kinkysubhipie

**Who am I?**
I am just your average guy living in the Albany area with a kinky side. I am a Gemini and love to talk. I am happily married and not looking to change my situation at all. My wife knows about my alternative interests and enjoys some things, but isn't into exploring all the different ideas that this world includes, so, I am looking for friends and play partners.

**The Vanilla**
Outside of this world, I am a service manager in the IT field, working on computers, copiers, printers, and that sort of stuff (if you recognize me while I am working on a machine in your office, feel free to say hello). My wife and I enjoy going to concerts all over the north east (mainly NY, MA, and CT) and typically vacation in Cape Cod (our home away from home). After a long 5 years, we finally completed building our own house about 15 minutes south of Albany. If you are looking for an ice-breaker idea, start with music. Music is my passion in life, and it is sometimes difficult to shut me up when it comes to such greats a Pink Floyd, Tom Petty, Godsmack, Melissa Etheridge, and others.

**The Kinky**
I enjoy humiliation and power exchange over the "traditional" BDSM idea of whips and chains. I am not entirely sure why, but one of my favorite things is watersports. Maybe it is the taboo of being "dirty", or maybe it is the extra humiliating, degrading idea of being on the receiving end that makes it fun for me. Whatever the reason, golden showers, bathroom use control, forced wetting, and being made to wear dirty, wet clothes, are all fun things to me.

In private, I am completely comfortable being required to dress in drag, or only allowed to wear a thong, panties, nylons, lingerie... If we are going out some where in public, as long as I am allowed my "normal" clothing, anything goes underneath, be it wet panties/thongs, a bra, cock collar, adult diapers, etc. I am curious about exploring some public humiliation, but I am always very aware of my surroundings and don't want to hit the point where it makes others uncomfortable. Something like wearing a collar and diaper out to dinner would be more than okay; wetting myself at the table in the restaurant without the diaper, not cool. I am generally okay with the idea of being totally dominated and humiliated in front of others involved in the scene, on the condition that I have a full head hood or blindfold on until I reach such a point that my comfort level with them no longer requires that feeling of separation.

Speech and sight restrictions are interesting, and can be fun. Gags and hoods are fun, and useful tools when when it comes to those ideas in private. In public, well, less direct, more creative methods of enforcing those concepts is a good idea. Food play can also be something that can be explored in both public and private. Sploshing/gunging is a lot of fun if you have the ability to make a huge mess and the space for easy cleanup. Not being allowed to eat anything other than table scraps, that is something that could be done in a variety of situations. Depending upon the venue, exploring the idea of premastication could be possible.

**What am I Looking For?**
I am looking for play partners, kinky friends, and would love to ultimately find a woman who would enjoy owning me as her sub.

Kinky Friends- Anyone, who I can hang out with in vanilla and kinky settings and wouldn't be put off with the idea that I might be in drag, be wearing pee-soaked clothes, or have any other of domination exerted over me in their presence.

Play Partners - Anyone that I could submit to in a scene, or a woman I can sub along side (something along the lines of licking the drool off of a woman who is wearing a ball gag would be my idea of subbing along side someone). Someone who would enjoy the idea of humiliating me and engage in physical aspects of dominating me, such as king/flogging me, having me lick their boots clean, dictating what I am or am not allowed to wear, eat, drink, go to the bathroom, and more.

An Owner - This one is, by far, the most complex role.

Since I am married, and monogamous, owning me would not be in a traditional BDSM style where I would be available every moment of every day to my owner, and my owner would have final say. My heart belongs to my wife. We have a strict no sex limit in place when it comes to others. I would enjoy belonging to someone in a 24/7 situation where they can understand and respect that my wife will always be first and can veto/overrule anything in regards to kink, but would have total access to me with that in mind. I would enjoy having my owner decide which panties or thong I should wear every day. I would embrace the idea of seeking permission to use the bathroom, and obeying when denied or ordered to wet myself instead of using the toilet. I would need an owner who understands that life happens and sometimes it is not always possible to obey, but would take that in stride and punish me for disobeying. (something like the idea that I can not seek permission to go to the bathroom since I am in a place for work where phones are not allowed, and I use the toilet without asking. I would report what I have done, and as punishment, I would not be allowed to stop for a bathroom break on my way home, but would have to pee my pants, in the car instead.) I would like to find an owner I could serve in real time, in person, and continue with life, separately, but always be no more than a phone call, email, or text message away from being reminded where my place is. I think it would be great fun to be owned by a woman who would laugh as she makes me lick the sweat off of her armpits on a hot summer day; who would come over for a Sunday BBQ, decide I am over dressed and strip me naked as I man the grill, and continue the conversation as if nothing out of the ordinary happened. I would find it extremely rewarding to be used as a toilet on a regular basis. I would be happy to set an alarm and wake up in the middle of the night, get dressed in drag, and serve as a designated driver to bring my owner and her friends home after a night of partying. These are but a few of the ideas that float around in my head.

If you have read this far, you should really message me and say hi.


== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
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99% Rope bunny
99% Degradee
87% Voyeur
75% Pet
66% Exhibitionist
63% Submissive
55% Slave
54% Primal (Prey)
53% Rigger
51% Non-monogamist
50% Experimentalist
50% Vanilla
49% Brat
42% Daddy/Mommy
35% Masochist
31% Owner
23% Dominant
14% Master/Mistress
14% Degrader
11% Primal (Hunter)
10% Brat tamer
1% Sadist
1% Boy/Girl
0% Ageplayer