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Male Submissive, 38, Annapolis, Maryland
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Female Submissive, 55, SanDiego, California
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About Lovinitall
We're seeking an open-minded woman, 21-35, to explore a polyamorous relationship with us. A little about us and our 'lifestyle' experience:
- We've previously been in two poly relationships that were lengthy (over 4 years each). Both ended amicably, the last when we relocated to Las Vegas from the east coast at the end of 2010.
- We aren't 'swingers' and we don't consider our relationships 'open'.
- We are both fit and (I think!) attractive. Him-forty three,six',175,Br/Br ... Her-thirty three,five-three,120,Bl/Gr.
- We don't rush into anything - especially sex. We aren't trying to find someone to fulfill a threesome fantasy. Meeting out first for coffee, a cocktail (or whatever) would be our preference, and if meeting me alone the first time would make you feel more comfortable, that's fine, too.
- We ARE trying to find someone who is compatible with the both of us, is more of a 'girlie girl' (like me :), enjoys both going out and staying in, and is comfortable in her own skin. While prior experience in a poly relationship certainly isn't a requirement, please think about the dynamics of three people ultimately living together prior to responding.
- We don't always travel 'in a pack'. I enjoy interacting with another girl while shopping and doing other girl stuff. When he goes out, it is typically with the whole family (all three of us - the dogs stay home!)
- I just can't be clearer than this: While sex is certainly a part of a happy, healthy relationship of any kind, it is not the driving force in our lives. We know how to have fun and hope you do, too.
- Because of the interpersonal dynamics of three people in a relationship, we've found that someone who is more submissive than dominant seems to fit better with us. That doesn't mean that there is a 'third wheel' or that any of the partners are less equal than another. I am a bit submissive myself, but please don't get the impression that he is some type of overbearing, dominant figure, as that isn't the case. The right person will understand what I mean (hopefully).
- Please, no responses from men.
- We are financially secure, live in a relatively nice home (6000+sf on 5 acres), and whether our partner chooses to work or not is up to her.
I think I could write a book, but I have to stop somewhere. If you have any questions, please feel free to write.
Hope to hear from you soon! ~ Faye
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Since relocating to Vegas, I've once again been inundated with mail. Same result, though - no one wants to hop on cam with me to introduce themselves. Why is that? Seriously, I just don't understand CollarMe....is it just a place for advertising hits? Are there any real people that actually use the site besides men?
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So busted!
I've received a couple of emails (I was very surprised) but yes, I was on The Maury Show. I guess that sort of pushes aside all questions about me being me :)
I think it re-airs a couple of times this month, and yes, I know I look a little silly, but watch it if you get a chance. They even show me in (almost) full Domme gear....whip (crop, actually), paddle, and all!
Best to all ~ Faye
P.S. You'll know what the 'busted' part means if you see the show - no, I wasn't cheating, and there wasn't any 'baby mama drama' ;) |
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Oy, I'm A Bitch!
C'mon girls....if you've been on CollarMe for 3 days or have your 'joined date' turned off, please don't email me. If you collect friends by the 100's, please don't email me -- maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I'm not going to be anybody's "friend" unless I'm their friend! I don't mind if you don't have a lot of info in your profile, but at least tell me about yourself when you write for the first time...I can't read minds yet! If you want to know something about me, ask. I'm happy to answer any questions you may have. Yes, I have a partner. No, I'm not 'trolling' for him. Yes, it's okay if you're a lesbian. He's not really into the sexual aspects of M/s relationships (explanation upon request).
And on a "I'm not completely shallow, but..." note: If your profile doesn't have a pic, please send one. You don't have to be a super model, have a pefect body, or any of that nonsense. I still must have some physical attraction, though, so a pic would be appreciated.
Have a good one! ~ Faye |
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Obama Wins - Let Freedom Ring?
Gosh, I felt so old watching the election results Tuesday night. With CNN's cuts to the crowd and the faces of young people, awash with naivete and hope, I couldn't help think how my mindset has changed over the last ten years. There were many, "I wish the world really was like I thought it was then" moments. Let me explain...
I used to believe that, for the most part, the government stood for the people. After reading books on every President since FDR (Yes, I read authors that both crooned and crowed), one thing is very clear...change is mighty slow in D.C., and almost no President has altered the landscape of domestic thinking during his term(s) in office. Certainly there have been pieces of legislation that brought about immediate change, but it didn't really change people's minds overall. Even major civil liberties legislation in the 60's didn't change the way people thought -- vast numbers of private schools were founded to keep white kids from being exposed to the evils of integraton. Funny how 40 years later supporters of integration are moaning over getting what they asked for back then -- access to the same schools white children were attending. Explanation upon request....
On The CollarMe Front
Mail to me has virtually stopped, which reaffirms my thinking that the vast majority of users are simply not real. Apologies to those that are.
Anyone willing to work with me in forming a site that requires validation/verification before having a profile posted may contact me. I'm willing to finance the venture, but I don't have the time or knowledge to actually develop such a site. I'm not interested in competing with CollarMe, but I would sure like to visit a site and know that every profile I viewed was real. When I began doing cam shows years ago, the first site I joined required verification. It took about 2 minutes, and the site was immensly popular because the operator would not allow the girls to advertise anything they couldn't deliver (fast internet connections, fancy cameras, etc.) They guys knew upfront what they were "buying", and they really appreciated it. The BDSM world needs a site like that. Really.
Best to all ~ Faye |
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California's Proposition 8
I admit it. I was a supporter of Propostition 8 when I first heard of it. Now, before going all preachy on me, let me explain: I think civil unions between same sex couples should be recognized by law, and said unions should be afforded the same "luxuries" married couples have: tax implications, insurance benefits, et al. But how to dissolve such a union? Certainly there has to be a method in place to form such a union, and there must be a method in place to dissolve it, too.
Well it turns out that there already is: Marriage
See, any reduction in the burden of establishing such a union degrades the system from which the union's partners become benefactors. Then there are issues like spousal division of property, custody, etc. An effort to write an entirely new code pertaining to these issues if "civil unions" were allowed to be created would mean a duplication of all of the same issues that have already been resolved by precedant. In other words, if it walks like a duck, call it a duck.
With a nearly 50% divorce rate in our country, can same sex marriages really be any worse? As far as the "sacred institution of marriage", our already prudish society is so hypocritical that I just don't see what is being protected.
Obama and His Landslide
It looks like Obama is ready to take the reigns, and only a very strange turn of events seems capable of stopping him now. I've said before that I am apolitical, but the notion of having a Democratic President, a 'Super' Senate, and a Democratic House is almost too scary to consider. I'm not anti-Obama, I AM fearful of a White House that has its party in control of congress. We saw what happened when Bush had this type of control in his first term. My, my how our history lessons re so soon forgotten!
Best to all ~ Faye |
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Giving Up Again....
I tried...I really did. It's so hard for me to imagine that, with so many profiles on CollarMe that express interests so similar to mine, that I still have not made even one contact with ANYONE! It's really incredible -- I'm just not sure how that can even be!
Oh well, shoot me a note if you want...it gets forwarded to my regular email, so I'll login when I get mail here. Otherwise, I seem to have lost the will to even try here anymore. A BDSM site with real people would do so very well connecting people with one another -- I'm sure it wouldn't generate the ad revenue this site does, but that's not the point from where I sit.
Best to all ~ Faye |
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Ack! I Can't Keep My Mouth Shut!
So, Obama has raised $600 million dollars so far. A record, to be sure, but now he's outspending McCain 4:1 in advertisements. It is AMAZING to me that a political candidate can raise over 1/2 a BILLION dollars for an election...really, just mind-blowing. I'm not sure how it is for federal elections, but our local politicians get to personally keep the money they raise but don't spend on their campaigns -- I found this had to believe when I first heard it, but it's true, at least where I live. In a mayoral race some time back, the losing candidate pocketed over $300k that his campaign had as a surplus after the lection -- he lost by less than 400 votes in a town of 600,000. You can believe his supporters where wondering if he could have won had he spent the surplus. One has to believe that $300k would have been enough to get 500 votes or so (not uiggesting 'buying' votes, but using the money to pursuade voters through the media, etc.)
That's all for now! Best to all ~ Faye |
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On Religion....
Strangely enough, I get comments about religion more often than I would have expected, so I'd like to say a few words about where I stand. I almost never speak for my man, but we share very similar views in this arena, so here goes:
I'm very tolerant of almost all religions that teach fundamental "goodness". That includes Islam, by the way. Please do not attempt to engage me in a theological debate on Islam unless you have read and understand the Koran -- I have, and I am prepared to shoot down (maybe a bad choice of words) remarks that are made that have no literary basis. I am not Islamic. I am not a Christian. I am not Jewish. I am not a Buddhist. I am agnostic, and my theological ideology is my own -- I don't attempt to force it on others, and I certainly have no tolerance for those that wish to force their's on me.
More 'Off Limits' Stuff
- I am pro-choice. My very closest friends have no business telling me what I can or cannot do with my body, much less a bunch of elected officials for whom I did not vote.
- I am anti-regulation. The government fucks up most things they touch, and I have no reason to believe that this is going to change anytime in the near future.
As I watched the debates, much was made of the $750 billion "rescue" package, and the 'no big compensation for CEOs' provision. Sadly, most Americans are poorly informed: There is no significant provision in the rescue package that specifically prohibits CEOs from making big money. There is a provision reducing the base compensation a participating organization's CEO may receive -- $500k (down from the $1m previously in place since the early '90s). The only thing that has changed is the tax structure on how this compensation must be treated. There will still be plenty of Wall Street execs that earn 10's of millions of dollars annually -- even if they participate in the 'bail-out'. For goodness sakes, read the actual Bill before you voice an opinion. It doesn't take much longer than an average novel, and you'll be much better informed.
Best to all ~ Faye -- Yes, I stopped with the horizontal rules....for the most part, anyway :)
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Oy Vey!
It seems my last journal entry was not met kindly by some people. I think it's interesting that CollarMe, by definition, should be a pretty liberal place where many personality types and various desires are found, yet the notion that I would accept a lesbian as a sub seems to have really hit a nerve with some. The responses have run the gamut:
- "You can't be a lesbian if you're involved with a man!" -- I never said I was a lesbian!!!
- "You're a fake. No man would ever accept a lesbian as a submissive." -- I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to call bullshit on that. Not all men (especially men that have sexual options outside of the M/s arena) need to have sex with their subs. Period. End of story. I'm truly sorry if you've been brainwashed into thinking otherwise.
- "You can't love a lesbian unless you are a lesbian." -- I don't agree.
There were some other virulent remarks, but I'm not going to address them. Gosh, how hard is the following concept:
If you don't like what you see or read when you visit my profile, you don't have to consider me during your search for a relationship. I promise I won't be offended!
Best to all ~ Faye |
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And On A Matter That Some Might Consider A Little Bizarre
Though I have a man, and though he certainly wants to interact with our sub/slave (should by some miracle I actually ever find one on CollarMe), I will consider a lesbian. As hard as it may be to believe, he doesn't actually have to have sex with our sub to be satisfied with her service. I'm happy to explain this to any lesbian sub/slaves that are interested in the details.
Best to all ~ Faye |
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To All The Girls I've Viewed Before.....
(Apologies to Julio Iglesias) -- I view profiles quite often, but I don't send a lot of emails out on CollarMe. If I've viewed your profile and not sent you an email, it doesn't mean that I didn't like what I saw....it means I was probably too lazy to send an email. I really don't do one-liners, so most email I send is personal and....LONG! There is only so much time in the day, and I work for a living, albeit from home. The point is that if I've taken a look at your profile but have not written, please send me a note if you are interested in getting to know me better. Please remember, though, that I don't do the "cyber-sex" thing, and I'm going to want to speak with you on the phone after just a few contacts (I'll give my number to the right person). Not to be a royal bitch, but if you just send me a one-line note like "Nice Profile", I probably won't respond -- not that I don't appreciate the compliments, but one-liners tend to be from less serious people.
Have a great day! ~ Faye |
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I'VE BEEN "OUTTED"!!!!
I received an email from a CollarMe member who happened to run across my "professional services" elsewhere on the internet. Just because I am a Pro Domme does not mean that I don't have personal desires I want fulfilled, also. In fact, it should make any little subbie's heart beat with excitement that she's not getting involved with a wannabe -- I know what I want, how I want it, and have a boatload of experience getting it! |
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Email And Stuff...
Hmm...I'll get a nice person contact me, we'll send a couple of emails back and forth, and then they vanish. I shower daily (sometimes twice! :), so I don't think that's it. If we talk and you're not interested, just say so. I'm a big girl -- you're not going to bruise my ego. If you don't receive a reply from me, it probably means I didn't get your message. I generally have the courtesy to reply, even if I'm not interested. I see that many girls say that they receive hundreds of emails per day -- I just don't know about that. Even so, they signed up "for the program", so get busy or.......well, you get the idea.
Best to all ~ Faye |
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Happy Columbus Day!
Okay, someone asked me why I put these weird horizontal lines in my journal entries. Well, I'm not sure....when I try to view my ramblings without the horizontal lines, it all runs together. There's probably a better way to do it, but since I haven't figured it out......
That feels good! Some girls are easily amused.
I'm not one to be spanked -- I am the spanker, not the spankee. With that said, I deserve a sound whipping after not going with my instinct about the panic selling on Wall Street last week. I watched as General Motors dropped below $4.75 and said to anyone who would listen that now was the time to load up. I thought, "How low can it go?". The government is simply not going to let GM go the way WaMu, as it would crush consumer confidence almost to the point of revolt (imo). Now I'm watching as "pre-traders" (that would be people who get to do special stuff that regular Janes don't get to do) have driven GM back up to $5.75 as of this writing. I'm not a big Wall Street follower, but when it dominates the news, it's hard not to pay attention. Lions and Tgers and Bears..Oh My!
We were at the mall yesterday taking random pictures when we noticed a group of twenty-something girls walking our way. There were about 7 of them, 4 of which were yummy. I said, "Start snapping!". Well, of course the inevitable happened......the girls threw little bitch fits because we were taking their picture, but I convinced them it was for a local publication and they got all excited. In the end, one of them agreed to sit for a modeling session today, and I have a feeling she's up for more than that. I'll post the results tomorrow. I'm evil.......
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Moving Right Along....
After my semi-rant about politics in another journal post, I sort of said to myself that I would keep my political (or apolitical, if you will) thoughts to myself. This is really more about the economy, but I think the two are married to some degree.
Okay, so the market loses 20% of its value in a week (yes, girls can follow the market, too). I was speaking with a friend (male, of course. My girlfriends only want to talk about how their husbands have jumped them for spending too much...shallow group. I'm sorry to say). Did you see how billionaires fared over the last month? Gates lost about $1.5b , the average billionaire (in the top 100) lost $1b. Guess who made money? Warren Buffett, of course. Forbes did a recalculation of American billionaires net worth following the bullshit that has taken place over the last 30 days. While everyone else was busy losing money, WB increased his net worth by $8b -- IN 33 DAYS!!! Gates had been the richest American for 15 years. So sad that he's only worth $55.5b now. He'll be getting free cheese before long :(
It seems that Americans are buying Obama's call for increased regulation, as he is pulling away in the polls. I wonder how many people who claim to support Obama will actually be able to pull the trigger when they are alone in the voting booth? It hurts me to say that I think, by and large, people are NOT color blind, and I think many people are going to have a problem voting for a black man. That's wrong, of course, but that's America. Does increased regulation scare me? Damn right it does! Increased regulation = closer move towards socialism, and we see how that worked out for China for the 50 years preceeding their "new economy". Are you scared? Well, if you value your freedom, you should be, though it's hard to imagine another administration like Bush's being allowed to strip us of so many of our civil liberties. I have to walk through the airport in my stockings -- they don't even make Israeli's do that, and they actually have terrorists over there! Yes, that's right....I don't think we have terrorists in this country, unless you include gangs that profit from our screwed up drug policy. Seems like I've mentioned this before, so I'll change the subject now....
Back to the market....General Motors closed Friday below $5/share for the first time since 1951. In case you don't know this, there are a group of special people who are allowed to trade when the market is closed. I expect that GM will open Tuesday above $5. If it doesn't, I may make my first foray into the stock market since 1999. That's when my man advised me to liquidate the measly $11k that I had invested in tech stocks. Over the next three months after I sold my stuff, the value of my portfolio would have decreased by a third. Thanks old man! :) My parents lost over $100k, and that was really a bunch of money to them. It put off their retirement by several years, though they regained their pre-bubble value about 4 years later. They got out then, bought real estate, and now they are doing fine (they are in an area where real estate values have not been crushed by recent events).
I wondered if anyone actually reads my stuff, and my curiousity was laid to rest when I received a nice note from someone who said she did. That meant a lot to me, so I'd like to send a special "thank you" to her...muah! :=)
Okay, time to talk about CollarMe. I will devote the next paragraph to all the new opportunities CollarMe has brought into my life since my last journal entry. Here goes:
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(Pretty sad -- even the men pretending to be women have stopped writing me. I guess they've figured out that I'm not going to be fooled by their lame efforts. Just as well, though)
Back to politics, my friends. Yes, that's supposed to be a joke. Every time McCain said "My Friends" it made me cringe, not unlike fingernails raking along a blackboard. Glad we have all those dry erase boards now....I never likes real blackboards, anyway.
I hope everyone has a great, long Columbus Day weekend! What did he do, anyway? He didn't discover America, and we aren't named after him (I think Amerigo Vespucci is our namesake..probably misspelled that). Oh well, I'll take the "free day" anyway! :)
Best to all ~ Faye
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Another Day In Paradise!
Well, not exactly, but the weather is perfect and it's nice to take the dogs for a walk and not pant from the heat (me, that is -- haha). I had a couple of girls/guys/whatevers contact me on CM and tell me how everything in my journal is EXACTLY how they think. Guess what? You don't have to agree with every point I make, they're just opinions and points-of-view. Trying to ingratiate one's self by simply saying that we MUST be compatible because we think the same way is not only not necessary, but probably not always true as well. The people that understand this are the people I hope to meet! :)
Nothing much else to say today, so I hope everyone has a great weekend, and I'll talk to you soon!
Best to all ~ Faye |
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And The Beat Goes On.......
I had a nice submissive girl who is currently serving a Dom share with me her incredibly brilliant idea. Time to weed out the "dead weight" on this site and find some real human beings.....
Got an email today from a recently seized financial institution offering to increase my credit limit. Only in America -- what a bunch of BS.
Best to all ~ Faye |
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More Of The Same
Well, it was a pretty uneventful weekend. I did a short modeling gig on Saturday (nothing special -- a local bridal shop needed someone. They spent 2 hours trying to make me look 21...lol). I've started packing for our move to Vegas even though it's several months away. I'm excited!! While we're in Vegas for the NetGirls event, we are going to look at more houses. The real estate market there is terrible for sellers, so I hope that's a good thing for us (I don't wish misfortune on anyone, but.....)
Nothing much on the CollarMe front. There's a young girl that has expressed some interest, but we'll see how it goes when it gets to the "I'm ready to talk to you on the phone" stage. That's usually when they vanish. I swear, if someone started a site that required some type of identity verification before allowing people to post profiles, it would be a huge success.
Since I've been creating posts in my journal, the number of people that have tried to contact me has dropped significantly. I guess the part about actually being able to prove I'm a real human being (TheNetGirls.com) has dissuaded the 'fantasy' crowd, and I suspect that's the vast majority of users here. Eternal optimism is a good thing, though. :)
Have a great week!
Best to all ~ Faye |
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Off Limits!!
Politics and religion are generally regarded as topics that are off limits in polite company. With the Presidential elections nearing, I feel compelled to make some comments about my observations of the candidates. Before I start, let me say that I respect the right of anyone to disagree -- we still live in America (I think), and healthy debate is always welcomed.
Obama: Are you the type of person that thrives on conflict? Are you a miserable human being that loves company? If so, vote for Obama, because the selection of Obama as President of the U.S. could spell disaster of monstrous proportion. It's not a leap to say that Obama supports heavy governemnt regulation. In fact, it's not a leap at all -- he said it himself. I paraphrase, "The idea that giving money to the rich and that somehow they (the rich) will spend it in such a way that benefits the middle class is wrong. We've tried trickle down economics, and it just doesn't work."
Say what? I'm not old enough to really remember the Reagan administration, so I did a little reading. The cornerstone of Reagan's economic plan was based on trickle down economics, and it helped America recover from the worst recession since the great depression. My parents purchased a home when I was just a baby (1984), and they told me they had good credit, got the best interest rate available at the time, and it was still 14.5%. 14.5%!!!!! Think about that for a moment. If I had to borrow based at that rate today, the payment on my home would be over $3600 compared to the $2300 (P&I) that we currently pay. $1300 per month is a huge difference, and of course means that buyers don't get as much for their money.
Back to Obama: What do his plans to regulate everything in site really mean? This is very, very simple: higher taxes. The U.S. already borrows money from China, and there simply is no extra money for new regulation. Period. I heard a commentator say that the $700b bailout plan alone would cost every man, woman, and child in the United States over $2000.Every time the governemnt spends a dime, the money mut come from somewhere. That somewhere is you and me.
But wait! Obama says that 90% of Americans will not see an income tax increase. Let's say that's true (but I doubt it -- every politician says they will not raise taxes, yet they always seemm to go up). There are other ways for the government to tax us. Excise taxes on gas, liquor, tobacco, tires, etc. are an example. Even a federal sales tax is not out of the question. This is simple math. Governement spending increases and we have to pay for it -- period.
So, I must be a McCain supporter, right? Goodness no. Here is a man that believes there is a good plan for our continuing military activities in the Middle East. In my opinion, there is only one "good" plan, and that's to get out of there. Between Iraq and Afghanistan, we will end up spending very close to ONE TRILLION DOLLARS before all is said and done. That would have been enough money to provide each and every American with tax relief substantial enough to pay for our entire health care insurance and still have a surplus. BTW, we pay over $1200/month in health insurance premiums for just two people, and that's going up in two months.
But that's not all. Though Republicans are certainly pro-"self regulation", there are other issues they support that are just wrong. These right-wing nuts want to control what goes on in our bedrooms (anti-gay sentiments), how we as women choose to make decisions about our bodies (anti-abortion positions), and other so-called "moral" issues. LEAVE US THE HELL ALONE ALREADY!!! Everything the government touches turns to crap, and that goes for both parties.
What's the answer? I don't know, but we are in a very strange time in our nation's history. Thankfully me and mine have the financial wherewithal to withstand this period of uncertainty.
Still want to be my sub? Not only will I spank your ass for misbehaving, but I'm fully capable of "spanking your brain", too.
I'm not a pessimist, though. I like to think that we will prevail. We always have, and I expect we always will. I used to say this in my profile, but let me say it again here: I take care of those that take care of me -- might that be you?
Best to all ~ Faye
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I've noticed more and more that people seem to be collecting "friends". I'm not being critical of anyone, but it takes a lot more than a simple request to be added to my "friends" list -- in fact, I don't think I've ever invited anyone...not because I've not had some nice people contact me, but because before I call someone "friend", it's going to take more than 2 email exchanges. Just an fyi.... |
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Blogs And Such
I know it's increasingly popular for people to start and maintain their own personal blogs, but I've never had one. I've decided to start a pseudo-blog here on CollarMe, and here's my reason:
I've now been on CollarMe for years. I've changed my profile several times in an effort to best depict me, my personality, the type of person I seek, etc. At times, I have even modified my profile to attempt to attract exactly the opposite of the person I'm looking for, just to see if the response rate changed.
It didn't.
My position is pretty clear: I just don't think CollarMe is populated by very many real women. I've postulated on why CollarMe exists: Is it an entertainment platform? Is it a site that exists soley for the owners to generate ad revenue? The fact is, I don't know. I know there has to be at least a couple of real women seeking the type of realtionship I want. Maybe my blog-type spewings will bring them out of the woodwork.
First, a tad more about "really me".....
- I'm real....really! I used to say in my profile that I'd be happy to turn on my webcam virtually anytime (exception: if it's bedtime and I've just put my hair back, washed off all of my make-up, and donned a skin mask, you're not going to see me...period!) All I wanted in return was for whomever was requesting to do the same. Do you know how many women took me up on my offer? None. Zero. Nada. Wow.......
I'm participating in the NetGirls event in Las Vegas in November. Check out the details at www.TheNetGirls.com (it's NOT porn!)
I've been accused of being a man, I've been accused of 'trolling' for my man, I've been accused of really being submissive because I don't engage in online 'domming', etc. The link should prove I'm really who I say I am. I'm not trolling for anyone -- in fact, my man laughs at me for even holding out hope that CollarMe might ever yield a positive result. As for being a sub, that's just crazy. I don't submit to my man, nor does he submit to me. We are both strong personalities, and we make our relationship work through a division of 'labor', if you will. He takes on responsibilities that are of interest to him, and I do the same. To all the naysayers, doubters, and generally pessimistic souls that have an opinion about this, all I can say is don't write me if you don't believe me.
To All The 'Man Haters':
I get it -- you don't like men. Please don't ask me to slip around behind my man's back. I don't cheat, I don't lie, and he affords me the same courtesy. We are life mates, we trust each other, and we respect each other's opinions. I'm not going to do anything that violates that trust, and I don't expect he will, either. Jealousy might be the most useless emotion, and it has no place in our lives. I'll never give it a chance to slip in, either.
Why I don't Write In 'Girl-Speak':
I've heard this, too. "You don't write like a girl." What does that mean? No, I don't write in pink. No, I don't fill my writings with girlie cliches. When did it become a sin to be an educated woman who happens to be able to write coherent sentences? Really, I want to believe that being intelligent would be seen by potential relationship "material" as being a good thing!
To People Who Have Never Enjoyed Being In An Alternative Rrelationship:
We've had the good fortune to be in relationships with submissive females in the past. One lasted about a year, the other nearly three. We remain close to both girls. I understand that someone who has never 'taken the leap' might be a little scared (and they should very definitely be cautious), but please don't make that my burden. I'm not going to try and talk you into anything, as I have nothing to sell. I am who I am. Yes, I will answer your questions, but it isn't my job to answer, "Why should I pick you?". My "job" is to tell you about us, find out more about you, and hope the stars line up for all concerned.
Please listen!! If you are meeting someone for the first time, BE SAFE! Meet in a public place. Tell your friends or family where you'll be. There are so many nut jobs in the world that not taking the proper precautions is just plain reckless.
And A Final Word About 'What We Want':
My man and I want different things from our relationship with a submissive. For example, he is not interested in threesomes (nor am I). He tends to be a little more nurturing than me (do not make the mistake of thinking he's looking for someone who acts like a baby -- he isn't). I lean more toward the 'service' side, if that makes sense. We can (and have) participate in a relationship where the submissive wants us to control many (if not all) aspects of her life. We have also had the pleasure of a relationship with an independant-thinking sub. No, 'indepedant-thinking submissive' is not an oxymoron. If you don't understand that, I don't know what to say.
Okay, that's a start. More later.
Best to all ~ Faye |
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I'm at a loss for words.....
No two people are alike. Nothing is 'absolute'. Adaptablity is key in ALL relationships, regardless of whether they have a BDSM component or not. I've stayed away from CollarMe for quite some time because, well, there just doesn't seem to be any real people here. So I log on and am inundated with mail from 'slaves' and 'subs' -- they want to tell me how they don't do this, or my profile says x, I must have a problem. It's just not possible to cover the entire spectrum of relationship dynamics in a little profile blurb.
Best to all ~ Faye |
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