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The pic is of me at work on the Friday before Halloween. I was going for that Uma Thurman/Pulp Fiction look. If you ask nicely I'll send you a wigless photo. :) About me: I'm a hard-core Black Belt Sudoku addict that gets off on the smell of a newly sharpened Ticonderoga and the feel of eraser dust on my lap.
Beyond that...........
My prior relationship was D/s, though not officially 24/7. I am a strong woman - I have a fairly Dominant personality, but identify sexually as a submissive. I am BDSM light. I'm more into the psychological aspects of D/s than I am into the physical aspects of S/m or B/D.
I love power exchange, but *kind* power exchange - I harbor no brutal rape fantasies. The tipping point between being in charge and not being in charge is one of the things that reaches into me.
In fact, I'd describe myself more as a "kinky sex" person than a "lifestyler." I'm cautious by nature, so will want to get to know you online before we meet.
What I hope to find in you: articulate, intelligent, quick-witted, funny and relaxed. You're comfortable in your own skin - confident without being arrogant. You're well-read and well-traveled.
I'd love to share a good bottle of wine now and again, but I've outgrown the 'party animal' phase of my life. I would hope you have, too.
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Looking for honesty, you know?
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wow ... what a difference a few months makes. I can't remember when I've been in such a good place in my life! I used to say I couldn't wait to turn 50, but now I'm truly enjoying my mid 40s. I hope everyone is well and happy, and looking forward to a wonderful 2008.
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It never fails to surprise me how quickly you can get to know someone online. Anger, especially, seems to surface almost immediately. This is a response to someone who was unable to talk through a very simple misunderstanding. He blocked me rather than give me the opportunity to respond to his allegation that I was being "untruthful" Too bad... I thought he may have been different than other men. Turns out, he supports a very unflattering male stereotype.
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I'm happy to have the opportunity to clarify. In the past, I *have* made pre-judgments based on appearance, and they have, more often than not, failed me. So, learning from that, I now more fully appreciate the intellectual side of someone, and spend less time worrying about what they look like. Beyond someone being clean and groomed, I don't care if they're tall or short, black or white, furry or smooth. But that's just *me.* Everyone has their priorities, and no one needs to apologize for them. They are what they are, you know?... *smile*
I sense you're pretty ticked off at me... you're coming across as being very defensive. I might well be wrong - the typed word is difficult, at times, to assign emotion to. But I'm sensing you're angry with me, much in the same way you were angry with that woman you met for coffee that questioned whether or not you were really a Dom. Your take on that intrigued me, by the way, and I wanted to know more about you. You sounded different than some of the other men out there, and I was interested in learning more about what was inside your head.
My disappointment *wasn't* in your failure to acknowledge how thoughtful my email was. Do I HONESTLY come across that assinine to you? My disappointment was that you didn't *respond* to my email.... to the questions and comments I'd tossed out to you. I was hoping to learn something more about you. How important IS caning to you? Humiliation? I'm not into either at ALL, so if they're important to you, then we may as well call the game, now.
Do your ideas about D/s extend 24/7? My thoughts on a D/s relationship that extends beyond the bedroom are very definite and inflexible based on my relationship with my ex. If you want absolute control over where the artrwork is hung, or which sofa is purchased, or which movie we rent on Thursday night, then I'm not the woman for you. Beyond that, would your response show me that you had a sense of humor? Do you sound like someone that would be *fun* to spend time with? Would you have the patience to get beyond my strong exterior to that place where I could truly let go and fly beneath your hand?
Simply put, I ws hoping to know you better from your response. To better know the types of things that would make your physical appearance a completely benign detail.
I didn't get any of that. What I got was, "how about a pic?" Four words that told me nothing... and everything all at once. So yes, I was disappointed. Disappointed, because I was sincerely ~hoping~.
So, no hard feelings on this end. I just wanted to make sure you understood where I was coming from. You inferred I was being untruthful. I wasn't being untruthful at all. Unclear, perhaps... *smile*... but not untruthful.
Good luck in your search... I wish you all the best.
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| Age: 21 |
| Santa Cruz,
California |
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