LisaInMa

well my thoughts for today are as follows. it amazes me how a person can call themselfs a master and not know the diffrence between a sub and a slave. There is a big diffrence between the two. i need a dom/master who understands that i need to be me someone who will take the time to guide me and LISTEN to my NEEDS. also to incoprate the nilla world i am not a 24 /7 sub never have and never will be.

seriously where are all the REAL HONEST Dom at?

Bdsm to me is not just about the Dom's pleasure but also the sub's as well. I know there are many ways a Bdsm reationship works diffrent strokes for diffrent folks as i always say.

i see so many people rush into bdsm with thier eyes closed both subs and doms alike. the bdsm life style takes time and comitment. You dont becoma a master over night nor a sub. Too many people take bdsm as a game i however dont. If You dont have the time or have the comitment that it takes to be a sub or a Master/Dom than maybe bdsm is not for you. this isnt about sex far from it. a lot of people think that bdsm is about kinky sex. Its not A true Master can dom with out ever taking his clothes off the sex in my opion is just a bonus. for me it goes much deeper. its the deep bond that gets formed over time from knowing each other so well that sometimes words arent needed.  trust is a big thing im not letting someone tie my ass up unless i trust them a 110 percent. cominucation is very important also doms/masters and subs are not mind readers folks. Honesty be honest in your wants needs and desires and be honest about yourself. Dont tell the other person what you think they want to hear just be yourself.

my thought atleast for today is the submissive has to be worthy of the Master but so to does the Master have to be worthy of the sub

my thoughts for today. to be a Dom and or a Master he must posses the three traits of a Dominate patience understanding and control. Patience with His sub knowing that in somethings she has to be eased in to new things and just not do them right off the bat. because if she gets scared or feels rushed into certain things she will no longer want to do them. Understanding that stuff can come up in the nilla world and she might not be able to have a session or may not be able to finish certain tasks on time. Control, in this i mean control over Himself and His actions if he cant control Himself how will He be able to control the actions of His sub? I was taught the old guard bdsm and i truly believe in these traits that a Dom/Master must have in order to have a good session and in part a good bdsm relationship. now the bond has 3 componits as well trust communication and honesty and if this bong gets formed right it is the strongest bond there is and nothing can break it.

aaahhh communication here are my thoughts about communication. as in any realtionship you must have this weather it's talking on the phone emailing texting or seeing each other in person. Without communication you realy dont have anything.

seriously folks to all the Doms and Masters come real or not at all. And be willing to take time with me thoes are my thoughts this early in the morning

i was sitting out on my balconey looking up at the cloudy night sky my thoughts are a bit jumbled and swirling in my head tonight. i dont like uncertainty but in some cases thats life. I swear being a woman sometimes is not easy we are strange mody bitchy but are kind strong sweet caring loving sexy and passionate well at least i am lol.  when i want something i go after it i study it observe and then plan and go for it. Sometimes its hard to wait but as i say anything worth having is worth waiting for. My earges are telling me right now to go for it but my brain is saying "woa! slow down there woman" lol i hate it when my brain says that but i know its right. so my thoughts keep swriling like a strong wind and are flowing seething tumbling over one anther like waves breaking upon the sand always questioning always thinking. and no im NOT nuts lol. am just a woman :)

crust of bread and a corner to sleep in, A minute to smile and an hour to weep in,

 A pint of joy to a peck of trouble, And never a laugh but the moans come double; And that is LIFE

! A crust and a corner that love makes precious, With the smile to warm and the tears to refresh us

; And joy seems sweeter when cares come after, And a moan is the finest of foils for laughter;

 And that is LIFE! ~Paul Dunbar .

ok lets try again my quote for the day

it is not enough to woo the body

You must first ensare her sences

capture her mind

 and only after you have captured her min the rest will fall into place

opions are like assholes everyone has them. LOL

i see alot of usernames with master or dom in them but do any of you doms and masters truely know what it means to be dominant and have a slave or a sub? I think not. i have seen one master and have chatted with Him and he is the only one who knows what being truely dominante means. You have to KNOW what you are doing not THINK you know. to truely be dominante You have to train! If your not trained and trained right You could hurt a sub. As subs we put our lives in Your hands you may laugh at this,but its true you could hurt or kill someone if You tie her up to tight or use a whip on someone and send them to the hospital. Being dominante doesnt mean ordering around subs and thinking im a man ya! bull shit! again KNOW what you are doing.