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| I am new to the lifestyle, learning/fighting to figure out what it means for me to be submissive. I am looking for friends and people I can talk to about this lifestyle and what it means. I am not looking for cyber or casual play. Thank you for your time, reading my profile. Have an awesome day! Bella
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Well good spring morning to you from up here in the upper peninsula of MI where it was snowing yesterday. Talking online mostly to helpful people in the lifestyle. That seems a funny way to describe my interest in BDSM. Perhaps that makes me less of a 24/7 person and more of a I don't know what label.
Who knows. I've always been one to distrust pat labels on everything. It is rare that one word can give the summation of all that an object is let alone a person.
For years I described myself as straight, then as a lesbian and now as bisexual. Bisexual makes it sound as if I just flip from one gender to the next and like to have sex with just anybody, which is far from the truth. But I have found that if I describe myself as bisexual, most people understand that I can and have found emotionally and sexually fulfilling relationships with both men and women. But still, it does not describe the whole me.
For example I am having the toughest time with the labels slave and submissive. Slave is a person who submits once, totally to his/her master and never chooses to again. Submissive is someone who submits each time he/she plays with a master.
To me this makes it sound as if submissive is more interested in playing the field than a slave, but I don't think that's an accurate description.
Anyway, I'm still working through those two labels. I really am interested in finding a partner equal to me in strength of character and will, able to enjoy my quirky sense of humor, willing and able to handle my stubbornness without becoming distressed, someone who enjoys playfullness, and yes, someone who understands my need to be submissive to them in many ways to be cherished and protected from the outside world sometimes, someone who can appreciate my need to release old emotional hurts thru catharsis at times....
Like I said, still working thru many things.
Blessed Be, Bella |
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Hello to all you friendly people on collarme. Thanks for stopping by to check on me. I am new to the realization that I am submissive by nature. I had thought it was just a fun way to role play, but it is so much more. I got a little excited when I found the web site and talked about my end goal without realizing that I still need to LEARN before I will be ready to play and enter into a nurturing relationship. I apologize if I mislead anyone. Thank you to t and her Lord for their assistance, pointing me towards great places to learn more in safety. Take care, Blessed Be Bella |
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