LumusAgain

I glanced through the menu of journal entries, and must admit I found them...lacking.

There are those who blather about their situation in a way close to fantasy, and for them, perhaps it is.  Nothing wrong with that, but it is unfulfilling - much like viewing a good meal being had through a window. 

Others are braggadocious, well and good for your internal perception yet rarely the same externally. 

Who has had a good day?  Or even a bad one?  What transpired?

There's meat on those bones, but it's hard to see for all the gravy.

If one desires a sample, merely ask.  Asking is free.  What transpires from it is another thing altogether. 

Put a pic up, taking it down tomorrow.  If you're curious, best look now.

And no, I do not offer eye bleach.

"That thing you did that time."

It's entirely possible to have enjoyed something in the past, but not now.  Why?  Because people change, situations change and most importantly, you change.

Some take the opposite approach.  "I did this one thing one time with this person and it was so great I must have it in any relationship."

Valid, but understand: your play partner has things they want, too.  You can be as dominant as all get out, but you still need to acknowledge that.  If you can't, what kind of leadership are you truly capable of?

A few idle thoughts.

Do you have urges?  Interests?  Things you are fearful of expressing?

That's...normal.

You are absolutely not alone in this.

However.  (Of course, there's a caveat.)

Know your situation and act accordingly to your choices.

If your marriage or committed relationship is bad, you're not alone in that, either, but you made a choice.

Honour yourself and the person you avowed to.  Face it, work through it, then move on.

If you come here fir a "side piece", you know you're trying to wriggle out of pre-selected commitments. 

End it, work through it...then seek something new.

If you can't do that, what are you carrying to the new dynamic?

Think about that.  Think about it, HARD.

You are entitled to happiness and joy.  That cannot be prioritized above your standing state, or you will only hurt yourself, and others.

/PSA

"Be kind.  Be mindful."

I say this to anyone brave enough to address me, but it feels as though it has general practical applications.

Don't like it?  Check the mirror before you reply.  Cheating is definitely a kink, but one that comes with a price, and a lot of you kids need to hear that.