the planet" can't accept a simple Pro-Domme service and fetish business because it doesn't fit into the hivemind.