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Male Dominant, 28, raleigh, North Carolina
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About Knismogenic
I'm a 34-year old single, straight, dominant guy, currently living & working in Liverpool - although, I'm still a Manchester lad at heart!
I've been interested in BDSM for what seems like forever now, however, I've never been fortunate enough to be in a relationship with someone interested in (or at least curious about!) BDSM.
In terms of my appearance, I'm 6ft tall, of slim build, with short brown hair, and blue eyes. I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs and I'm told I have a great sense of humour. I much prefer spending quality 1-to-1 time with people rather than being in a noisy environment, like a pub/club
My friends would describe me as caring, trustworthy, honest, approachable, reliable, creative, resourceful, intelligent, calm, a good listener, loving
My BDSM interests include Bondage (obviously!), Blindfolds & Gags, Electrical Play, Wax Play, Light Flogging, Breast Play (nipple clamps / weights, etc), Tickling, Foot torture, and I'm somewhat curious about Orgasm Control / Denial. My BDSM turn-offs include Scat / Watersports, and any play that would leave permanent marks on/damage to the body (cutting, piercing, branding, etc)
What I'm looking for:
I'm looking for a submissive, single female (and ideally straight!), between the ages of 18-34 .. in the hope that we can explore and develop a mutual interest in BDSM together. Ultimately, I'm hoping for a life long partner, should the right person come along, but I'm in no hurry to jump into this with the wrong person!
I'd really want to get to know any potential partner, and develop a strong friendship & trust before considering participating in BDSM activities with her. I believe that this is crucial for a successful relationship. Whilst I'd want BDSM to play an important part in any potential relationship, I do want to have other things in common with my partner, and hope to find someone on a similar level of intellect & emotion to me, someone I'd want to share my life with...
Outside of BDSM, I enjoy the theatre, live music, and I love the outdoors (especially hiking, camping, moonlit walks, spending time on the beach, etc). In my spare time I write/record/produce my own music, and do a fair amount of software development & web design too.
I'm not after a "cyber" relationship, one-off meets, or random play - I'm searching for a real life relationship. ...and if you're solely interested in sex, please look elsewhere, as BDSM for me isn't about that!
Anyway, if you're still reading this, I guess that means that you've not been totally put off by what you've read, so if you're interested in knowing me, please don't be afraid to get in touch! |
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I appreciate this won't be everyone's view, but if you support the current legal definition of marriage in the UK as being the voluntary union for life of one man and one woman to the exclusion of all others, please consider adding your voice to the 636,000 others who've already signed this... http://c4m.org.uk/
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What have CollarMe got against the site "F--Life"? (where "--" stands for "et" - I have to write it this way, otherwise it gets filtered out!! ...as do variations containing spaces, hypens, or other punctuation marks, or for example if the letter "l" is substituted for a number "1, etc"!!) CollarMe really don't want you posting about that other popular fetish site do they!? ...seems a little pathetic/childish to me! ...so much for CollarMe being "a member of the Free Speech Coalition"(!) |
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Argh! It's getting harder and harder not to say anything on Facebook about 50 Shades of Grey when all my female friends are constantly talking about it!
One such attractive, and single female vanilla friend has just posted this status update:
"Oh Mr Grey. I'm going to be single forever! because of your imaginary existence!"
...now how I am supposed to respond to that!!!? |
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Well, opinion in the BDSM world is pretty divided on this increasingly popular "50 shades of grey book" and how it portrays BDSM. But whether you like it or loath it, it's certainly getting vanilla people talking! ...and the fact that BDSM is being brought into a more public, socially acceptable arena, can't be a bad thing!
My Facebook feed has been full with my female vanilla friends going on about how great it is! Oh, if only I could show them what real-life BDSM is! ;) |
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5 ways to spot potentially fake profiles here on CM
OK, so I've been on CM for a number of years now, and I have to say out of all the "kink" related sites I frequent (F et L i f e, Informed Consent, etc), CollarMe has by far the higher rate of fake profiles! :(
So if you're a newcomer to this site, here's my "top 5 tips" for spotting potentially fake profiles here
PHOTOS:
- 1) Profile Photo size/quality
If the main profile pic is very grainy/blocky and is obviously just a tiny thumbnail that has been resized
- 2) Multiple profiles with same photo
If the profile is relatively new and has a photo, Click the "Newest Users" link and see if that same photo appears more than once on the first couple of pages of results
- 3) Pay particular attention to backgrounds!
If a person claims to be from one country, let's say the UK, yet in the background of all their photos you can see US-style power outlet sockets on the walls!
LOVES/LIKES/HATES:
- 4) Beach Combing & Flea Markets
if the list of LOVES/LIKES/HATES, etc on a user's profile contains no specific "kink" related activities, and instead lists only a handful of obscure things like Art Galleries, Flea Markets, and Beach Combing, etc
PROFILE TEXT:
If a users profile text contains a contact email address - CM allows you to contact users through this site - there should therefore be no need to provide an email address on a profile if the user intends to actually use this site!
Note: The above criteria do not guarantee a profile matching one or more of these to be fake, but in my experience, they're a pretty good indication that a profile might not be all that real!
Anyway, I hope these pointers help out some of you who are new to this site! :) |
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So, apparently, there's a tickling demo at BBB in Birmingham today! It's nice to see tickling finally starting to become more accepted by the BDSM community! ..I can only hope that as a result of BBB today, more people in the UK will now want to explore tickling further! :D |
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Argh! What is it with this site and/or my profile?
I've just done some quick stats on people who've viewed my profile so far this year, and here's what I found:
50% of people who view my profile are not in the UK (Now, I'm certainly not xenophobic, but I am searching for a real life relationship.. so really you need to be in the UK!)
36% of people who view my profile are either Domme or Switch (I think my profile's pretty clear that I'm a *Dom* looking for a *Sub*!)
...and only 14% of people who actually view my profile are UK female subs!! :(
So where are all the UK female subs!!!?
*rant over* |
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MERRY CHRISTMAS ONE AND ALL! |
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Is it just me, or are the number of fake profiles on here on the rise?? Sure, you used to get the odd one or two, but now it seems like real profiles are now in a minority!...and don't get me started on the spam!! ...no, I will not email you on your Yahoo "addy"! ...no, I don't want to check out your cam! ...no, I have no desire to submit to Female dominants in the US (or anywhere for that matter - I'm not a Sub!!)
Seriously people - if you email me yet don't appear on my "Who's Viewing Me" list, it's a fairly safe bet that you've not read my full profile, and your email is spam, and will be reported as such!
OK, ok... rant over! :) ...to all the genuine female subs out there, I do appreciate getting your emails... so do keep them coming!!
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MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!
I hope you're all having a deliciously kinky time this Christmas! Sadly, I'm not - boo hoo! ...but then there's always next year!
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So, Max Mosely, president of Motor Sport's governing body, the FIA, has won his appeal against a newspaper over invasion of privacy whereby he was secretly filmed him taking part in S&M activities! - Good on him!
I think this outcome is great news for those of us here in the UK into S&M, as it's certainly brought the whole issue of S&M under the spotlight, and opened it up for discussion in mainstream British society - which I think was long overdue! ...and because Mosely has won his case, with the judge agreeing that his S&M activities were "consensual", he's effectively been cleared of any wrong doing... i.e. consensual S&M is fine in the eyes of UK law! ...will this judgement lead to more curiosity in the UK as to what S&M is all about? Probably! ...will this lead to more people wanting to get involved... or at least try it? ...well, let's hope so!!
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Oh dear, oh dear! Will people ever take the time to read my profile BEFORE contacting me!!? ...as it does quite clearly state that I'm interested in FEMALES. I'm STRAIGHT not gay or bi, and therefore have no interest whatsoever in getting mail from male submissives - sorry guys! ...so the one-line email I recently received from a male submissive in Florida asking if I wanted to "bind his balls tightly until they were purple" ....won't even be dignified with a response!
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Argh!!! My "kinky" profile on Facebook's been de-activated!... apparently you're not allowed to use anything other than your "real name"... which is about the only networking/personals site that insist on this rather than a pseudonym! ..so be warned all!
But, this got me thinking - why do I hide the "real me" on social networking sites... isn't it about time I "came out" of the "kinky" closet? Of course, I do also have a real profile on Facebook, with my real name, and my real friends... and so forth... yet I make no mention or even hint at my "kinky" side.... I find myself asking why....
Having "kinky" interests and fetishes is still frowned upon and very much a taboo subject here in the UK... a prime example is the recent controversy surrounding the president of motorsport's FIA governing body, Max Mossely - he was recently taped whilst taking part in a BDSM session in London, and there has been outrage ever since - yes, partly this outrage was due to the fact that he was role-playing a Nazi as part of the session... but equally the outrage has been cantered around the BDSM session itself.. and how such things are "not normal", shouldn't be part of "British society" and just plain "wrong"... with this amount of negative feeling about BDSM in the UK... you can start to understand why I keep my own "kinky" interests under wraps...
I guess ultimately it comes down to people who know me, and their perception of me - people see me as a honest, caring, trustworthy, sensitive, supportive, moral, and upright guy... would that change if they also knew the extent of my "kinky" interests.... should I take that chance? Well, let's look at it logically...
Right now I have 70 friends on Facebook - these are "real" people that I actually know, not just random people I've added/added me. Out of these 70, I see around 18 of them regularly (current work colleagues, ex-work colleagues.. and my sister!) ...the rest are old school friends, etc, who I sadly don't really "see" in person, but do communicate with regularly via Facebook.
So, I guess I'm less concerned about the people I don't actually see finding out, but it could be awkward if work colleagues found out... or my sister... which could lead to other family members finding out! ...I'm sure juicy gossip like this would spread very quickly!
Why, then, am I even considering making my "interests" public... well, I suspect that at least two of my female friends on facebook also have a "kinky" side... and of course my ultimate hope is that by revealing my "interests" some of my single female friends my be curious and start asking questions... which could perhaps lead to something more....? ...and I'd have someone to share in my "interests". That would be the ultimate hope... of course the reality could be totally the opposite, and could actually alienate people I want to become closer too!
I'm sure I'm not the first person to be in this quandary (I was going to use "dilemma" here, but the word "quandary" is sooo underused!)... so if anyone has any thoughts, tips, or advice... please do let me know!
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HAPPY EASTER ALL!! ...for some reason it's feeling more like Christmas than Easter... maybe it's because of the snow fall last night - it doesn't usually snow at Easter time here in the UK! |
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A very Happy Valentine's Day to you all! (especially to all you straight, single, UK, female subs - come on, where are you all!?!) |
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HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone! - Here's hoping we all find happiness and success in 2008... |
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Oh dear, oh dear, here's a sample of some of the rubbish I've had this week:
1) From a guy: "sir you sound totally awesome and i beg an opportunity to prove myself worthy of your time to worship and serve you as you see fit"
- Read my profile, mate - sorry to disappoint, but I have no interest in submissive men!
2) "If your font got any smaller we'd need a magnifying glass to read it"
- Well, don't read it then, no-ones forcing you too!
3) "How cocky of u to say something bout the US, and how stupid of u to say we want to cyber with you"
- Sorry, love, but it's true. I have no wish to "cyber" with anyone - read my profile - but I still keep getting such requests, and so far they've all originated from the other side of the pond!
People, if you've not got anything constructive to say, don't waste your time contacting me with these silly one-liners!
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Following a week of emails from people who've clearly not read my profile, please take note people:
1) I'm TOTALLY straight, and therefore have NO INTEREST in receiving mail from submissive guys
2) I'm in the **UK** and looking for a REAL life relationship here - please take note all you folks over in the US - I'm not here to "cyber" with you! |
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