LODPsJade

No, pain is not all physical. Sometimes, it's in your head and your heart as well, and sometimes, those scars are the hardest to heal. Here are some tips to lessen your chances of getting them in the first place.

1)Be honest. With yourself. With prospective partners. Never be ashamed to admit you don't know something, or to ask questions. If you're looking for 24/7, don't tell someone you only want to play. If you're looking for love and romance, be up-front about it. If you are dishonest about what you want, it's not only you who could get hurt in the long run.

2)Never reveal too much about your personal life to anyone on-line. There are too many people who'll use your heartaches and problems for hot IM gossip.

3)If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Your instincts, once again, are your greatest gift and resource. Use them, and listen to them.

4)Heed warnings. If you're told by more than one person that a prospective partner could be trouble, LISTEN. Take into account that it's someone else's opinion of someone you're getting to know, but always listen, and openly ask your partner about what you hear. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if you believe everything you hear, but always hear what someone is trying to tell you, and always, check it out.

5)If a prospective partner asks you not to ask anyone else on-line about them, ask yourself why. Then ask them why. And if you can't come up with any satisfactory answers, either walk away, or proceed with EXTREME caution.

6)If a prospective partner is hesitant with personal information after you've already given yours, then take it as a warning. FIND OUT WHY.

7)Don't get dragged into on-line gossip. It may be fun for awhile, but eventually it will only come back to haunt you. There are people on-line who have nothing better to do. Don't become one of them.

8)Think for yourself. Trust yourself. Be honest with yourself. And above all, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

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• Your full name
• Your home address and phone number
• Make, model, color, and license plate number of your car if you are driving yourself, or
• Detailed information (flight numbers and times, rental car information, etc.) if you are using other transportation

• Their full name and screenname(s) or logon ID(s)
• Their address and phone number(s)
• Their age, description, any and all information you have on the person you are meeting.

• Where you are meeting
• The name of place you are meeting
• The address of the meeting place, including room number (if applicable) {THERE SHOULDNT BE A MEET IN A HOTEL ROOM}and phone number (if you do not have it ahead of time, give it during first phone call)
• When you are meeting - time and date {ALWAYS A PLACE IN PUPLIC}
• The phone number for the local police in the town you are meeting

• The first phone call should be made within 15 minutes of the established meeting time.
• The second phone call should be made within 30 minutes {OR EARLIER}after the first.
• The third phone call should be made within 2 hours after that or before leaving the place of the meeting, whichever comes first.
• The fourth phone call should be made within 30 minutes of leaving the meeting.
• If the meeting lasts longer than 3 hours, phone calls should be made no less than every 2 hours apart until you part company... then proceed with the departing call and the last call