Kiavalon

Made a connection here I think I should check out.  I am also having some other pleasant changes in life I want to focus on, so all this will take some time. Will not be onsite often in the near future. Thanks for stopping by, Ki

Buddhists hold that over 2500 years ago, Buddha provided guidance on establishing mindfulness. Right mindfulness involves bringing one's awareness to focus on experience within the mind at the present moment. By paying close attention to the present experience, practitioners begin to see both inner and outer aspects of reality as aspects of the mind. Internally, one sees that the mind is continually full of chattering with commentary or judgement. By noticing that the mind is continually making commentary, one has the ability to carefully observe those thoughts, seeing them for what they are without aversion or judgment. Those practicing mindfulness realize that "thoughts are just thoughts." One is free to release a thought ("let it go") when one realizes that the thought may not be concrete reality or absolute truth. Thus, one is free to observe life without getting caught in the commentary. Many "voices" or messages may speak to one within the "vocal" (discursive) mind. It is important to be aware that the messages one hears during "thinking" are simply discursive habit and that the real point of practice is distinguishing different types of experience from the context (mind) within which they occur.

As one more closely observes mental activity, one finds that happiness (for example)is not exclusively a quality brought about by a change in outer circumstances, but rather that realizing happiness often starts with loosening and releasing attachment to thoughts, predispositions, and "scripts"; thereby releasing "automatic" reactions toward what seem to be pleasant and unpleasant situations or feelings.

However, mindfulness does not have to be constrained to a formal meditation session. Mindfulness is an activity that can be done at any time; it does not require sitting, or focusing on the breath, but rather simply realizing what is happening in the present moment is mental content, including simply noticing the mind's usual "commentary". One can be mindful of the sensations in one's feet while walking, of the sound of the wind in the trees, or the feeling of soapy water while doing dishes. One can also be mindful of the mind's commentary: "I wish I didn't have to walk any further, I like the sound of the leaves rustling, I wish washing dishes weren't so boring and the soap weren't drying out my skin", etc. Once we identify experience as mental content, we have the freedom to cease identification with any judgments/perceptions: "washing dishes: boring" may become "The warm water is in unison with the detergent and is currently washing away the plate's grime, the sun is shining through the window and casting an ever greater shadow on the dish's white ceramics." In this example, one may see that washing does not have to be judged "boring"; washing dishes is only a process of coordinating dishes with soap and water. Any activity done mindfully is a form of meditation, and mindfulness is possible practically all the time.

"In most encounters we can determine the kind of experience we are going to have by how we respond"
Wayne S. Peterson

Loves: Stinging pain,  outdoor sex, pussy welts,  oral sex, fisting, toys, waxplay, breathplay, examinations.

Enjoys: Mild, playful style humilations, exhibitionism (child free spaces only), cameras, nipple and clit clamps, eye contact restrictions, stalking & being stalked, raping fantasy,  bondage, erotic clothes and costumes, general gleeful torture, insubordination and intimidation.

Dislikes (but not forbidden): anal sex, enemas, cold, thudding pain, gags, speech control.

Absolutely will NOT do: Golden showers, brown showers, licking of the bathroom floor or dirty boots ect (ie, licking anything that could result in a good case of hepititis to all players),  also no ageplay, animals, kids, relatives, or face slapping! 
 

Exceptional, smart and present.  I enjoy suspending my disbelef.  But I am always awake watching over me.  I am highly perceptive, if you are looking for a victim, please do pass me by.  I have made a living from reading people.  If your intentions are negative or dishonest, you will be transparant to me.  Please approach me with intelligence and Light, or not at all.

Biological determinism.

If you believe this to be the source of your power over others, over me, you will not collar me. There are no simple Truths.  All permanance is an illusion.

I seek something a little more difficult, and much more meaningful. If you simply present to me a well worn and convienent "scientific" geneticly based reasoning for why you want to do all those nasty things to me, why i want You to do them, you are not my top. 

In the end, we do as we choose. Domination and submission are consiously situated.

If You understand this, i am looking for You.