KShara


	KSharrdii Male Dominant, 33, Bothell, Washington

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	About KShara There have been some interesting confusions about some of the items listed below that were intended to help us chat more effectively. A frequent and amusing comment is that "men don't like lists of requirements!" which demonstrates that those individuals did not even glance at it as the list has always been about me. So let's refine things a bit shall we? 1. I realize this is a longer profile than many men generally want to read, but it contains the answers to the most common questions and comments I receive. Simply skimming the profile (*not* the interests list) from top to bottom may save us both time and frustration. 2. Let's be honest here guys, my PROFILE was not what attracted you. You read my interests list and reached out, and that is fine so long as you are honest about it. I WILL call you out on it if you say you "liked!" my profile but clearly never read it. 3. I live in Virginia, somewhere around Kenbridge. Ish. (I will not state precisely where unless we have been chatting privately for a while and I feel comfortable and safe doing so. If that significantly bothers you we are not a good match, best of luck in your search.) 4. I do not cave even to subtle pressure to share inf.ormation, including photos (especially "PG face pics"). I am not "hiding" anything. I am protecting my privacy and person. I have been stalked more than once. If you cannot be understanding and respectful of that, we are definitely not a good match. 5. Attempting to minimize or invalidate my concerns and experiences only shows me that you will not respect my limits. It does not and will not make me trust you. 6. While I enjoy chatting with people around the world, please understand up front that I am NOT interested in online only, long distance, or "FWB when you are traveling" type relationships. That simply does not work for me. 7. My age is listed accurately (as of Feb 12, 2023). 8. Preemptive apologies if it offends you, but if you are over 55 I am not going to meet you. I am quite willing to have pleasant, friendly chats online, but that IS the extent of it. I do not enjoy large age gaps in intimate relationships for a number of reasons. Significant among those, it often leads to mismatched libidos, and I do not want to be thinking about mortality (or my parents!) while playing. 9. I am a hetero leaning sapiosexual. What does that mean? It means my primary attraction is to intelligence, but that I also tend to prefer hetero connections. I do not "dislike women", I just don't want a relationship with one at this time. (If at some point that changes, know up front that I am absolutely and only dominant with women.) 10. As for poly, I have nothing against it if it is ethical, honest, transparent, respectful, and everyone consents to it fully. Having said that, however, at this time I am not interested in a multi-person relationship. (It is of note to add that if you are part of a couple and "need to be discrete"... sorry Cheater McCheatyface, I have ZERO interest in being your fantasy fulfillment sidechick. Less than that actually, I have negative infinity interest in it.) 11. Being listed as a switch does NOT mean "just a difficult sub who is pissed off at dumb guys". It is an accurate role, please stop assuming things about me and my experiences. 12. I have over 25 years of experience. (Yes, really.) If you come into my messages acting like you are the all-knowing and I am a newbie, brainless bimbo or idiot, you can just fuck the hell right off. Your ten years of wanking in the dark to spanky videos and hoping to someday meet a real woman are very obvious and do not impress nor grant you ANY privileges with me. 13. So if I am not just a snotty sub why do I not list that I am seeking subs too? (Seriously? You honestly think that is a "Ha! Got ya there!" question? Insert facepalm and sighing emoji's here.) Because I do not need to, they are all over messaging me even when my profile is blank. Male subs tend to VERY actively seek and reach out on even the slimmest of chances in the hopes of finding space to serve. And not just local ones either (holy rusted metal Batman, there are a Lot of Canadian and European subs in my inboxes!). 14. So what do I want then? To begin with, very simply for people to stop assuming things about me in general. I am not typically a negative person but WOW there is a LOT of nonsense on here these days. Yikes! Honestly *what I am looking for* is pretty normal. I want to connect with a relatively LOCAL individual enough to want more than a playmate or FWBs situation. Obviously that does not happen instantly, but if that is not what you are looking for, if you are really only trying to get your rocks off without any emotional attachment, please do not waste our time -- you are wasting yours as much as mine if you are not honest about your desires and intentions. 15. My interests list is accurate, but it is not exhaustive and it does not remotely define me. 16. Please do not think I am going to fall all over you JUST because you said hello. While I am a BBW, I have strong self-esteem, plenty of confidence, and I am not desperate. 17. If you happen to message me and toss the phrase "word salad" into your message I will know you actually read my profile completely, not just my interests, and chat with you on the assumption that you are aware of and fine with a larger lady and that you too are actually seeking a relationship. Bonus points if you can make it fit naturally into the conversation, insert winky emoji here. So there we have it, 17 things about me to help us chat better. And for those of you who, after reading this, know that we are not a good match, I wish you the very best of luck on your continuing journeys.

Another male who labeled himself as a dominant but did everything possible to ensure he looked like an immature toxic asshat has blocked me after sending one of those last word messages that, supposedly, crushes my poor little soul, all because I dare to express that I have boundaries and politely referred him to read my profile then wished him luck in finding what he seeks...

Oh noes!

Oh woe is me!

Whatever will I do?

My heart is torn asunder by the ultra masculine machoness of the men who point out that I must only be good at geography and do not deserve their cocks.

Note for anyone who failed to pickup on the HEAVY sarcasm there... this might not be the best place for you to try to communicate with others if you cannot read sarcasm in text.

I have friends who use the site that suggested I take a look around. They warned me that even with almost nothing in my profile and no pics (I can't put any up for work reasons), simply putting that I'm female and a switch would probably get me all sorts of attention. I thought they were exaggerating.

They were not. Holy smokes, not even a little.

So... I guess a few things I should add to maybe slow things down a bit?

I'm not looking for anything long distance at all.

I'm not poly, so no couples or groups.

I'm not an exhibitionist, it's not that I'm shy or something, I just prefer to keep private things private.

If you message me saying "hi slut" or something like that, I'm not going to respond and I will block you. It's rude, you don't know me, you haven't earned the right to say things like that.

Oh, and I'm a BBW so if you're looking for a Barbie doll ... I ate her.

So... there we go I guess. Now I'll try to read through the thirty-something messages I got in under a day.

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KShara

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