I'm attracted to this lifestyle because of the mental aspect of taking and relinquishing control.?
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I've never been dominated before and its something I want to experience.?
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I enjoy being the dominant, but I don't believe in extreme pain (giving or receiving). I believe that a dom/sub relationship is based on trust, and not just getting what you want out of your sub.?
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As a dominant, I give direction. I will control exactly what my sub will do with her body, and expect to be obeyed. However, I also very strongly believe in respecting my subs established limits. For example, if my sub has a hard aversion to anal play, I wouldn't ever go there, or force her to do so. Doing that would be a violation of her trust, and is not a true d/s session, but closer to sadism.?
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I base my dominance on my subs likes and dislikes always. Simply using your sub as a toy to fulfill your own desires is selfish and abusive. So its very important to speak up when you have a question, or want to request something from me (though you might not get it right away). Unless you say something, I won't know whether or not you enjoy being under my control.
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I enjoy role-playing, and games- e.g. playing strip poker/game that requires a bit of thinking (games based on luck-only are boring because you have NO control over the outcome). The loser has to serve the winner within his/her previously established limits.?
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Things I've tried as a dom (giving)
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CMNF/Exhibitionism
Cum play
handcuffs, thigh-to-arm restraints
Blindfolds
Vibrators under restraint
Begging
Maid duties
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Things I DON'T/wouldn't like:
Torture (eletrical/cane/wax/crop)
Enemas
Cages
Chastity
