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	About Li1ith All the things I could say have been said before, and said better. But at the risk of repeating the universe, I'll say them again, for myself. BDSM has always been, for me, inseparable from the idea of sex itself. It writes large on our bodies the very real power exchanges that occur in coitus. In that exchange, the experience of pain and that of pleasure are just points of sensation on a continuum. I enjoy evoking these sensations for myself as well as upon the bodies of others. I want a partner for these games; I find my tastes in the past few months turning more towards dominance than submission. In my life, I have a need for deep honesty. I'm not looking to pretend that I'm someone I'm not; I'm also not interested in remaking a human being in my own vision. I don't need any more idols for my ego. It's a pleasure to know people; most of that pleasure arises from seeing who they really are rather than a mutual conformity to some false outer expectation. The rites of BDSM are, for me, a necessary spice to that process. You will need to talk to me. Don't hide yourself under needless layers of fear-induced b.s. After all, there's plenty of that out there already. Write me.

Okay, so here's what's in my head today.

I'm much more interested in men who are closer to me in age. I mean, anywhere in the 23-40 range is much more realistic than middle-late 50s and 60s. I'm not saying you're not great guys, oh my baby-boomer elders, but you are not so great for me. I'm just too immature. Also, I'm not into relationships with men who have multiple children by different women. It says something about character and the ability to commit to people. Also, I don't generally like kids unless they're part of my own family's occult and weirdo bloodline. Oh, yes, and speaking of commitment: I'm not interested in being the adulteree unless you've been up front with your partner about your polyamorous tendencies, and your partner is okay with that. May I remind you this Christmas that cheating is not nice, and it's oh so unsexy. I don't care what the FOX evening lineup tells you.

*sigh.* You know, in all honesty, maybe what I'm looking for right now is a dominant female--or a man who combines the best physical attributes of his sex with the best emotional-rational charactersitics of my own.

Or maybe I'm into NOTHING and NOBODY right now.

I am totally off my nut. Because even if I got, gift-wrapped tomorrow, the very male of males--if God himself plucked a well-hung angel out of the sky and said, 'This is Kushiel: he's into sexy punishment, eons-long orgasms, and fireside cuddling, and I, your God, wish for you to make crazy monkey-sex and snugglebunnies until the world crashes and burns around you'--well, I'd probably find some way to tell God that it just can't work right now. "It's not you, Jehovah, or your angel butt-boy, really, it's totally me."

That or I'd find some way to sabotage it before it got off the ground.

Anyway, I have it on good authority from Pat Robertson that angels are all Republican neo-cons lacking all genitalia, so it's all a moot point anyway. (The following is absolutely true: every time a neo-con feels a single frisson of pleasure, baby Jesus rips the wings off of an incipient unsung saint. Just say no to giving your goodies to a neo-con this year.) Wait. What was I saying?

Oh yeah, my life. What am I looking for? Who am I good for?

*sigh......*

I guess, right now, I'm just a cock-tease.

A sad, depressed, single little cock-tease. Pardon me. I need some eggnog.

I swear, I wish I weren't this way, but I am such a grammar Nazi. When I look at online writing that has numerous spelling errors and other obvious issues with the English language I get SO turned off. How can you expect that your ideas will be respected if you can't command language for shit? How can you expect to continue to type if someone like me finds it necessary to come over to your house and beat your fingers with a ruler until you learn to write correctly? There's no excuse for not running text through a spellchecker, you guilty bastards.

*sigh* Don't you realize that I'm being driven inevitably towards insanity? I swear, the best way to humiliate me would be to make me incorporate deliberate errors into my writing and then force me to post it online. So maybe that's what's going on. Bad grammar: a sex thing? This is a compelling possible explanation. More on this later.

Friends, I admit that b.s. is not my favorite flavor of sucker and I compiled the following list of rights and duties after a rather unpleasant email exchange with a person who insisted that I try a scenario I was NOT interested in. So here goes:

It doesn't matter if you're a dom or a sub:
YOU HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY:

--to listen to your partners or potential partners and actively take into account the things they tell you about THEIR needs.

--to actively articulate to your partners or potential partners YOUR needs.

--to never pretend that you have ALL the power or NONE of the power in any scenario in which you are involved.

--to remember that your partners or potential partners, no matter what their inclination, are individual autonomous human beings who deserve your RESPECT for their boundaries, personal and private.

--to never make someone else a figure upon which to act out your own self-loathing unless you both have their permission and are also prepared to do some work on your psyche.

--to remember that just as the sub has a safe word, so too does the dom have the right to refuse play or scenarios which make them uncomfortable or unhappy; both parties have the responsibility to ensure that good communication still happens.

Thus endeth the lecture.

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