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Male Switch, 29
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About jtothefive
I am here looking for a domme or a mistress, I am fairly experienced as a sub, but will let my actions speak louder then my words. I will send out emails on occasion, but would love to hear from women as well)
I am happy to see that this site is back up, despite the fact that I havent had much luck on here. As for specifics on what I am looking for........I am interested in dominant women, transgendered and domdomme couples only. I havent had much luck with women who claim to be switches, but maybe you can change my mind if you are a switch.
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The search continues...........
Well, apparently this theme is turning into a series........so, I met a dominant woman on this other site (collarspace won't let me name it) and I was pretty excited, she seemed sane, experienced, and willing. Not only that, she was fairly close, anyway, right off the bat she sent me her number for me to text. I should have seen that as a red flag but, decided it was worth a shot anyway. We started texting back and forth, discussing fetishes, life, that sort of thing. Then out of the blue she says she needs me to transfer 835 dollars to her account for "toys" for our session. I understand fin domming is a fetish, and I have nothing against that, its just not my thing, I work very hard for my money and am very picky about what I spend it on. I also have nothing against pro dommes, if you can make a living doing what you love then I have the the utmost respect for you. Anyway, apparently according to her she wasn't either one of those, what I didn't understand is how she can say she has a dungeon but doesn't have any whips, chains, rope, dildos etc.? I did train under a mistress for a time and while I had no problem buying some things like ball gags, dildos, butt plugs and other toys, I couldn't figure this out 835 dollars??? Anyway I told her I wasn't interested, so.............the search continues for my mistress, I will never give up:) |
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The search continues.........
Well, I was messing around on craigslist the other day (mostly looking for a dirtbike) and for the hell of it decided to click on casual encounters. I went to the MW4M section and lo and behold was an ad that read "strapon play". I was floored, I live in a small town and never see things like that. Anyway the ad was seeking a submissive man who would let the woman fuck him with a strapon while her husband watched. Of course I responded very quickly, unfortunately either the ad wasn't real or they weren't interested because I haven't heard back. Frustrating, this is a huge fantasy of mine and I would really like to experience it at some point..........ahhh well, my search continues. |
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FINDING A MISTRESS:
Obviously, this is no easy task, originally this journal entry was going to be a whiny rant about how much trouble I am having. I decided to forego that and share what I have learned in my search. Most of this is common sense, but still mistakes constantly made my newbies.
1. Dommes are real people: Dominant women still want to be treated like human beings, not just facilitators of fantasies. They want a sub who is not only going to cater to their whims, but someone who actually cares about them and will treat them with respect. As such, emailing a domme and simply saying, "I will do whatever you tell me" is not respectful. Vanilla relationships don't work this way and neither do BDSM relationships.
2. Submissive Confidence : Being a submissive does not equal insecurity, just like in vanilla relationships, dominant women want a sub who is confident and comfortable with who he is. It is a common misconception that submissive men are extremely insecure, BDSM should not be a way to hide your issues. Its not healthy and is a major turn off to dominant women.
3. Dominant Women are not the norm: One of the things I love about dominant women is that they don't fit the societal stereotype of women. I live in a small town so there are very few dominant women. However, I do think that there are a lot more submissive women then dommes. This means they get a very high volume of emails and a male submissive should try to be as patient as possible, no one likes to be bugged.
Anyway, I will add more to this at a later date, but wanted to post it for anyone who feels like reading:) |
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Wow, I forgot how many scams litter this site. I don't understand why I would need to join a different site in order to talk to a mistress. |
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well, ive decided to seriously consider moving away from Durango to somewhere much less stifling. Maybe Albuquerque, maybe Denver not sure, those are my top two choices right now. |
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