KinkyBlackMan

I am wondering if there are any other folks from this site that will be at Naughty Noel next weekend. Would be cool to have an impromptu meet & greet. What do you think?

After years of bouncing around various swingers and bdsm communities, I have finally found a segment of the alternative lifestyle community that fulfills both my intellectual and physical needs in the leather community. I really do enjoy intelligent conversations. This is something that is not always appreciated in regular swinging and bdsm circles. The leather community has such a rich history and I enjoy meeting and talking with the people within the community. 

I keep on coming across individuals that say they are submissive but have a laundry list of requirements for the Dominant. This is a red flag to me. What is the point of calling yourself a submissive if you are not willing to surrender control? 

I can accept that I am not compatible with every submissive that I encounter. But I am not willing to spend my time going back and forth with someone that doesn't want to submit. People need to be more honest with themselves and work on their communication skills. Open communication can eliminate alot of the problems I see people posting about online when their relationships do not work out like they want them to. If you dont trust my leadership, then maybe I am not the Dominant for you. 

I am the head of my household and there can only be one Master. Seeking a submissive couple to be a part of our poly household. We live a very active lifestyle and would love to have another couple to do things with. 

I am super geeked that we will be hosting the cigar social for Studio 58's Naughty Noel. 

I am officially a Philadelphia resident now. Just moved to the city. 

Looking for sub males and females to join our poly family. Its been a lot harder finding compatible people than I first anticipated. 

And just like that, its time to start packing. The house sold within the first week of being listed. Once again the Universe has chosen to show favor towards me. I have lived in VA all of my life except 1 year, the year after my divorce when I moved to MD. Now, I am headed to Philadelphia PA. 

Sorta funny considering I have spent the last 20 years of my life traveling throughout different parts of western PA to attend swingers parties and go to a few clubs in that area. Have always wondered what it would be like to live in an area where there is a swinger's club within driving distance of my home. Never did I imagine that I would one day move to PA and then Philadelphia at that. 

There at least 3 swingers clubs and 1 bdsm club within a 30 min drive of my new place in PA. Not sure how long I will be there but it will definitely be fun.

The artist Nas once said that life is a bitch and then you die. I agree wholeheartedly. That is why I try to live life to the fullest everyday. Several things occured over the past two years that have significantly changed my life. Im not writing this post to complain about those things but to reflect on how those things have influenced my choice to fulfill a long time fantasy that up until this point in my life seemed unrealistic. 

Tomorrow, I have a realtor coming to my home to list it for sale. I will be selling my home and moving in with my submissive so that we can build our 1950s household. She lives in Philadelphia so this will not only be an opportunity to live out my fantasy but it will also be a fresh start in a new city. The circumstances that created this possibility were not desireable but I am happy that they pushed me towards fulfilling one of my long time fantasies. 

Life is a bitch and then you die.....so you may as well make the best of it while you can.

I have been foturnate enough to find a woman that wants to help me build my household. We have been in a 1950s style dynamic on and off for the past 3 years. Just like anyone else, we have had some bad expericnes but we choose to focus on the good. I have discovered that this is really the key to living a happy life in this world. 

I identify as Heteroflexible so I updated my profile to show my interest in submissive men and transexuals. Im really surprised at the amount of emails I have received in response to that update. 

The most common question I get is "how can I serve you?" so I thought I would add a journal entry to answer that question. First, Im not gay so I am not attracted to men. However, because I have a control fetish I am flexible in my preferences and am willing to play with men or transexuals that are submissive. My definition of submissive is one that is willing to submit even if there is no sex involved. More specifically I am looking for individuals that want to serve long term. 

I am a big man so I prefer the bois and gurls I play with to be petite and very feminine. I have a strict one cock rule so you must own a chastity device and I will expect you to wear it whenever you are in my presence. I will not allow you to cum before, during, or after we play. The last thing that I look for in a boi or gurl is that your are close enough to me to meet real time. As for those that are not local but still want to serve, perhaps you could offer me something else. . 

Glad to see that CollarSpace brought this feature back. 

Alright, so I finally went over to BDSMTEST.org to see what my results would be if I took the kinky test...Not too surprising...but I damn sure am not a rigger...Have had 10 feet of rope laying around here for about 5 years and still don't know what to do with it. 81% Sadist?...well maybe a little...lol.

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Exhibitionist
100% Dominant
100% Voyeur
100% Non-monogamist
99% Primal (Hunter)
95% Master/Mistress
89% Rigger
86% Daddy/Mommy
82% Owner
81% Sadist
72% Degrader
65% Experimentalist
47% Ageplayer
28% Masochist
18% Rope bunny
17% Vanilla
4% Brat
3% Primal (Prey)
1% Boy/Girl
1% Submissive
0% Slave
0% Degradee
0% Pet
0% Switch