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About LovingMistress45
I have updated this hoping to clarify a few things - I am only interested in a sub/slave that is single/unattached and looking for a LTR live-in situation. I am open to either male or female respondents.
If you do not live near me, you must be available to meet in person within 2-3 weeks of online chatting (and please note that is talking, not cyber sex/domination) at your expense. You would need to be available to relocate quickly - I have no interest in long distance or online relationships.
If you say you are a slave, please be sure you understand what that means and know the difference between a sub and slave. I am open to either but probably lean more toward a slave or extremely submissive with few limits.
I am seeking a domestic service oriented sub/slave. You will take care of the house, yard, animals and your Mistress.
I am a single, 49 year old BBW Dominant, 325lbs, about 5'1", short auburn hair, brown eyes. I am a sensual Dominant/Sadist and enjoy pain play so need a submissive that enjoys receiving pain. I am not into cutting, branding or other extreme forms of pain play.
I am not looking for a play partner, but a life partner. Play is great fun, but I want a committed full-time relationship based on a M/s lifestyle.
The proper way to address me is Ma'am. I don't allow the use of the title Mistress unless I have accepted a sub at least on a trial basis. The title has meaning to me and I don't like it to be used casually.
What I am looking for:
The Best of Both Worlds…
…that is what I am looking for. A submissive that can move seamlessly from the vanilla world to our D/s life and back again. One that understands that 24/7 does not mean naked at my feet or sceneing all day, but rather indicates the acknowledgement that no matter how vanilla our activity is at any given moment s/he is always my sub and I his/her Mistress. One that understands this is not just a game for sexual gratification, but a commitment to a very special relationship. A wo/man that can stand by my side in the vanilla world and be comfortable there as my partner/lover/friend and with just glance or whisper from me, kneel at my feet and be just as comfortable there.
I am not into Superiority/inferiority. I want a wo/man that knows his/her submission is a special part of himself and freely chooses to give it to me. Once given it is my choice what I do with it and whatever I choose s/he finds fulfillment in pleasing me. Whether it be something mundane as cleaning the bathroom or as stimulating as being bound and tortured for my pleasure.
My sub is intelligent and able to communicate his/her desires, needs and fears to me. S/he understands when I ask for him/her to do something it is really not a request but a command that s/he is to follow or immediately let me know if there is a problem. S/he finds ways to demonstrate his/her submission to me in public which others (vanilla) see only as his/her devotion to me.
S/he is independent, self-assured, emotionally stable, and submits not out of an inability or weakness, but out of strength, because it fullfills his/her deepest desire to belong to Mistress. S/he is romantic and demonstrates his/her love and devotion in a variety of ways. S/he has a masochistic side and enjoys my torments.
Does this sound like you? Like the relationship you desire? Then contact me. |
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Safe, Sane, Consentual
Safe - I play within my level experience. I don't practice a new skill/techinque on a sub until I know how to do it. I know how what I am doing feels, I test new toys on myself. I respect limits and watch for how the sub is reacting both physically and emotionally to what is happening. I stop if I even think there might be a problem and check with the sub. My pleasure is never more important than the safety of the one I am playing with.
Sane - I don't play if I am overly tired, in a bad place emotionally, angry, or otherwise not in control. I never punish/discipline a sub when angry. I am well aware I can be wrong and I have no problem admitting it or saying I'm sorry.
Consentual - Limits are negotiated and respected. I will push limits as time progresses but will always honor hard limits. I do expect that once consent has been given the sub will honor the relationship and its parameters.
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The Mind of A Sadist
On a forum someone posted a question about not understanding the mind of a Sadist and what makes us tick. So, in replying to that post I decided that I would add it to my writings.
What exactly does make us tick? I can only answer for myself and some of it will probably resonate with other Sadist as well, but we are of course individuals so not everything will be true for every Sadist.
Now as to what it is about being Sadist - what makes me tick? Why do I enjoy inflicting pain? It is a complete and total rush, a high beyond anything else, it is like a fire burning in my blood until it loosed. When I am looking into my partners eyes as he or she receives the pain I am inflicting there is a connection so deep it transcends the rest of the world and no one other than the two of us exist in that moment. It is a deeply spiritual, physical, sexual, and mental connection.
There are so many things that take place - the vulnerability, the trust, the moans, the shivers, the laying bare of one?s soul, the ability to say fuck the norms and take total pleasure from what many don't understand, the feel of the hot skin, the welts, or other marks as I run my fingers over them. To look into eyes that are shimmering with tears and hear him/her whisper I love you at the same time, the taste of the tears as I kiss them away after the scene, the feel of his/her body trembling against mine as sooth after a scene. It is everything all the sensations, emotions, and endorphins that are released during my play that bring me pleasure as a Sadist.
In many ways it is pure animalistic need. It is a drive, an instinct that is basal and primitive. At times it is so strong that I feel like it will boil over and consume me. The only way to sate the beast is to find a willing sacrifice to offer him/herself for me to release my desires on. |
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