About LoveNotRequired
What I offer is very simple. Actual instruction is the art and joy of BDSM whether it be D/s or M/s. In true BDSM, love is not a required element, but instead is one that may or may not ever occur.
T he training I provide is not found in any ridiculous “How-To” book, or made up on the fly, but instead has been carefully developed over several years to guide, instruct, transform, and ultimately deliver to the me the submissive I wish her to become.
B.I.T.C.H. Training Program
The training method I use “B.I.T.C.H.” Training, is very structured and conducted in stages, some running concurrently, others requiring the completion of one stage before continuing to another. In this context, B.I.T.C.H. is obviously an acronym and NOT a simple word or description. Each letter has a distinct meaning and specific purpose, literally “breaking” my new submissive and in time molding her into my “bitch”, physically, mentally and psychologically.
B. - Behavior Modification
This first phase is perhaps the easiest to understand and the results the easiest to both see and achieve. The submissive is forced to change how she thinks, undoing her learned habits and behaviors and replacing them with those expected by me, with no regard for herself. It should come as no real surprise that a persons every behavior has been learned through life experience, education or parental lesson.
Unfortunately, 99.9% of all such learned behaviors must be either amended or completely eliminated when becoming “a true submissive.” One example being to adjust a blouse at dinner that may have become a bit too revealing, thus allowing a table visitor such as a waiter to easily see your nipples.
While almost an automatic reaction, if you were to adjust your blouse, you would take away from my right to order that you adjust the blouse, adjust the blouse myself, or even require that it remain untouched.
Here then for your review are a FEW other examples:
a) sitting with legs crossed
b) bending your knees when bending over rather than bending from the waist with no regard as to exposure.
c) wearing clothing that does not allow any visible exposure of breasts or underwear
d) using words or terms such as “I”, “Me”, “No”, “I want”, “I need”, “I won't” or “I can't” in any context defining needs, expectations or desires.
e) eating, leaving a room, going to the bathroom, making a phone call, taking a bath/shower, cutting/curling/styling your hair or speaking without the privilege or permission to do so
Although usually completed within one to three months, obviously the process of behavior modification truly never ends, but instead requires ongoing effort and concentration. In fact, old habits and learned behaviors are perhaps the most frequent cause of discipline and/or punishment.
I. Interaction & Instruction
Interaction and Instruction obviously begins immediately while running concurrently with other aspects of B.I.T.C.H. Training. The basic elements required for the completion of this particular stage are usually accomplished within the first month of training.
Among the elements required:
Collar & Leash - The submissive will adjust to wearing a collar in public, and being placed on a leash and performing as instructed whenever leashing is required or desired.
Bondage & Sadomasochism – Submissives will be introduced to a wide range of bondage techniques and devices such as stocks, vices, cages, ropes, chains, shackles, handcuffs, crops, whips, floggers, clips and clamps.
Public Humiliation and Exhibitionism – The submissive will be taken into public frequently and will be subject to any form of humiliation or exhibitionism that I may find to be beneficial in her training or for my personal enjoyment or entertainment.
T. Transition
This particular phase of B.I.T.C.H. Training is perhaps the most difficult to adequately describe for the simple reason that the submissives personal conduct and behavior is the determining factor in regard to both progress and completion. By that I mean that progressing through this phase of training is determined exclusively by the time and effort required to Discipline and Punish the submissive rather than thorough the completion of any particular task or assignment.
In truth the transition from free woman to submissive is not one that happens instantly or even quickly no matter how strong her need and desire may be. Just as a baby must first learn to crawl, then walk and then finally run, a submissive too must try, experiment and even occasionally fail before achieving true submission.
The time needed for the Transition stage is one that varies greatly, although it usually requires a longer period of time than is required by most others. For some it is achieved in as little as 3 to 6 months, while others will struggle to become a true submissive for many months.
The submissive will be instructed to maintain a personal journal of their daily life never seen by anyone other than the two of us. By documenting then later reading again about her successes, her failures, her discipline and her punishments, the submissive will learn and ultimately Transition into a TRUE Consensual submissive.
This process is one that can not and should not be rushed, as to attempt to do so will only cause delay and disappointment. However, the submissive can determine when she is nearing the end of her transition as she will note from her journal the number of days that have passed since she was last disciplined for the same infraction. When she has achieved a period of 30 full days without a repeat violation for the same offense requiring discipline, AND 30 full days without requiring me to impose punishment of any type, her transition is considered to have been completed.
C. Commitment to Service
The submissives ability to demonstrate her Commitment to Service is by far the most difficult element of B.I.T.C.H. Training to accomplish. From the first day she wears a collar signifying her service. But that collar serves to introduce her to submission and has numerous and very specific purposes. The new slave's collar is one designed to “stand out”, to be easily identifiable to all that see it as a collar, complete with D-rings to facilitate the frequent and somewhat obvious use of a leash.
The purpose of course is to help the submissive adjust to her new life. To assist her to both understand and accept the fact she is truly my submissive. Wearing the collar she will have learned of its many uses, while in public she will have learned to proudly display it, in effect telling everyone she knows or with whom she associates that she is in fact a submissive.
But now, having successfully completed the required elements of Behavior Modification, Interaction & Instruction, and Transition, it is now time for the submissive to seek a collar of even greater significance. Upon the completion of her Transition I will demand even more from you than I have done in the past. I will now test your Commitment to Service, physically, emotionally and psychologically without mercy, making it clear that success will earn you the new status of a TRUE submissive, while failure will result in your return to the Transitional stage.
If you have been honest with yourself and have truly accepted your Commitment to Service then you will easily demonstrate that you are worthy of your new collar. While if acceptance has not been honestly attained, the demands and expectations will prove to be far too great.
H. - Honor and Initiation
Clearly this final phase is only achieved after successful completion of each of the other elements. Having demonstrated her complete devotion and obedience, and having become my “bitch”, the submissive is now registered on the slave registry (http://www.slaveregister.com/), and then prepared for her formal collaring ceremony held to officially introduce her as my submissive.
Now obviously the descriptions of the B.I.T.C.H. Training I have provided are greatly condensed, and can not possibly include every detail or expectation. They do however provide you with an extremely good idea of what is included, and what should be expected during the course of your training. Experience has taught me that those who truly desire to be submissives, become extremely excited as they read this information, while those less serious come to that realization without further hesitation. |
