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Margaret Female Submissive, 38, Oakland, California	MARGARETAVILLE Male Submissive, 47, READING, Pennsylvania	Margaes Male Dominant, 38, Chicago, Illinois

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	About MargaritasMaster Who Am I? Someone who doesn't consider himself unique, but apparently is different from the mainstream, and most definitely avoids clique conformity. I was blessed by good genes from my parents that cause most people to guess my age as 10 years younger than the actual. As I observe others around my age, I do not feel like we share the same outlook and interests. Because of this, my friends are normally younger than I. Similarly, I've primarily found myself attracted to women younger than myself, but not out of what I feel is a choice. I would much prefer someone closer to my age with whom I share much in common and is devoted to me and the relationship over an emotionally immature, hot young thang. I intensely pursue that which is of substance, value and meaning. What goes for American pop culture is LCD, and holds no interest for me. My TV is rarely illuminated, and my car stereo is mainly used for listening to podcasts or my own music. I would much rather spend my free time hiking, camping, traveling, learning a hobby, improving my work skills, reading wikipedia on subjects I know nothing about, or having meaningful conversations in my free time than mindless entertainment. Oh, but this person sounds so dour, doesn't he? No, not at all. I'm a pretty funny guy if I must say so, and love to laugh and be the goofball. I consider myself reasonable intelligent and handsome, a good conversationalist, fun to be around, and a good friend who highly values honesty and integrity, in myself as much as others. In others, I value the rare mix of intelligence mixed with humility and a compassionate heart. I desire a female partner who is intelligent, who understands that wealth and success are not synonyms, who embraces her femininity, who values and takes care of her body, mind and spirit. She can be the boss of 200 people at work, but not in my home. She desires a relationship that will allow her to freely live her submissive nature in a loving and nurturing relationship. She is not a slave, nor am I her Lord, Master, King, or Prince. I long ago grew tired of polishing my armor. Perhaps she can do that for me.:) I have done my time with settling for relationships and encounters that lack substance. I, as we all, have faults, but I believe that I have a tremendous amount of good to offer. I desire a relationship with real intimacy, communication, trust, honesty, and growth. I have face pictures available to those that want to see me from the neck up.

Deference. This word appears often in my mind when I consider a good partner for me. It means humble submission and respect.

Humility is a quality of people who accomplish things that truly matter in this world. Why not emulate the qualities of great people? I strive to be humble as pride is rarely justifiable. I am who I am and have what I have due to the goodness of others. I would not ask for humility from a partner if I did not strive toward that goal myself.

Submission is not an objective concept, but a situational, fluid dynamic. Everyone has their strengths and weakness, their likes and dislikes. As I defer to my partner where her strengths lie, I expect her to defer to me in my strengths. I value her mind and her opinion and will naturally take them into consideration, even without her requesting. But, the decisions are mine to make.

Respect is so often misunderstood and abused. It can not be demanded, but must be earned. It is not earned through a sprint, but through a marathon. Respect from others is ridiculous to ask when you do not have it for yourself and others. The radical feminist community would posit that men who seek to subjugate women are disrespecting them. On the contrary, I love and respect women immensely. Feeling waves of pleasure wash over my body as a woman kneels before me is just the way I'm built.

Break down the population of potential partners. Begin with the gender to which you're attracted. Subtract the married, the ones in relationships, the ones not looking, the unreachable, the gays/lesbians (if you're straight), Throw in your filters of age, race, religion or non-religion, height, weight, education, personality traits, looks, location, etc. Now after you've found the person that passes all of those tests, throw-in whatever qualities you desire in a BDSM partner.

Who's left?

I have a simple request that most likely be very difficult to fulfill.

I love Shibari and have acquired a few hemp ropes, but I have no one upon which to practice.

I need someone who will serve as a model for me to literally learn the ropes. That's it. There is nothing else. Practicing on inanimate objects is not the same.

I have few requirements:

Under 45

Body type from slender to athletic to average

No BBW's or big girls. (My current ropes are not long enough)

Height/weight proportionate

Race is not an issue.

I do not expect something for nothing. If there is something I can do for my model outside of modeling fees, let me know what that is.

Naturally, this person and I would talk on the phone and meet in a public place first to establish a connection of sorts and a level of comfort and safety.

It's all about fun and learning.

At this point, if I'm on collarme, it's because of boredom or for amusement. My perfect match lives in a small village somewhere without internet. I'd rather devote my energy toward other areas.

3 months out of a relationship and I must say....I'm lonely. It's partly my own choice, as I've chosen to gather in all my resources and concentrate on the things in life that are most important. But what that's meant is all work and no play. It's also part of who I am, as I'm not into playing with just anyone, and have no interest in playing with someone with whom I feel no connection. I guess I just have to dig in for the long run.

I don't know if I've covered this in anything else I've written in my profile or journal, I don't like to go back and reread what I've written in the past. But what I desire to find is a woman who, like me thinks of her non-traditional "kinks" as more of a private matter than a public one. There must be mental attraction and physical chemistry, otherwise, I have no interest. I don't want to meet someone who is a virtual stranger and engage in public play. I'm damned in this town with the majority of choices I've seen. Why did this fetish pick me when I'm not physically attracted to overweight women? Some please tell me the fetish that the other women are into. I'm ready to bury it all away and sell my floggers.

I've wanted for some time to attend Whippersnappers events at 1763, but was born too early. I think that I would fit in better in that group. If there is someone reading this who attends Whippersnapper events, and is interested in guesting me in as a play partner, I would love to hear from you.

I've also been told that my name on here makes it appear that I'm am someone's Master. I am not. One of my favorite books is by the Russian author Bulgakov, "The Master and Margarita". It has nothing to do with BDSM, I just thought it a cute play on words and an homage to the book.

I've been told that my profile is too dour. If so, then this is hardly an accurate snapshot of my personality, and I've misrepresented myself. You'd be hard-pressed to find a goofier person: a person that loves to be serious, but loves laughter more.?

The Spider and the Fly

???????????????????????An Apologue.
????????????A New Version Of An Old Story.

Will you walk into my parlour?" said the Spider to the Fly,
'Tis the prettiest little parlour that ever you did spy;
The way into my parlour is up a winding stair,
And I've a many curious things to shew when you are there."
Oh no, no," said the little Fly, "to ask me is in vain,
For who goes up your winding stair can ne'er come down again."

"I'm sure you must be weary, dear, with soaring up so high;
Will you rest upon my little bed?" said the Spider to the Fly.
"There are pretty curtains drawn around; the sheets are fine and thin,
And if you like to rest awhile, I'll snugly tuck you in!"
Oh no, no," said the little Fly, "for I've often heard it said,
They never, never wake again, who sleep upon your bed!"

Said the cunning Spider to the Fly, " Dear friend what can I do,
To prove the warm affection I 've always felt for you?
I have within my pantry, good store of all that's nice;
I'm sure you're very welcome -- will you please to take a slice?"
"Oh no, no," said the little Fly, "kind Sir, that cannot be,
I've heard what's in your pantry, and I do not wish to see!"

"Sweet creature!" said the Spider, "you're witty and you're wise,
How handsome are your gauzy wings, how brilliant are your eyes!
I've a little looking-glass upon my parlour shelf,
If you'll step in one moment, dear, you shall behold yourself."
"I thank you, gentle sir," she said, "for what you 're pleased to say,
And bidding you good morning now, I'll call another day."

The Spider turned him round about, and went into his den,
For well he knew the silly Fly would soon come back again:
So he wove a subtle web, in a little corner sly,
And set his table ready, to dine upon the Fly.
Then he came out to his door again, and merrily did sing,
"Come hither, hither, pretty Fly, with the pearl and silver wing;
Your robes are green and purple -- there's a crest upon your head;
Your eyes are like the diamond bright, but mine are dull as lead!"

Alas, alas! how very soon this silly little Fly,
Hearing his wily, flattering words, came slowly flitting by;
With buzzing wings she hung aloft, then near and nearer drew,
Thinking only of her brilliant eyes, and green and purple hue --
Thinking only of her crested head -- poor foolish thing! At last,
Up jumped the cunning Spider, and fiercely held her fast.
He dragged her up his winding stair, into his dismal den,
Within his little parlour -- but she ne'er came out again!

And now dear little children, who may this story read,
To idle, silly flattering words, I pray you ne'er give heed:
Unto an evil counsellor, close heart and ear and eye,
And take a lesson from this tale, of the Spider and the Fly.

??????????????????????????????????????????????????by Mary Howitt 1821.

To become awake and aware of deep inner desires inside of ourselves which are not smiled upon by the mainstream, one would think, would bring with it introspection and a sensitivity. So I thought when I entered the "lifestyle". I found people online that were quick to give advice and offer suggestions on reading material. I thought that I had discovered a friendly community of which I could be a part. Then I went to my first local BDSM event.

Sure, there were some nice people there, but I encountered as many rude and crass people: from the man that tried to look up my date's dress without so much as a word to me, to a loud, foulmouthed braggert, to a switch woman who thought it was ok to give me a llittle slap on the face (I set her straight), to improper questions asked of me.

There I saw vanilla problems magnified, one of these being superficiality. I try not to judge people, but it seemed there were many there who were so caught if in the clothes, the trappings, the speech, the way to act. I watched scenes played out where there was no apparent connection between the two people save for a sexual one. Everything seemed rushed and no imagination was put into play whatsoever. I couldn't help but think that novice me could do much better than that.

But here's my point. After witnessing all this and hearing so many stories from submissives who tell me the horror stories about so-called Doms contacting them, I must conclude that there is not alot of deep introspection going on, at least from the Dom's side. It starts from the inside with a connection, chemistry, mutual desires and goals, and builds from there. Lacking all of this, the play is empty, superficial,? and fails? to bring the tremendous wealth of pleasure and feelings that BDSM play is capable of giving.? End rant.

What is this site? What do people get out of it? Do they use it to promote an alter-ego that never touches the real world? Do they gather bravery from their cyber-self? Is it fun, playing with other non-real people?

I am flesh and blood who feels joy and exhaustion, belonging and isolation. I want to feel the connection between the skin on the palm of my hands and goose pimply skin on a woman's ass. I want to hold her in my arms as she arches her back, her entire body vibrating. I want to see you at my feet, not daring to move without my command, whimpering at the thought that you might displease me.

That's why I'm here.

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