a friend here sent me a definition of types of submissive,and i think am starting to understand myself better. :-) i think i am of the type totally submissive non slave.i enjoy making people happy with serving them,and i enjoy being controlled and told what to do,and giving up control to someone i trust!am starting to learn new things here everyday!its great!

i really believe that a guy who wants to dominate a girl should be elder,smarter,and more experienced than her.i think if a girl wants to submit and give up control to someone she should trust him and have confidence that he would make better choices,maybe not always but at least most of the time than she would have made herself.and i think its really difficult to have such a feeling about someone who is younger than her, or less experienced .

with some help from the people from here,i realized i shouldn't try to stick to one philosophy and adopt what works for me.so far I've realized i like to be told what to do,and that someone else help me with my decisions and give me guidance but i have to get to trust that person completely,and know that he is smarter than me and makes better decisions.i listen to what people ask me and accept good advice but sometimes i become really stubborn and am a bit lazy so i think someone with a stern hand and experience will be able to make me to do what he thinks is best for both of us.