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About madamdomina
this isnt just fun and games...its a lifestyle!
I am back after a lengthy stay away from this site, became discouraged with the overwhelming amount of fakes on here... I am back in hopes that my move to Florida will render new prospects and opportunities. as stated, this is a lifestyle choice for me, NOT a hobby...DO NOT message me if you arent willing to travel or live outside the US...if this is just a sexual kink for you, MOVE ALONG. now lets get aquainted, and please address me appropriately.
I am a bbw, if thats a turn off for you- move along!
~Mistress E~ |
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greetings again, still her seeking real subs/slaves...very dissapointed in this site. |
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If you arent local or willing to relocate dont bother messaging me! |
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havent been on here in a while, bored sick with fakes...still seriously seeking subs. male and female. |
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I am moving into panama city in a week and hope to find new prospects there...I get a giggle when I read profiles of some of the slaves/subs on here that say they are straight...If you had a mistress wouldnt it be up to the mistress whether or not you were straight? seems more like youre trying to top from the bottom!!!! |
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I AM STILL SEEKING FEMALE/MALE SUBS/SLAVES......SERIOUS ONLY PLEASE!
ABSOLUTELY NO SWITCHES! |
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still looking for my sub/slave...
serious only please! I seek female/male sub/slaves "no switch's please"...prefer that my sub's be bi.
read my profile before messaging me. |
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things dont seem to have changed here, still more fakes than real people! I cant immagine what it must be like to be submissive, yearn to serve yet find no real domme or dom. keep looking! |
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ita appears that nothing has changed here, nothing but horney fkrz and pervs...SAD SAD SAD SAD!!! |
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its been a very long time since I've graced this site...stayed away because of all the fakes here...I've moved to florida and hope that there are fewer phonies here...as stated in my profile, this is a lifestyle choice not a hobby...hopefully I'll be blessed this time around. |
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sooooooo many years and soooooooo many fakes...beginning to think this place is a joke!!!! |
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somethings never change as with this site...still full of tomfoolery and fakes.... |
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I have been on this site for more than a few years with no success at all...I Talk to many and THEY DISSAPEAR WHEN ITS TIME TO MEET...I TALKED WITH ONE MAN FOR ALMOST A YEAR AND HE WOULDNT MEET..ANOTHER WHO JUST WOULDNT COMMIT TO ANYTHING.....this site is full of people looking for discreet one night stands and thats not what i'm about..if you arent serious DONT WAIST MY FUCKIN TIME.... |
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I AM SOOOOOOOOOOOO SICK OF THE LIAR'S AND PLAYER'S ON HERE. ARE THERE ANY REAL PEOPLE ON HERE? THEY TELL YOU THEY WANT TO MEET, THAT THEY ARE SERIOUS THE PULL A NO SHOW... WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE.. |
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the rules for slaves
1. naked or dressed which Mistress define
2. talk to Mistress on his knees and look down
3. never look into Mistress´s eyes,until She allow it
4. must satisfy every order of Mistress quickly and preciously
of course in time
5. can talk only if Mistress ask him
6. can not go to the toilet without express agree of Mistress
7. can not eat or drink without express agree of Mistrss
8. move only in position which is define by Mistress at the
current time
9. kneel every time when he is front of Mistress
10. can not masturbate or satisfy himself in any other ways
11. slave has no right
12. the Mistress own his slave and use him in any matter She
desires for any work or activities aimed for Her well
13. Mistress is free to punish slave at any time and any matter
provided there will be not permanent injury
14. Mistress is free to rent the slave to any other Mistress
provided the rules of the contract
15. the slave must sign a contract of 24/7 servitude for a period
of time to determine by both parties
16. must respect the rules of the contract and will be totally
controlled by the Mistress |
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How many different roles do you play in your life?
A strong macho,loving husband and father,wise boss-
it will take a long time to list them all.
All these roles require you make important decisions,
take the responsibilities and be self-
reliant every time.
Aren´t you tired?
Don´t imagine different things at nights,
when you´re all alone?
The World where you can relax,
forget about your power and duties,
your responsibilities,
where you´ll be taken care off,
where someone else will take decisionsand give you the orders.
The World where the little boy,
who lives deep within your soul will be able to get
the deserved punishment for unlearned lesson.
The World where the wild beast,
hiding beneath the thin coating of civilisation,
will get strong bondage and hissing whip.
The World where the patient,
who do not trust modern medicine,
can get traditional cure.
The World where you can be anyone,
who you afraid to be in any other place:
slave,dog,doormat,patient or pupil,pony or captive-
just ask yourself,what else
is hidden in the corners of your soul?
Do you know what you need?
The Answer is easy.
You need Me and My World.
The World where is Female Supremacy.
The World where i am The Queen and The Goddess.
I live in this World.
I am the Rule in this Kingdom.
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If you take a cork and hold it underwater it
is very easy to hold it down but it will only stay there while you keep holding
it in that position.? If at any time you arm gets tied or you get fed up with
keeping the cork underwater and let go.? The cork will automatically rise to the
top.? This concept gives a good metaphor of what is happening today in the
politics of Female power.
For anyone who has read the history of
patriarchy over the last five thousand years what it very striking is the great
efforts needed to keep Women powerless. ? Up until the end of the 19th century,
there were laws to ensure that women couldn't own any property or wealth. As the
law stated that everything a woman had was either owned by her father or husband
and the law also make it very difficult for any woman to inherit property.?
Women were also barred from all jobs and professions except being a housewife,
servant or prostitute.? So Women were unable to acquire any wealth of power in
her own right.? Husbands were also encouraged to dominate their wives, who had
to swear to obey there husbands when they were married.? The law even gave
husbands the right to beat their wives with either a stick or
whip.
In other cultures the laws oppressing women
were even more strict than in the western world. It was traditional for the
Somalis people of Somalia, Kenya, Ethiopia and Djibouti for a bride to start
married life with a flogging from their husbands.? It seems the newly wedded
husband would wait for her in the bridal chamber with a whip in his hand.? This
was also true with the Sifon people of Tibet, who traditionally would again
start of married life with the husband whipping his bride.
Yet we are taught at school and in our
history books that men have always been the dominant sex going back to early
Stone age.? The irony is that if it is natural for men to be the dominant sex
why do then men had to create very oppressive laws and customs against Women??
If it is natural for men to be the dominant sex then they shouldn't need any
laws, custom or propaganda to keep their place as the dominant sex.? For
instance they only reason way we have laws against stealing is because many
people do steal.? If people didn't steal there would be no reason to have laws
against this behavior.? The same is true of customs and traditions.? The custom
of marriage with people swearing to be true to each other is only needed because
people do tend to have sex outside of marriage.? If pair bonding was completely
natural for
human beings then we wouldn't need customs
like marriage, enforced by laws and social censure.
This then means that oppressive laws and
customs to keep women in a subservient position suggests that it is not natural
for women to be the submissive sex.? If it was natural for men to be the
dominant sex then there would be no reason for men to have oppressive laws and
customs to keep women in bondage.
If you think about it, from the time the
original Aryian invaders conquered Matriarchal communities in southern Europe to
the start of Christianity and Islam was about 3,000 years. ? This means the
Patriarchs needed 3,000 years of brainwashing all men and Women into believing
that our Creator was a male, that sex, childbirth, and menstruation was sinful
or dirty and that women was inferior to men. This suggests that Women were held
in such high regard in ancient times that the original Patriarchal invaders with
all the advantages of violence and intimidation, still took thousands of years
to overcome the power of Women.
If we compared this with what is happening
today where Women for a position of complete powerlessness in the 19th century
has in just over a 100 years gained near equality with men.? We can see that
patriarchal men have had to put in a enormous effort into subduing Women. We can
now see Women rapidly rise to power once again. So it is like a holding a cork
underwater.? It is easy to hold the cork down, but once you let go the cork
rises to the surface.? Patriarchy could only keep Women down while it was
actively suppressing them, and when the pressure was release we know find Women
are naturally moving back to ruling society once again. This suggests to me,
that it is probably natural for human beings to be ruled by
Women.
Not only has Women gain political power over
the last hundred years but the relationship between men and Women are also
changing rapidly. With the undermining of the many customs, beliefs and social
conventions that men are the dominant sex, the personal relationships between
men and women are rapidly changing.? It is now more common place for Women to
openly claim they are the head of the household and we even now have house
husbands.? While sexually things are also changing, from very tiny beginnings
during the early 1970s the FemDom movement has grown steadily and
strongly.
It has been patriarchal religions like
Christianity and Islam that has been in the forefront oppressing Women.? Even
today extreme Islam countries try to force Women to wear facial screens and
discourage female education.? Restrictions like this wouldn't be needed if men
didn't fear the power of Women. ? In the past, Christianity used extreme
violence against Women.? In the infamous Witch hunts of the Medieval age the
vast majority of millions of people who were tortured and burnt alive were
Women.? Suggesting again a real fear of Women becoming too
powerful.
With the ending of oppressive laws and
customs throughout the 20th century women have quickly gained near equality with
men.? I know to us a hundred years might seen a long time but in historical
terms it is very quick for such a far reaching social change.? If this rate of
progress for Women is to continue during the 21st century then clearly Women
will be ruling the world in another hundred years time.
What is clear is that men can only become
the dominant sex by enforcing through violence and propaganda oppressive laws
and customs against Women.? This means that it is not natural for men to be the
dominant sex if he has to put so much effort into keeping Women down. If we get
rid of all these artificial laws and customs created by patriarchal men and
follow our natural instincts then Women will naturally become the rulers of our
World.
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to you internet wankers that set in front of your pc's and jack off to what you call online training, i say to you "FUCK OFF".... if you arent looking for realtime, DONT MESSAGE ME..YOU ARENT REAL SUBS/SLAVES...YOURE JUST WANKER'S... |
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Around Her Finger The term "Around Her Finger" marriage is often used interchangeably with female-led or wife-led marriage. This is based on the writing of Emily and Ken Addison who published a website and series of books extolling the advantages of loving female authority in traditional marriages. While most websites focus on advanced LFA topics, the Around Her Finger site focuses on how submissive husbands can introduce their otherwise vanilla wives to this relationship dynamic. The growth of female-led marriages is often termed the "Around Her Finger" movement.
More than any other author so far, the Addisons describe the female-led relationship in the terms calculated to be the most appealing to ordinary women.
Because for the entire history of the female-domination scene, males interested in being dominated have vastly outnumbered females interested in dominating, one would think that appealing to the woman who finds herself in a relationship with a man with submissive tendencies or submissive fantasies would have been tried long ago; yet, before the Addisons, no one seems to have done so, or if they have they have proven much less skilled at communication and persuasion than the Addisons have.
Most previous attempts to make this kind of relationship appeal to women rely heavily on feminist sociological theory. The Addisons in contrast emphasize practical benefits that appeal to ordinary women. In fact, several conservative women are on record as saying that the female-led relationship has proved appealing to them.
In other words, the "Around Her Finger" materials explain the female-led relationship by describing what it appeals to women, and it postpones the discussion of the quasi-sexual strategies and behaviors that the woman will probably have to learn and to practice periodically to keep her male emotionally invested and motivated to keep on performing the helpful, attentive, romantic, cooperative, pliable, unargumentative behaviors that usually hold the most attraction to the woman.
The process by which the materials exert most of their influence is as follows: a man with submissive tendencies courts and wins a woman in the usual way, and they enter into a vanilla relationship. At some point, usually many years later, the man refers the woman to the "Around Her Finger" materials as part of an attempt to induce the woman to turn the relationship into a female-led one. This is usually the first the woman learns of her man's desire for this sort of change. The woman usually considers the suggestion a little weird, but is willing to see where it leads. Of course there are other reactions but this is the reaction that tends to lead to significant changes in the relationship.
In the years before to the publication of _Around Her Finger_ (originally as a book), people started spreading the idea that a sexually frustrated man is easier to control. Once this idea is understood by the woman, it often becomes mostly or completely unnecessary for the woman to engage in the overtly sexual behaviors involving leather clothing, collars, leashes, bondage, whips, fetishes, or such that in the past have been a large part of the means by which a submissive male is maintained in a mental state in which he cares deeply about pleasing his mate, which is usually the factor that keeps the woman interested in continuing the female-led relationship.
Keeping a man sexually frustrated usually entails making sure he does not masturbate without the explicit permission of the woman.
In addition to being sexually frustrated, it helps if the man is kept sexually stimulated by such things as caresses, nips, pats, images of the dominant woman, and the voice of the dominant woman. The voice can be inflected with seductive qualities. In other words, the woman flirts and teases the man.
Some have advanced the theory that it is particularly important that the male stops masturbating because when men masturbate they have a strong tendency to fantasize about a wide variety of woman and sexual acts and images. According to this theory, restricting the man's fantasy life as much as practical to the dominant female greatly helps to maintain the male in a state of intense submissive feelings towards the female.
The theory goes on to state that fantasies without masturbation are much less vivid, compelling and memorable than the same fantasies entertained while masturbating.
One implication is that male masturbation is not harmful to the submissive-man dynamic if the woman always decides when or if the masturbation happens and the woman is present during the masturbation, which will tend to keep the man's fantasies focused on her. Some dominant woman require their man to repeat their name continuously during the man's orgasm, as an additional way to ensure that the man's fantasies remain focused on her.
To summarize the techniques, the Addisons advise the woman to use to keep the man interested and excited about the submissive dynamic are as follows:
* the woman should regularly contrive or arrange a situation that demonstrates in concrete unequivocal emotionally-significant ways the woman's dominance. eg, insist that he perform some favor even if he feels tired or cranky.
* the woman should control when the man orgasms and the images and acts that go through the man's mind when that happens.
* between orgasms she should flirt with and tease the man.
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Slave training is a BDSM activity usually involving a consensual power exchange between two people taking on the roles of a master or mistress and a slave. Typically this involves changing the slave's behavior in a manner that is pleasing to the master or mistress, perhaps instructing the slave to follow a set of rules that the master or mistress has set out.
Slave training is a learning process both for the slave (or submissive) and for the master or mistress, or dominant. Training will usually be set out and defined clearly before it begins. The master or mistress will teach the slave how to speak, act and think in a way that is pleasing to them. The slave, in return, gets pleasure from being able to make their master or mistress happy. Or, the slave gets a reward like food, a bed, etc.[citation needed]
In some instances, in more extreme relationships, it may also involve some forms of aversion training. This could include use of spanking, cropping or clamping to encourage compliance, and to permit the slave to find an excuse for complying in their own minds. This can be challenging for the dominant, because if the "slave" being trained is also a masochist, they may enjoy punishment, therefore punishment may need to be withheld rather than applied, to create the unpleasant result that the punishment requires |
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Total power exchange (TPE) is a derivative of the concept of power exchange in a master/slave relationship. The term refers to a relationship where the dominant or owner has complete authority and influence over the submissive's life, making the majority of decisions. TPE is occasionally referred to as 24/7, denoting that protocol in the D/s relationship is in play anytime, anyplace and the dominant partner gets complete power at all times.
An early use of the term "total power exchange" occurred in the newsgroup Alt.sex.bondage href="/wiki/Alt.sex.bondage">alt.sex.bondage on February 3, 1995 by Jon Jacobs.[1], who wrote of his "...contention that total power exchange is possible and, apparently, that the play-party paradigm is not real power exchange."
- A TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship, sometimes described as an absolute lifestyle d&s relationship ... is a relationship in which no impediment to the exercise of the owner's power is accepted ... Such things as safewords, contracts, negotiated limits, and anything else which recognizes / acknowledges / formalizes limits on the owner's power are inimical to TPE.
Jacobs preferred to use the phrase absolute power exchange (APE), but both terms continued to be problematic for some people, including many who pursue these types of relationship, since the relationship is subject to the physical and the emotional limitations of the participants and therefore cannot genuinely be total or absolute. Partly as a result of these objections, the term internal enslavement (IE) was first used in 2000 to better describe the state of mind of these kinds of "consensual slaves".[2][3]
The slave may work to please or satisfy the master. This could include servitude, humiliation, public servitude, public use of collar and in some instances leash. |
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The Twelve Chief Rules in Love (Special Poly-BDSM Version):
- Thou shalt avoid avarice like the deadly pestilence and shalt embrace its opposite.
- Thou shalt keep thyself
chaste ^disease free for the sake of her whom thou lovest.
- Thou shalt not knowingly strive to break up a correct love affair that someone else is engaged in.
- Thou shalt not chose for thy love anyone whom a natural sense of shame forbids thee to marry.
- Be mindful completely to avoid falsehood.
Thou shalt not have many who know of thy love affair. Thou shalt not get arrested for public indecency.
- Being obedient in all things to the commands of
ladies ^dominants, thou shalt ever strive to ally thyself to the service of Love.
- In giving and receiving love's solaces let modesty be ever present ^unless commanded to be naked.
- Thou shalt speak no evil.
- Thou shalt not be a revealer of love affairs.
- Thou shalt be in all things polite and courteous.
- In practising the solaces of love thou shalt not exceed the desires of thy lover.
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Polyamory (from Greek p??? [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [literally ?love?]) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. The term polyamory is sometimes abbreviated to poly, and is sometimes described as consensual, ethical, or responsible non-monogamy. The word is sometimes used more broadly to refer to any sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies.
Polyamory can refer to the practice or status of a relationship at a given time, or used as a description of a lifestyle, philosophy or relationship orientation (much like gender orientation), rather than of an individual's actual relationship status at a given moment. It is an umbrella term that covers many orientations and modes of relationship. There is fluidity in its definition to accommodate the different shades of meaning which might be covered. Polyamorous relationships are themselves varied, reflecting the choices and philosophies of the individuals concerned.
Polyamory differs from polygamy, although the two terms are occasionally used incorrectly as if they are interchangeable. Polygamy more accurately refers to specific structures of recognized relationships, while polyamory is a personal outlook grounded in such concepts as choice, trust, equality of free will, and the idea of compersion, and newer cultural traditions distinct from the religious and cultural traditions of polygamy. |
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"It's the sheerest, most primitive, raw expression of self she can give. She gives only what is left, after the pride and defenses crumble and she is left exposed to His eyes. She gives herself, because she could not imagine not giving to Him."
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The difference between a submissive and a slave is not always clear cut and is often the subject of controversy within the lifestyle. In general, a submissive maintains a certain distance from her Master and retains some freedoms and a slave gives her all as well as her freedoms to her Master.
This discussion is about what elements make a submissive or a slave. They may not necessarily agree with what a person calls themselves. Often one finds individuals that call themselves a slave, when a submissive would be a better title and sometimes one sees a person described as a submissive that is more akin to a slave. I am not sure that the term Total Power Exchange (TPE) can be applied to a consensual slave. In normal cases, it seems impossible to have a TPE in a real world non forced slavery relationship and it is unusual in forced slavery cases. TPE seems to involve fantasy more than reality. In a true TPE relationship, it would mean that any order a Dominant could think of would have to be obeyed by the slave without question. For example, A Master could say, "I hate my neighbor, go get a gun and shoot him".
Like it or not in the real world there are restrictions on TPE. Very often the following restrictions, what some would call ethical boundaries, are a reality of a Master/slave relationship and are often documented in the slave contract.
The slave does not have to obey commands that:
a. conflict with any existing laws and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution of the slave
b. may cause extreme damage to slave's life, such as losing her job, causing family stress, etc
c. may cause permanent bodily harm to the slave
d. may cause psychological trauma to the slave, such as a rape scene for a slave that has been raped in the past
In my opinion, these restrictions placed on the authority of a Master do not weaken the Master/slave relationship, but reflect the reality of modern life. This is not a new concept in slave ownership because in the past many societies that endorsed slavery had restrictions on how a slave could be treated by the owner. One can look in the Bible to see examples of these restrictions. In the 1850?s a famous case in Polk County, TN involved the prosecution of a Master that mistreated his slaves. So the concept of TPE is not necessarily realistic in the modern concept of consensual slavery or in forced slavery.
Today, slavery within the lifestyle has NO relationship to the forced slavery of the past. Any slave can, if she chooses, execute her free will and leave the relationship, this is a reality. Yes, the objective is to train the slave to where she emotionally needs her Master and is attached to him and her slavery to a point where leaving her Master is unthinkable, but many Master/slave relationships end. Many end at the slave's request instead of the Master's request. So, any discussion of slave vs. submissive must be within the framework of the above restrictions imposed by modern life.
A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will. A slave initially makes a choice to obey her Master at all times and then submits to the will of her Master at all times.
A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience.
In my opinion, a submissive retains freedom of choice and a slave gives her freedom of choice to her Master. A submissive makes a choice to give her submission in a limited fashion, for a defined period of time and under certain conditions. A submissive can have a long-term relationship with a Master, but still retains certain controls. However, many are satisfied with casual role-play without any long-term goals. Training may or may not be involved between a Dominant and a submissive.
A submissive often has a list of conditions, rules, and limits that a Dominant is required to agree to before entering a session or relationship. These conditions, rules and limits usually define time, place and activity. It is not unusual for a submissive to start the relationship with rules and limits and release some or all of them as trust, respect and love for her Master grows. In fact, it?s a good practice when starting any new relationship. One should enter the relationship by giving only the amount of power that she feels safe in giving. The decision to become a slave should be postponed until both the Dominant and submissive know each other and trust each other.
A submissive can and often does role-play during an agreed to period of time with a Master. During this period the Master may have total control, then once the period is over, control returns to the submissive. The Master only borrows control of the submissive and to the extent the submissive wishes and she controls her submission.
One definition of a slave vs. a submissive is based upon the focus of the submissive. If the focus is on self then you are a submissive, if the focus is on your Master, then you are a slave. I am not sure that this is a complete definition for each one, however it is one dividing line between the two.
Being a submissive does not always involve:
1) A long-term commitment
2) Devotion to a Master
3) Obedience
4) Focus on the needs and desires of a Master
Again, there is no need to rush into slavery. One should start out as a submissive and get to know and trust her Master first. slavery is not for all submissives. If a submissive is unable or unwilling to accept slavery, for what ever reason, that is no great crime. Each person has to determine their needs and focus within the lifestyle.
slavery calls for a higher level of commitment and of serving, obeying and pleasing than submission. slavery is the complete commitment of a slave?s body, mind, soul, and spirit. She submits to the will of her Master. His choices become her choices. Obedience is a major focus in her life.
A slave has made a "choice decision." The "choice decision" she makes is to give her choices to her Master. Consent and obedience are always assumed to be part of slavery. Communication, mutual understanding and trust grow to the point to where it is no longer play but part of her life. A slave is owned all the time by her Master regardless of time, place or activity. She is owned by her Master when she is out of his presence. Trust in her Master and surrender to him is the starting point to slavery.
slaves enter into this relationship of their own free will. This is slavery by choice, not forced slavery. She decides to give her freedoms to her Master. She becomes a slave because she needs, desires and wants to serve, obey and please her Master at all times and in all ways, not because she is forced into slavery. Of course, there will be times when a slave will be forced to do some things, but it will not be something that goes against who she is as a person. Master?s often push limits and expand obedience in order to help a slave grow and increase her service to him. slaves become accustom to obedience and find joy and peace in it. A successful Master/slave relationship always involves happiness.
Being a slave means you are willing to be molded to fit her Master?s needs and to serve him. A slave is re-socialized and re-educated by her Master to serve, obey and please him. Her attention is on his happiness.
A Master is responsible for the needs and happiness of a slave. She gives him authority over her needs and happiness. However, a slave is responsible to communicate those needs and feelings. The limits of the Master become the limits of the slave. This does not happen overnight, it is a process of growing into slavery.
A slave does NOT give up thinking and reasoning and become mindless. This is the biggest misconception of slavery. It is a false charge that has been leveled at slaves mostly by cyber-subs and part time players as self-justification for their lack of total commitment. If a cyber-sub can make a slave look mindless then she can justify why she is better than a totally committed slave and supplies a reason why she calls herself a submissive. She reasons that "Naturally a good Master would not want a mindless slave, they surely would want a thinking cyber-sub instead." It?s a late addition to lifestyle thinking and only stated by some submissives. Generally, well informed submissives that feel secure in the lifestyle don?t try to blast slaves. It?s usually "wannabes."
One never hears a knowledgeable Master refer to a slave as mindless, because he knows better. He also knows that she is more straightforward and much more useful than any cyber-sub.
Often a slave is given great responsibilities within the relationship. They are given a general framework of limits and direction and expected to act within them using their own resources and abilities. A slave is often asked to express her thoughts on issues or problems, but realizes that the final decision is always her Master?s. The decision made by her Master becomes absolute for her.
Most slaves use their skills and talents within the Master/slave relationship to advance it and the wellbeing of their lifestyle. Most Master?s encourage this. Often Masters feel more at ease in using a slave to manage a project than they would a submissive. Throughout history slaves have been given responsibilities that require thought, planning and decision making, there is no reason to discontinue this practice in modern times where there is consensual slavery instead of forced slavery. Consensual slavery involves devotion, caring and obedience, why not take advantage of these traits in a slave as well as her knowledge and skills.
As stated above, the word "doormat" is often used by wannabes and cyber-subs to describe slaves. My definition of "doormat" would be that of a person that is used by another person for their own benefit without regard for that persons feelings, growth, or well being. A Master assumes responsibility for his slave?s body and well-being and is always concerned about the development and mental well being of his slave. She is his property and he has no reason to destroy his property. In fact, he has a great interest in her development. Percentage wise, who is more likely to be used as a "doormat", a slave or a submissive that has a casual meeting with a Dominant?
One often hears "A slave has NO voice in the relationship." This is another misconception of slavery. Often, a Master with common sense will seek the opinion of a slave before making a decision in many areas. It?s impossible to find a slave that does not have more knowledge in some areas than does her Master. In areas where she has experience, knowledge and training, it would be foolish for him not to seek her advice before reaching a decision. In addition, it?s often better to bounce your ideas off someone else before reaching a final decision. A good slave will welcome the chance to aid her Master by offering an intelligent opinion. A slave has input into many of the decision making processes that are required in life, but the Master makes the final decision.
slavery is NOT an escape from life. Past, present and future problems don?t magically disappear into the night never to be seen again. For example, past credit card debts don?t disappear, but a Master may plan repayment and place his slave on a budget. slavery is a completion of a slave?s natural feelings and needs, not an escape.
A slave enjoys submission and, over time, that submission becomes deep enough to elicit feelings of being owned or fully controlled by her Master. Not all submissives become slaves, but all slaves are submissive.
slavery always requires a long-term commitment by the slave to her Master and she is owned at all times. slavery always requires obedience. A friend in response to reading a draft of this article stated in an email to me that she didn't know how many people start out as slaves, but in her opinion it is a process of "becoming a slave." One starts as a submissive and over time grows into slavery. I fully agree with this statement.
There appears to be no right or wrong way, one can be a slave or submissive. It depends on the needs and desires of the individuals involved. Some Masters don't want a slave and some don't want a submissive. In addition, depending on the personality of the person, some submissives will never be a slave and some slaves would never be happy as a submissive. It is a choice that one must make in their life.
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Facesitting, also known as queening, is a sexual practice in which one partner sits on or over the other's face, typically to allow or force oral-genital or oral-anal contact, or to further ass worship or body worship. It is common for this position to form part of BDSM, involving dominance and submission, though this need not be the case. Within a BDSM or D/s context, face-sitting can be an especially intense form of erotic humiliation.
Facesitting is common among dominant and submissive individuals, for demonstrating superiority and for sexual gratification. It is also practiced by couples for cunnilingus where the woman kneels over the man, and sits on his upper chest rather than face.
Unlike smothering, in facesitting the bottom partner is not deprived of air.
The full-weight body-pressure, moisture, sex odors and darkness can be perceived as powerful sexual attractions or compulsions. The person sat upon may be in bondage, sexually submissive, or simply held down by the body-weight of the other person. Sometimes special furniture is used, such as a smotherbox or queening stool.
A queening stool is a low seat which fits over the submissive's face and contains an opening to allow oral-genital and/or oral-anal stimulation of the domme while seated. In modern BDSM vernacular, the queening stool allows open access to the crotch while seated. The position allows the pelvic floor muscles (PFM) to relax and therefore partly exposing the labia minora to intimate touch. The gluteus maximus, levator ani and puborectalis or sphincter recti muscles, the major muscles of the crotch, can relax and sag allowing easy access to the vagina and rectum. The queening stool is also related to a "smotherbox," which also allows the person under the seat to be locked in place, restrained by the neck as in a set of stocks. |
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Femdom, or female dominance, refers to BDSM activities where the dominant partner is female; the submissive partner may be of either sex. A female dominant is sometimes called a domme (Template:PronEng), femdomme, domina, or dominatrix. In the English speaking world, "mistress" is by far the most common dominatrix title, while in most of continental Europe, the most common titles are, and some are etymologically related, maitresse, maid, maidress, matress, mother, mate, madre, or "momina." The most common dominatrix title in the Spanish language is "ama." The equivalent Japanese term is ??? (joosama, or queen).
Femdom activities may draw on all areas of BDSM. Feminization and strap-on dildo play are common activities, as well as panty fetishism and boot worship. Cuckolding is also an area of female dominance.
Erotic humiliation can focus on the inadequacy of a male's penis, demoting it to a plaything for the dominatrix, over which the male has no real control. Related femdom activities include ballbusting, cock and ball torture (CBT), verbal humiliation, forced chastity, orgasm denial, and forced homosexuality (in which a dominant female forces a heterosexual male to engage in homosexual acts for her amusement, or as part of feminization)
Many participants in this lifestyle conform to the safe, sane and consensual and RACK models prpage does not exist)" href="/index.php?title=Cunnilingus&action=edit&redlink=1" rel=nofollow>cunnilingus and body worship, especially foot worship and ass worship. Heavier and more intense female domination scenarios may involve facesitting or smothering, which tend to focus on the sub giving the dominant female oral pleasure, or the dominant female performing anal sex on the sub using a strap-on dildo (see pegging). Other forms of more intense female domination can include face slapping, hair pulling, caning, heavy torture, dripping hot wax on the genitals and heavy whipping. For these purposes, note the issue of legal consent which may or may not represent a defense to criminal liability for any injuries caused. |
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