As time and relationships/ encounters go by, I've learned more about myself and what I want… and what I need.
I need someone who will make me laugh, make me cry (at the right times!!) I need someone who doesn't mind a girl who is a bit shy and hesitant in revealing her wants, her feelings, her fantasies. I need someone who will perhaps be a bit strict, but also who know when to laugh at themselves or the situation! And someone to explore new things with me!
I am wanting a LTR, 24/7 relationship. To me, 24/7 is because I am sub all the time to my Dom, it's not something I can turn on and off for the bedroom. That doesn't mean I'll bow and kneel on the floor all the time, but in the way of being deferential, ask for opinions and if agreed upon, even asking permissions.
I also like to have a lot of contact, whether it is daily text messages or IM chats. And 1-2-1 as often as can be. And if you can't be bothered or not put the effort in with this, don't bother repling.
Now the wants…
I want to be loved, cared for, protected, romanced a bit… and to be spoilt at bit!
I am a sensual sub, as in I don't really like pain – well most types of pain. But I like the glow, the heat and the marks left behind. A bit contradictory, but then, that is me!! I do want to have my limits tested and pushed, it's the only way to find out what is good and what isn't. I am relatively inexperienced in play/sceneing. I don't do role play, blood, any sort of permanent markings, piercing. And I do not do mind games/fucks. There maybe others which I haven't found yet!
I am NOT poly!! And I don't do married men. I will not be a 2nd woman, even if the wife is ok about it!! I don't have any desire to be with a woman either, be it another sub or a Domme.
The things which are extremely important to me are honesty, loyalty and respect. These are not negotiable, and once broken, that's it. I also hold consideration of others high. I don't like being kept in the dark, if you can't make a pre arranged meet or regular chat date, then all I ask is for a txt or memo to let me know, so I'm not waiting all night or whenever wondering what's going on.A bit of curtesy is all it takes.
The 'nilla Me –
I like reading – sci-fi/ fantasy, thillers, horrors. I read at least 1 book a week, and quite often have 2 on the go at the same time. I like going to the cinema, I usually arrange a trip out with a couple of friends at least once a month. I like food – cooking and eating out, and baking especially. I like all sorts of music from heavy rock to motown to some jazz and classical. I am quite happy with a night in with a dvd and take away, as I am being dined in a restaurant.
I am ultimately looking for a guy who will encompass both my nilla and kinky sides, someone who is happy to do the ordinary things with, someone to share days out with (it's boring going by oneself!!), someone to cuddle when feeling down or sad. Someone to spoil me a bit, and someone I can spoil too!
And the last thing – if you have a blank or sparse profile, I won't reply. If you send a one line memo, don't expect a reply. And I don't answer unsolicited chats.
And if this all seem like too much for you, then as the song goes 'walk on by!!'
Oh, and to add, you must like cats!!!
