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Hello again...I know it has been a long time since I posted a journal entry but felt the need to reiterate some of the things I have said before....
For a long time I didnt visit this site...I felt that most of the males on here were basically full of it...so to speak...They would send emails that spoke about their desires and not one ever said hello how are you today....
Then I recieved a few hopeful emails...the subs were actually interested in a dialogue...at first I was reluctant to engage in a dialogue and was very happy when I finally did engage in a series of emails that I think helped someone to identify what he was searching for....
I continue to wait patiently for the right one and sometimes I question Myself on not jumping headlong into these online situations...but I have as they say been there ...done that and found it lacking in oh so many ways...
I have been lucky enough to begin a new dialogue with someone I find witty ...charming and quite possibly a good candidate to meet....He acknowleges My desire to become a friend first and begin with perhaps a dinner and a drink....with long discussions about what makes us be who we are....I look forward to his emails and love the easy flow of information between us....Who knows perhaps this will develop into a long term friendship with possibilities of more....
as for the married males out there who think that one or two days a week and infrequent weekends is desireable ...It is not....dont even bother to offer....I have been there..done that and as I often reply ...I will not be second choice to anyone or any thing....and in a relationship with a married sub...the Domme will always be second to the marriage....Till next post...Be well... |
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Hello again...I know its been a while since My last post and this will probably be the last time I do post. I am weary of the search. I am weary of the inane notes from married men looking for someone to spank them because they fear their wives will think less of them if they ask her to do that. I am weary of the single males who want permission to do what they want sexually because they dont have the balls to do what pleases them without a female Dominants permission. Lets just say I am tired of the games. Have I met some nice people...yes...have I met some manipulative people...Indeed!...It seems that perhaps what My views are when it comes to Dominance and submission are vastly different than those I have communicated with on this site. In fact I found most communication revolved around finding a sex partner who liked Kink!. ...While I like kink I dont need a sex partner nor do I need a whiny little man who shallowly thinks that because he calls Me Maam that I will fulfill his dream of being naked in front of others or fulfill his dream of being dressed up and made to wear female attire...I need a break from the wannabes and the whiners...To those who have found what they truly desire I salute you and envy that about you to the others who wish to play paltry little games and try and manipulate others ...farewell...In the end I will wait patiently until I find what I seek..because I will not settle for less than All I desire.  |
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Hello again!...All settled now on the Penisula and having some decent conversations with a very nice submissive. I am taking time to get to know him before the proverbial meet and greet. It seems he knows a few people I know and I respect the fact that he was honest about that. Our conversations have been very good and I think we are getting to know each other. I look forward to more conversations and eventually meeting.
Well on the vanilla side the puppy almost had a nervous breakdown with the move to the new apartment and some how got My glasses...and ate them...well he ate the earpieces and the nose pieces...and chewed the hell out the lenses....Can we say I practiced a few paddling strokes on his behind...I hope it got through to him but hes a dog...and the crating most of the day now is working much better!!!...I know it was My fault for not paying enough attention to a puppy...but it still was an expensive lesson to learn ...So now I wait patiently for the new pair of bifocals to arrive....*grins*....Till next post....Be well.... |
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Hello Again!...Time for another entry...I am moving again...this time to the Penisula to be closer to work. I found a nice little apartment close to work and while its smaller than what I have now it is more reasonable in cost as well. With gas prices being the way they are I think we all need to consider living within walking distance of where we work...As for the love life...well I have to ask What Love Life???..I truely think I am doomed to be alone...I have great conversations with men then they just sort of go nowhere ...I get tired of doing the persuing so Im not going to anymore...The egos and issues that are out there seem insurmountable...Why is it that all men want the Barbie doll with no brains and perfect skin. Gee dont they realize that they have love handles and hairy backs..I accept their inperfections but as Women we are supposed to be perfect per their percieved notions...Sighs...I guess I am getting tired of looking for the silver lining...All I want is a man that will respect Me for who I am...let Me have My way with him ...*wink wink* and enjoy all that I do to him without opening up his angst about being a submissive in a Dominant male world. If you are not afraid to be yourself then why should it matter...The problem as I see it is ...all the good submissives are already taken ..the ones left are whiners and those that want to top from the bottom...I am probably lumping them all in this category but in the area. where I live.....this analogy seems the case....Still I wait patiently for a nice guy to say ...would you like a back rub?..pedicure? dinner?...or any number of things without the addition of .."I will do this for you if you will be like My previous Domme!I crave her attention.!.".Boy ! That statement will get My attention in a heartbeat...and make Me go the other way in a hurry...Till next time...Lady Red |
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Hello Again... Oh to be without drama in My life...*smiles*...While I seek a submissive ..I date "vanilla"...and you know what?...The vanilla guys have just as many issues as the so called subbies....I was contacted by a gentleman who was wanting to meet some women his own age for some "fun"...After chatting with him ...guess what kind of fun he wanted..(made sure I knew it was 5 months for him)...*giggles*...He seemed very nice and was easy to talk to but spent most of his time bemoaning the fact that his beloved wife had left him and that he missed his physical relationship with her...(Give Me a break!)...He had a hard time with Me telling him that if he were that desperate he could go to a bar and find a honey for a one night stand!..Sighs...well in a nutshell he insisted that we meet for coffee...and guess what????
He chickened out..sent an email letting Me know he was still in love with his wife and that I was moving tooooo fast!!!!...I laughed out loud when I read that note...he contacted Me insisted on meeting immediately and I was moving way too fast...Ironic isnt it that when it came time for him to put up or shut up...he ran like a scalded dog!...I really am considering becoming an old maid.!!!.. ( that is if I could give up spanking little boys and start collecting cats or stuff)...Till next time....Be well...Lady Red |
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Hello again...I guess its time for that proverbial journal entry. Once again I seem to have hurt one little boy's feelings by not being thrilled to receive an unsolicited email that listed all the things that he wanted Me to do for him!...It seems the biggest selling point was he was available on weekends and nights!...Not once did the person ask what I was seeking nor did seem to care except to tell Me that I was rude because as I pointed out in My repsonse to him....I did not know him...I will repeat for those that are reading this...If I dont know you then dont assume I want to be addressed as Mistress....that title is reserved for the one that I collar...If I dont know you dont assume I want to give you spankings or tie you up or do any number of things to you ...If I dont know you it isnt gonna happen and I am not going to discuss fantasies...Im not here to be fodder for your personal intimate moments with your left or right hand. Now that being said...if you are truely seeking a dialogue that discusses Dominance and submission or surrender as I like to call it...then rest assured I will respond and chat with you. Am I sorry that I offended this so called submissive...NO!...If he is this thin skinned at My response then I wonder what in the world he would do with a good spank or flogging..."grins" Im sure his ego was bruised a bit but..really hon...to send a blanket advertisement disguised as an email makes you fall into that proverbial category of TROLL....Well enough of this months rant...Till next time....Be well to A/all....even the Trolls...*GRINS* |
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Hello again...Well its a new year and while things have been pretty much the same in My vanilla life...I have had the pleasure of introducing a very vanilla friend to the joy of surrendering....(smiles)...What a thrill to see him surrender totally to a new sensation that to him was a total NO when we first met...Alas..we will be nothing more than friends in the long run...since to him I am that "older woman" that he can not see as his soulmate....So ,I still am looking for that submissive that will fulfill all My needs...and wants..so far...the pickings are slim...
It seems that most men these days are all wimps or wannabes...most make broad promises that fall short when push comes to shove...Perhaps I am destined to be alone..since I have such high expectations...I dont believe this in My heart!..I truely believe that there is a submissive that wants the same things I want...I have yet to find him or vice versa...Till that time I wait patiently...Till next entry to all ...Be well!
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Hello again...well I tried the chat component on here and with one very special sub it worked well....but as usual I found that if you say yes to a chat request you have to be ready to deal with some others who have an agenda of their own...This particular sub and I will not mention names so to spare him embarassment wanted to know what he could do to make My life easier...So I thought about it and asked him to send Me an email detailing how he could make My life easier...I asked for concrete workable ideas ..and guess what....I am still waiting for that email...*smiles*..and here he said he was a "financial slave"....giggles...I am amazed that someone would think that I would ask for money!!!...Dominance is not about what you can get the submissive to give you ...its about a relationship between two people...one that surrenders himself to the care of the Domme...its fulfilling for both parties and frankly I dont understand how monetary tributes will prove the devotion of a submissive...I guess I am not like most others...but that is my opinion. Till next post...have a happy holiday A/all!! |
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I guess this is a monthly entry thing for Me...I have had a few emails since the last post with some very nice offers. However I still find that most who contact Me make assumptions and then get upset when I dont "live" up to those assumptions. I could close this profile but I still believe there are genuine submissive males out there who I just havent met yet...Till that time I patiently wait....Who knows he might be reading this post and think hey ....I know what She means.....Be well....till next month |
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Hello again... Well much to My surprise the journal entries do get read however there is much read into the posts. I simply stated I had met a true submissive...not once did I say I was interacting with this submissive or that I had anything more than a meeting of the minds. It seems you have to be direct and to the point so that others dont read into the journal entries. I am still looking to meet that one that will be the other half of My whole. I dont seek a married submissive who wants to experiment or fulfill his long hidden desires..I dont want a sissy who wants to be forced to wear female attire to attain his satisfaction ..I dont want a male that wants a male on male encounter but doesnt have the balls to go out and seek it himself but feels he needs the permission of a Domme to have that interaction. I dont seek a Switch who wants to change roles for a while. I want someone who will first be a friend then let develop what will develop. I dont wish to hear of your last Domme and what she did that pleased you so much ..I dont care to know so please refrain from sharing...I guess what I want is to find that one that will be himself and not be afraid to talk about life in general and let the discussion move ahead at what ever speed it takes. I live a busy life and dont want to waste time saying things more than once...I want you to listen to what I have to say ...not read between the lines...and insert what you assume I want. I think I have been pretty clear this time ..I will let time be the judge of that....till then be well to those who are truely seeking ...I truely believe there is one for all who are willing to wait patiently.... |
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Hello again...To My surprise I met a real submissive...he is what he says...doesnt try to explain or spout off what he is seeking other than what I am seeking at this moment ..a dialogue...a chance to interact with another of like mindedness. So My faith in finding the other half of My whole is renewed...Will he be the one? Perhaps .....perhaps not...but I will have gained a friend with insight and intelligence either way ... |
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Hello again...Well I guess even the cynical can be fooled when someone is charming...just met a wonderful person..who I truely believed wanted instruction on how to be a good little subbie....sighs...much to My dismay again I have found a bottom that wants kink instead of service.
I sometimes think that I should quit trying ..I crave a submissive who will surrender but still maintain the intelligence that attracted Me to him in the first place...I can not understand how a man loses his intelligence with the advent of a hardon!!!...If someone has the answer I welcome it...smiles...I will remain patient...Im sure there is a good little intelligent submissive who craves service.....and not kink.....till then I am patiently waiting.... |
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Hello again...I know its been a while since My last post but I find that life has a way of interfering with online ...smiles. I am now settled in Portsmouth ..single still and attempting to find the right submissive. I must say the offers from bottoms is not lacking but I seek a true submissive that wants to serve for the joy of making Me happy. Wannabes abound in this area ..most seeking kinky sex play instead of real service. That being said I have decided to resume my contact with collarme....I truly feel that there are some sincere submissives out there in the Tidewater area...I have met some wonderful submissives of late alas they are all collared and serving their Mistresses !....I know they exist and I am willing to wait and wade thru the mire of wannabes and bottoms till I find the one that makes Me smile with a simple hello Maam how May I serve you?.....till next time... |
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Hello Again....finally I am online not without a lot of hoopla to be sure...And as I peruse the messages recieved while not online or in contact with this site, I am amazed that I have recieved several notes from so called submissives who love to perform oral service to their Mistress...alas they forget to mention how they plan on doing that for Me??? I live in VA Beach VA guys....not Hawaii ...not Las Vegas....I wonder are you sending me a first class ticket to you with first class accomodations when I get there or perhaps you wish to just "write" how you plan on servicing Me....Shaking My head again at the complete lack of attention to detail..sometimes...I wonder Why in the world do I bother at all.??????....I guess the old adage...Hope springs eternal....is true...I do believe that there is a boy out there for me and to those "wannabes" I am willing to wait for the real thing...I have no need for notes or pleas to let you serve me online......Be well to those who walk the walk.......LadyRed |
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To those who wish to know....I am moving again...the job now takes me to the Va Beach area ..where I will spend the rest of summer.....Who knows I may meet the one ...that is seeking me there......Be well.... |
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Good morning...to those who have wondered why I moved to Va...I have a life outside of D/s...I go where My work sends Me and at this time I am located in Southwestern VA....how long I am not sure...I may move back closer to DC in August or I might extend My contract here...Who knows what the future holds...Be well.... |
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Today I recieved a letter from a cyber slave...really is that what most submissives are now adays...a playtoy on line ..Well to those who assume that is what a Mistress is seeking then...think again and educate yourself...A dialogue is a way to get to know one another it doesnt mean I want to have cyber sex or try to say Im dominating when W/we both know that its all role play...go find out what its like to be bound gagged and flogged then tell Me about that...dont pretend to think I want to role play that...I want real time not some little boy who wants to play with himself while I type to him...I am getting so bored with the wannabe's |
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To those who have contacted Me....I am well aware that most subs on here seek a quick thrill or slap and tickle ...I do not seek that..If you want abuse..go somewhere else..Anyone in this lifestyle knows that abuse is not a part of it...I am quite clear on what I seek..and its not a quickie or someone who is exploring for the first time cause the wifey wont play the game...I dont play the Game...I am real time..and seek the same...if you can not walk the walk...then dont talk the talk...wannabes abound..Know this...I can spot a player by the way he sends his first message...be well...to those who are really seeking..to the wannabes...educate yourself ... |
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