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About LaudateDominumUK
Your wait is over... Rejoice.
I would advise everyone to read through this whole text - including any journal entries. Without an understanding of where I'm coming from and where I want to go there is little point talking - or even deciding not to talk.
Some things are important to air right away:
I already have a full time female sub (also goes by the "wife" moniker). However, she is not available for play - not even with other subs. She is my prize possession and a lifetime project and I am not having her spoiled or broken by clumsy use. I may have her create her own profile here, and I may even consider a couple profile, but that's by the by.
From this follows I only ever play with you on-line or away. Here, away means your premises, or somewhere for hire (shared costs, or covered by me depending on circumstances). I used to be able to accommodate, but little children and D/s with (relative) strangers don't mix, even if wife would happily wait it out in her room - or a cloakroom, for that matter.
It does not, however, mean that I am not open to regular play partners. Just don't expect more than occasional session. And don't expect you'll become family.
If you can't accept the above rules and limitation there's little point reading further, I guess.
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Oh, you're still here! Great!
A general profile of a person I am willing to spend my time on (with couples, both have to fit the description):
You will be truly, and deeply submissive. By this, I don't mean *just* that you like being humiliated or punished painfully. It means that you are submissive and subservient from the inside out, and at every moment of our interaction. I do not tolerate cheek, bratiness, and talking back. This does *not* mean I punish them severely. What it *does* mean is if I spot any of that you're history. Honest, and genuine mistakes are fine (if punished accordingly), but being a general prat isn't.
You will also look after yourself reasonably well. This means your hygiene will be faultless and not just when you're meeting me - prolonged neglect shows through even a most through bath. It also means you will maintained (and will have maintained) a reasonable height/weight ratio. I am not looking for model material - far from it. But I am also *not* looking for anything grossly overweight or anorexic. Goes without saying, really, but you also need to be healthy in all respects that matter. I don't mind if you smoke, but my presence is a strict non-smoking environment - and my presence is *very* large, it tends to fill entire public spaces.
You will also do your very best to speak and spell properly and fully. Txt spk is *not* tolerated. You do not have to be a Shakespeare, but please forego Little Britain. It also goes without saying that I expect your written messages to be more than one line (unless that's really what was required or makes sense), and your spoken response more than one word (even the simplest are two word responses "Yes, Sir!").
That's about it, really. It is much easier to comply to and attain than it might seem at first glance. Believe me.
Now, for my D/s interests...
To make it easier for you, I have carefully filled in the BDSM Interests section of my profile. Remember, whatever the implication of the CM title, these are to be taken as *me* doing them to *you* (of course I will not do housework for you). As a very rough guide, here is what various labels mean - to me (and consequently, you):
Hard Limit: I do not enjoy this kind of play to such an extent that if this is one of your main things you're better walking away right now or you will be sorely disappointed. These are also non-negotiable.
Hate it: Pretty much the same as a hard limit, really. I actually don't think I've labelled anything with this. In a rare case I develop from hard limit to hating something, these can be talked about - carefully. For a very special sub I may consider an occasional special gift.
Dislike it: I have been known to indulge, but grudgingly - probably as a gift to a special sub. I do reward subs, keep that in mind.
No opinion: I'm quite opinionated so any interests labelled thus are an omission which I'll correct soonest (do point them out).
Curious: I probably haven't tried this - yet, but I have some warm feelings towards the activity. If this is one of your fortes please point it out. I may well be happy to learn a new skill.
Like it: Says it all in itself, really. I like this kind of play, but there are others I like much more. If you have hard limits among those it's not the end of the world - I may be perfectly willing to skip these if you excel elsewhere.
Love it: These would be the mainstays of my play activities. You have to expect to be required to take part, and often. If these include your hard limits you're better off walking away now.
Live for it: What's more to say? If one of these is your speciality you may quickly become my favourite pet. For experts in these areas I am often willing to forego some of the other kinds of play, Just don't expect you can be cheeky, bratty, or talk back if you're good at these. These are still sackable offences as much as I may like your ass in nylons.
Do go and review this part of my profile now and again as it may change without notice. Also make sure you have asked for any clarification of various activities. I don't always go with CM definition, and I've found a lot of others don't either.
As you may have already seen I am after a few quite differing groups of people. Here's a few words about my general expectations from and intentions for each of them. These are in an order of increasing interest/priority for me. Also, any D/s activity not mentioned below is assumed, not omitted. Consult my interests page.
Male dominants: blocked by CM Bulk filter so there you go.
Female dominants: I do not do shared play. However, I do accept others' subs for fun and training, and I may be willing to share some of mine with the right Domme (but *not* my original partner, as described above; she may be contactable via CM message system, though).
Switches of all persuasions: If you can be a true submissive for me - as described here you're more than welcome to come along for the ride. Just keep your dominant streak out of my sight and we'll do just fine. Just have a read through relevant sections below to learn about basic requirements.
Male submissives: Be straight. But be willing to become a woman of my dreams. Expect to have to service me orally - well, often, and various parts of me. Hope to become a lady enough for me to want to play with your ass. What this means in practice: be young(ish), be smooth, be willing to dress up and make up, be able to become a believable woman; if you need to practice - practice, but on your own; in order to earn a real time session I need to be sure you can be all this *beforehand*. Most importantly, be very, *very*, *VERY* submissive from the word go. I don't mean you have to grovel, and I probably won't like it either. Just be polite and quietly submissive.
Trans submissives: Read all of the above, then amplify believability. After all, you should already be good at playing a girl. Everything else is pretty much the same as for men.
Couples: Be a sub/sub couple or walk always right now. With couples, I usually like to involve both of you, but I am open to one-on-one play with or without presence of the other half. To spell it out, I may be willing to take part in one-on-one cuckolding with the female and/or one-on-one sissification of the male. When I play with both of you I expect both to perform for me. This includes both my direct involvement, and playing one of you against the other (or a combination thereof). Male should expect what I described above for male subs. Female should expect what I describe below for female subs. And more.
Female subs: Oral service is paramount. Ass play is mandatory. Well, almost. I am willing to listen to extenuating arguments. Vaginal sex goes without saying (but again, I *may* - just - be willing to accept extenuating arguments). Presenting yourself in the sexiest way possible is also a requirement, but may vary depending on mood - *my* mood. You also need to be open (and literally) to digital stimulation - all areas. Trousers (and shorts!) are generally frowned upon if not outright banned from (my) sight. I like my women to be womanly.
In general, I expect my subs to provide access to all areas outside their hard limits, and those areas should be open to all kinds of play again outside their hard limits. Hard limits should be discussed early and openly. I tend not to push against them as experience shows this usually ends in tears (yours). Therefore, you can expect me to meticulously avoid your hard limits, and even the adjoining areas, as it were. I am also open to requests and suggestions. I do not claim to have found and tried every single thing under the sun I might enjoy, and I am also often generous and may provide rewards in the form of play a sub requests even if it's not necessarily something I'd do otherwise (but do beware my hard limits).
Finally, the eternal real time vs on-line debate...
Of course I love playing in person. You'd struggle to find a Dominant who doesn't. However, not every interesting play partner lives locally - or in the same country, for that matter. Now, in the last century, we probably had to just live with it. However, these days we have this wonderful little thing called Internet, and it's quite nifty and fast, too. So, why should I - or you - not avail ourselves of its benefits? If I can't reasonably meet an interesting person face-to-face (or more likely cock-to-face) why can't we have a little play on-line? It may not be as good as "the real thing"(tm), but surely it is better than nothing at all? And you can quote me on that to any mealy mouthed Dom(me) or sub who says otherwise!
So, I will prioritise my time to accommodate those I *can* actually meet, but I will also happily spend time with anyone willing - and interesting enough - to do some on-line play.
At the very end, a bit more about my general approach to D/s. This is the important bit, the money shot if you will. If your view or expectations of D/s differ significantly you've probably wasted time reading through all of the above. But since you have, you might as well read this and only then make a decision:
First and foremost: I am *not* a sadist. I do *not* find enjoyment in causing pain. If you're a pain slut you should probably walk away right now. This is not to say I *cannot* or will not inflict pain. Just don't expect it to be excruciating and frequent. It probably also follows I will take utmost care not to leave any marks on you. If nothing else, I like my play partners as flawless as reasonably possible.
Second important point: I am not of the kind that "breaks in" a sub. Yes, I should make you submit - and you may struggle with it at first - but I am not tamer of wild animals. You need to enter the arrangement with the willingness to play along. If any persuasion is needed I like that to be soft and mostly verbal and if at all possible *prior* to actual play commencing. This is where being really and truly submissive from the inside - which I mentioned near the top - comes into play. If you want to play wild horses you should probably walk away right now.
I also like to like, if not love my subs - even the ones I play with only occasionally. I expect that there is some of this coming from the other end, too. This also means I can also be gentle and that I like to reward. It also means I will - occasionally - grant boons. But don't get the impression this is easy. Your submission - total submission - comes first. My rewards are my privilege - not yours.
OK, if you managed to get *this* far you might as well read a bit further as I'd say you're probably truly interested. So bear with me a little while longer...
As you may have already gleaned from all of the above, I firmly believe that most - if not all - of D/s is firmly in the mind. It must come from the deepest compartments of a submissive's mind, but equally everything the Dominant does needs to be able to penetrate as deep - if not deeper. This is a long, and sometimes frustrating (and painful!) process. Those who expect instant results should probably walk away now. Which is not to say that every contact and every play cannot be fun for all involved. I am not a stranger to superficial fun and games. We're all human, after all. But the ultimate goal is for me to lodge my mind's tentacles deep into your mind's willing receptacles so that in the end our play becomes as naturally flowing as a river. And there are all sorts of rivers out there, from a frothy creek, to a slow moving behemoths. But each and every one is magnificent and majestic in its own right. There is no right and wrong river, just as there is no right and wrong submission for as long as it's deep, true, and heartfelt. Even with just occasional play.
So, now that you know a bit about what to expect please form an orderly line and apply (or I may pluck a few myself from the gathering throng).
LD
PS
I am also truly open to learning - even from submissives. We are not born knowing it all, and the sources of knowledge are various, so why would I deprive myself of anyone's wisdom. So, if you have something to teach just let me know. If you present your case and your knowledge properly you will find me a willing student.
PPS
A quick note for the slaves: You are welcome, but expect to be treated the same as subs. I don't do slavemaster.
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