I am a BLACK DOMINANT/Owner in the Midwest. I have been into this life for more than 9125 days. I have found that most people are just playing at it and that there is no real commitment to this way of life. I seek someone who is willing to not only submit to me but to learn also what makes me pleased. I do not want a mindless slave, I want the woman to be smart, as often I like to engage in serious conversation with her. I also want a woman who is willing to go for broke. If you think that you can half ass it and I will be pleased, you, are wrong. I do not want to play games, I want her to be driven as I Will drive her. I want you to understand that everything that goes on is about Me, you and us. I want you to be able to tell me what you think that you want, what you think that you do not want and then to be able to leave it up to me. If you think you may be interested then lets talk and see if we can work something out.
Hello all.
I have a issue and perhaps I could use some feedback from others. My own thoughts may be extream to some; and so I will listen to the world a bit and perhaps gain something.
Here is the issue. Say you have a submissive or slave.
Say that you have a collar on her/him. Say that she/he really does not like to wear the collar in public.
Say that she/he also has a habit of taking it off without first asking you if she/he can.
Now, add to all of that, that she/he looses to collar. Yep. They took it off and just misplaced it and they do not know where it is.
What should be done?
I await everyones reply.
Why is it that you can meet a Person in a niteclub or on the street, and introduce them into BDSM with little or no Problems? But, if you get on to one of the BDSM sites such as this, there are always some sort of issues.
Answer. Most people on the sites are just venting. They are dreaming. They are scamming. People talk about building up trust, ( I need to trust you befor I will submit, Blah blah, B L A H ).........
Yet you meet someon at work or in the street, get dinner and a drink and next thing you know you are spanking them like they are your own personal property. They just met you and they are eating your ass out like it is the last supper. What is the deal with that?
Answer, People on the street are like Birds, they flock together if they are of the same cloth. You are attracted to people that give off the energy that makes your spark plugs fire. You can tell and they can tell. Thusly everyone usually gets what they need.
Now on the street, you play all the silly games, pretending that you will not do thus or so. But back in your heart of hearts you are hoping that some Dominant takes a hold of you and MAKES you comply. You look for the Person that understand that even though you protest, you really want to be slapped like that. You really want to have the bruise, you really do want your hair pulled untill the tears flow. You feel best when told what to do.
People just do not know that it is the style of life. They think that they have something "wrong" with them because they wish to be chokefucked. There is something wrong with them, the something wrong is that they just do not admit and relish in what they enjoy.
End of sermon.
But as an asside, there really do seem to be a real load of chicken shit submissives on this site. Making up directions for people that arent subs. You sub, you do not give orders. And you Doms out there that are Ambush doms, That is some weak shit also. Fear not. Put yourself out there and stand tall. Your Face should be seen. You should be strong enough to allow the you to be you. Lest people begin to believe that you are a beta.
I just happen to think that this song is fantastic.
It is by Beth Hart. Not BDSM, but speaks to the soul...
Does anyone ever just wish that there was a place that you could go to find a person that was actually everything that they said that they were?
Sure.
Is that Place real?
Nope.
Here is my thinking as to why. People always change. A person may want one thing at one stage in thier life, but at some point they fall into something else. It just happens that way. I will use myself as an example, when I was 18 years old I could eat an entire half gallon of chocolate ice cream with chocolate syrup too. And never did I gain an ounce or loose one cell of muscle. I could stay up for 23 hours every day for months. I could fight every night and never feel it 2 hours later. But now, even though I still crave Chocolate ice cream, a half gallon makes me ill... I do not actually enjoy staying up all day and night for work or play. And working security, I try to avoid fighting if I can. And that is because now I feel the impacts the next day. Damn, I got older. Nonetheless, I have learned from all the foolishness of youth. I learned that if I eat too much Ice cream that I get sick and even worse I have to work out harder to stay at 222 pounds of screaming rock solid ape shit. I learned that just because I can break up a person does not mean that I HAVE to. I learned that sleep is sometimes one of the seven wonders of the world. and I learned that if you want to have a person be what they want, then you have to also be that to and for them.
Most people do not actually know what it is that they want. They want to "try" or they "think' that they want a lifestyle. for some, it is a way of life, and not a style of life. For others it is a way of getting through a day that must bore them to tears. For others it is a way to cope with a relationship that they are in that sucks. So they get on line, they romantisize BDSM or D/s or M/s and they talk mad made up shit. They form little clubs and sit on thier flabby backsides and pontificate from on high in the throne room of the net. You will know a real person, they have real photos. They will talk to you often, they actually answer questions and they want to know who and what and where you are. You will not be spending time endlessly chatting. You will meet them soon and someplace public if they require. Fakers tell you that they have to talk for time after time, they do not want to ever call you or allow you to call them. Now, now, befor you folks get all biched up over that statement, there is this new thing and it is called a track phone, they are cheap and they protect your personal security, then there is this other new thing called call number block, and you can, if you so choose, use it to hide your phone number so that you can keep your personal security intact. They also have this thing called a majic jack and you could, for 19 dollars use one of them too. So you can prove that you are a real person and not some kid or some useless old fella who in real life can not even get his own dog to sit at his feet. But as for a place that you will find the perfect ONE. That place is in your mind. a Person needs to make the best of whatever they have and where ever they may be. If you expect that another person will ever actually make you a whole person then you are sadly mistaken. A half a person who joins with another is still only half a person, you may be alright for a short amount of time, but then you will go back to what ever was your comfort zone. If a person is not ok locked alone with themselves then they really arent okay locked with another person. And for you folks who still do not believe. Test it, take the one person who loves you the bestest...the mostest..... kick them in the ass really hard, then lock them in the trunk of the car. Do the same thing to your dog. Lock them both in the trunk for 2 whole days and nights. After 48 hours, unlock the trunk, and see which one is happy to see your face..... People are only devoted untill they think they see greener grass. They can not help it.We would like to be better, but alas, we arent. Some are better than others, and usually it is the ones who have already had to prove themselves in some totally rotten place or situation. People like that are more solid than the ones who grow up like the Cleavers. I see so many people, usually women, who are pissed off that men jump all over thier profile, well ladies, the dudes here are wanting too. They want a woman that will be all thiers. But also a whole heap of these swinging dicks have not idea one on what it takes to keep a woman. They want to still be in the arms of thier mother sucking the tit. Real Alphas do not actually need you. They may like to have you around, but they do not really neeeeeed you to cook or clean or do that shit. They can do it themselves and well. IF they are an actual Alpha. A real Alpha will in fact see your worth, if in fact you show him that you are worth something. It sort of Galls me that some folks want to be treated like they are special and by special I mean like they pee wine, fart Channelle and crap Ice cream. Just because you think it does not make it so. Every one should have to prove themselves. And no one should be allowed to say that they are a Born slave. They are some of the largest bullshitters on the site, next to, the weak ass doms (yes small, very small d once again) and the doms /dommes that are under the age of 28. For Pete's sake you do not have the information or the training yet to be in control of your own dadgum life. You are just fakin it untill you (hopefully) make it. And if you take too much umbrage with it, once again I invite you to Omaha so you can have your little, want to be Dominant asses spanked by someone who will actually do it. and remember people, real ones do not want to talk about it, real ones want to BE about it.
For those that have understanding, let them understand.
Has anyone else noticed that there are so many people on this site who claim to be seeking, and yet they hide themselves? Why is it that you foks do not have a photo pf yourselves, and yet so many demand photos of others? Are you cowards, or wealkings or just a bunch of beata men and women that want to play as a keyboard dom. Yes small d there because you make me ill with your fear and foolishness. They should have a site just like this for dating, that way the numskulls who think that this is a dateing site can continue to post photos that they steal from sex sites. Damn, if you're old be old, if you are fat admit to it. If you are out of shape admit to that as well. But to post a Photo of Shakira like it is supposed to be you goes from silly to just plain old sad.You people claim to want a real relationship, yet, you do not show yourselves. No one said,(yet many ask) that the photos show you nude. You can place a nice normal everyday picture of yourselves on here. And another thing, why are all the Men on this site that profess to me Owners or Dominant alwasy mean mugging? Good grief! One would think that you would be happy or a bit smug since you should know that you are an Alpha. Just because you look into a camera and give your best scowel does not make you an alpha, it makes you an actor. Posturing is just that. and there is a difference between being Dominant and Domineering. But back to you fakers. Get out. Get real. Grow some spine. and for the ones whom I may have offended. Tough. Come to Omaha and and express yourself in person, Perhaps (and I snicker as I write this) You may get me to respond.
well guess what? Some poor waste of a parson did not like what I had to say and then, (oh Gosh!) they did not like what some of my real life photos depicted, and so they got some taken off. If you dislike some or certain aspects of the (lifestyle) fine.... But do not get your dirty panties all in a bunch and want everyone else to abide by your vision of what is Okay. You dislike water sports, that fine, but do not keep others who like them from knowing it is a real thing. You dislike a woman on her knees eating an asshole, thats fine too, but again do whine to the powers that be, to take down the offending photo, just avert your dadgum peepers. If you do not like it then do not look. If it is adults, then allow adults to do whatever the heck they want. YOU are not the parental units. Meaning you are not My mother, nor my Father, nor my Boss. You are a sniveling coward. Get a life. Stay out of mine.
Most people here do not really understand slavery, nor do they want to. Most people here just want to live the "lifestyle" Most people do not know that here in the USA slavery is still permitted. Our constitution says that slavery is against the law, unless, you are convicted of a felony.
Well let me start there. If you are in a prison you are a slave, now in saying that I do not mean that you have lost the "it" that makes you dominant, I mean while you are there you are in slavery. They clothe you as they see fit. They tell you what to do when to do it and how to do it and if you do not like it, so effing what, if you do not comply, 8 to 12 men dressed in riot gear will show up, and either spray you with pepper gas and beat your ass, toss a stun grenade at you and then beat your ass, shoot you with a shotgun that has bean bags in it, and then beat your ass, or shoot you with rubber bullets, and then, BEAT YOUR ASS. You Will, be made to comply. You have nothing that they do not allow. You eat what they give you and you shit when and where they tell you. If they do not like your mail they take it from you. When they,and by they I mean the guards, have a bad day they can and often do take it out on the inmates. and they have the absolute right backed by moral athourity and the law to kill you. You get up when they say and it is lights out when they say. If they think that you are running something they can lock you down, or toss you in the hole. If that does not work then they transfer you to a new spot where you are no longer the leader, the big fish. They dislike Dominant men, but they practice Dominance, that is in fact the job. To dominate everyone that is an inmate or convict that is there. It is slavery, and it is no coincidence that the nations largest prison is located on the grounds of what used to be the nations largest slave plantation. When there you do not have to like it, you do not have to agree with what is being done to you or forced upon you, but you better damn well comply or you will suffer for it. They do not care about your feelings, and yes there is a relationship there, But it is not vanilla. Do as you are ordered, told, requested, asked or they will suit up and hand your ass a beating. they take what little property you may have, i.e. Books, letters from friends and family, and photos, and one of the ways to ensure that you know who is in charge is to only allow a certain amount of mail and photos, and when they shake down your cell, (which they call your house) you will often or sometimes find your photos torn up and in the shitter, or just missing, or, you will find page 3 and page 7 of a 10 page letter from your mother or woman or child, just missing. They are letting you know that they CAN and you, can NOT. Men are forced to submit, even Dominant men, and while they may in fact submit, they are not in fact submissives.
Another form of modern day slavery is the Armed forces, That is like the Gladitors of old Rome, they take a batch of mostly weak and useless people and train you to be able to lead. They take you and train you to follow and to fight. For men (and this is for combat areas) they take a whole shit load of Alpha Males and Make you more able. You do not see someone who is Delta, or Seal or one of Uncle Sams Misguided Children U.S.M.C. who is a sub or beta male. You may submit, but you are not a submissive. Nonetheless you are a slave, they give orders and you will follow. They have the absolute right to say to you, go and die. They give you jobs and missions that indeed place you in harms way. For you who do not understand, you just lack understanding and are not in fact Dominant. To face the enemy in battle and die is honorable, and to face the enemy and live is also hohorable for he too is an Alpha (usually). But to drive home the point of slavery, even when you are out, if something happens, the Goverment can and does come to you and tell you that you are going with us. If your alloted time is up and they still have use of you, you are not leaving. You are property, and thusly they give you a rank and number. You can be used or misused in any way that they deem reasonable. Not how you deem it, but that they deem it.
And while still on the missive about slavery, look at your first responders who are Firemen and Police officers. All the above usually take the job, barring the draft and and being someone who is innocent, of thier own free will. That takes strength. But Cops and Fire eaters are also slaves, they take the job and do the training and go on the missions that can kill them. Now cops do have a job frought with danger, but the job is far less dangerous than the job of a Firefighter. But both Jobs can in fact cost you your life on any given day and at any given time. Fire fighters are told to do things that go against human nature and common sence, such as go into that infurno with a three inch hose and look for people, then get the people who are in there and bring them back. Human nature tells us that fire in large amounts is not good for us, and that being burned too much can not just hurt, but kill. Firefighters feel fear but they do not let fear run them, they run the fear, they use the fear to gain strength. They do what most of you wont or can not do, they put it all on the line every dadgum day.
Police officers are also people that (while acting like they think they are some sort of demi gods) are slaves. They get told to go into unknown places and control unknown people and situations. And they are also told to do things that place them in harms way. Cops are disliked by 9 out of 10 people that they come into contact with. Usually because they are about to bust some ass. There are no good Police officers on the job who have been there for more than 36 months anymore, the system precludes you from actually being good. You are forced to sometimes break the rules and laws in order to get the job done. You as your job must be dominating and that sometimes flows into domineering. Cops are still slaves though, just slaves with more power.
There are other forms of slavery that abound here in America, we have all heard of how the Chinees that are brought here are treated, and most of you on this site would just shit yourselves if you were snatched up by them and forced to live that life of slavery.
I read the profiles on here and see the utter bullshit that is produced on wanting 'TPE' and claiming that you were "born a slave". It is mostly posturing and preverication. You are not slaves, you're someone that needs to stop reading all theses internet romance novels. If you are looking for an owner, then you are not a slave, you're free as long as you remain uncaptured. You can sell yourself into slavery in several different forms. You can be captured and forced into slavery, you can wander onto a place and be turned into a slave. But you are not one untill then. All of that "I have a slaves soul and I have the heart of a slave" is pish posh. Telling the world via the net that you are a slave but, that you do not want a woman, or a man or a married person or a person over such and such age is utter and total crap and someone should spit on the tip of a boot and kick you in your ass hard enough to make it lodge so far up there that the water on thier knee can quench your thirst. A slave does not get to choose. Umm Moment of clairity here, slaves do not tell Owners what or how it is. That is the actions of a bottom, or a submissive who can in fact say no. A slave saying no is like a frog singing opera, just not going to happen.
And in case you think that I am mistaken, give yourself just one day of slavery, by walking up to your local cop and smacking him in the chops, then when he comes for you, tell him "No I am not going to comply.' Tell him that you will not turn around and bend over nor will you get on the ground" I assure you that you will then learn what will happen when you disregard the commands of real dominance. You will For a short time get to feel what being a slave is like.
A slave is not the same thing as a submissive, a slave can still be Dominant, but will not be free, A slave is owed no kindness although like most still enjoys it. A slave is not owed a thank you for that is the slaves Job, its mission and purpose. Now must you be a Prick to be a slave owner, NO. But does a slave get to tell you how it is, no. Not just no, but hell no. Did some slave owners like thier slaves, yes, did some love certain ones yes, did some slaves like thier owners, yes, did some love them, again yes. But be clear; most people are full of misguieded and misinformed malinformation. Most people do not understand slavery even though the ones over 40 have seen "roots" they still do not understand, mostly because they want kink. Not service.
Remember the Millitary is called being in the service. and cops and Fire fighters are called public servants. Servant, service, to serve.
If you are a slave, then you do as you are told to do.
I have noticed something. Often when you speak to a sub/slave they tend to tell you all about what other people in the life have said to them. They tend to say that if you do not do it like it is written about by people that arent actually real, that you are doing it wrong. Gosh, who are you slave to tell me how to run my Kingdom? They Hide behind the wall of cyber space collecting friends and other such mundane crap.
I have been working in adult entertainment since I was 16 years old. Worked security/Management, Ownership in brothels and Gentelmens clubs. Worked on Movies sets and with people that actually lived the life. I live the Life. Most people I find just "want" to live the life. They build a cyber world and then after a few weeks or years try to slip into the lifestyle on a "lets see basis" That is like trying to join the army only part time. People say your extream, but they can not point to any one thing that I have made them submit to that was actually extream. You can talk to a person and allow them to go wild in their own minds, and People, they do. Then they wish to say it is the Dominants fault. News Flash People, it aint about you. You wanna be slaves need to at the very least look up what the word SLAVE means.
Far too many women, and for this I am in fact speaking about women, Far too many women, want to be petted, soothed, coddled and other such vanilla lifestyle crap when they havent actually earned that type of affection yet. Your job lest you have forgoten what this lifestyle is about, is to submit, Obey, follow directions. If you can not then get off this site, and stop Lying to everyone about what you are.
If you suffer from some sort of mental illness, then you should not be here in this life, this life is in fact harder than a Vanilla life. If you are weak then Get out, your weakness just drains everyone else. My job is not to pet you, not unless I desire to, My job is to dictate. You, especially when you ask for it, you are to abide by your own word. People when you break a deal, when you violate your own agreement, that makes you a Liar and a fake. When you choose to do something then in the real world you compleat it or your word is void and you are viewed as untrustworthey.
Do I owe you and explnation, Not just no I don't but hell no I don't. I can offer you one if I wish but subs and slaves arent owed one. When a cop tells you what to do you do it, or thats your ass right>>> When the president says to do something you get it done, or you pay a price, right.... When the King says to jump, your only question is How high? This is not a vanilla dating site, for you folks that want some kink, there are bars and such shit. This is about Power exchange. S submissive submits. and a slave Does. Everythig else is frosting on a cowpie.
Far too many people are talking about how you are owed a reason, or owed an explnation, they say that is how you build trust, that people is hog wash too. Here is how you know that it is.... When you go to a resturaunt, you eat what is placed befor you, You trust that the food is ok... Yet you know that most cooks are low waged slobs who don't wash their hands after useing the rest room.. You don't know what was done with the stuff that you are putting in your mouth... yet you trust...
Most people have a Doctor, but when they go into the hospital they do not know the guy who is cutting them open, they do not know the nursing staff, and people Doctors and hospitals Kill more people than accidents and murder in the USA each year.
if you have ever flown, how many people ever asked the pilot if he was drinking, (the papers talk of that happening kind of often), How do you kow that he is in the proper mood and that he is not gonna drive the plane into the ground. How many of you actually even speak to the pilot? You trust like a blind mouse, these people that are strangers to you and yet you cheerfully hand over the reins to your life to them. People send off thir kids to school and "trust" that they will be OKAY, again the papers tell you that just aint the case every dad gum day. I do not have to give you an itenerary of my reasons and what is gonna happen. You don't ask the cops, you don''t ask the government, you don't ask the many varried people that have control over your life what is going to happen or the reasons why, but you want to question your Dominant or Owners??? Jesus Keep me near the Cross, this is Nucking futs. It is not about trust, you learn to trust as you Go along. As you learn that in fact that you are being watched over and cared for and that you are giving over the information that an Owner needs to assess your well being. A hug does not build trust. You want a warm fuzzy, then earn it. Trust is something you want, but it is actually about submission. People should stop obfuscating the issures and meanings of the words.
Foolish people mistake HOPE for TRUST.
If your weak minded, or insane or just lonely, get out of BDSM. Sites like this have enough to deal with when they are invaded by insects that can't even figure out how to write a scam to americans in the same prose that we would speak in.
It is sad that so many women get hemmed up with people tht write a good story about "how it is supposed to be" They have no experience, and then when they try for real life, they want to tell you what some other Dom who wrote to them said. Guess what, A real Dominant would not give a rats fuzzy ass about what some other M' Effer said.. I do not care what your last Dominant did for you, said to you when he was training you for himself.
If I want you it is to be trained to Please ME. now if you want to be a Plane lable submissive to just be whored out to random internet assholes, that is another thing and you should state that up front, That way I do not waste my personal time or energy on a person that can not take it. And wont be around long.
Remember, weakness leads to instability, instability leads to insecurity, insecurity leads to worry, worry leads to doubt, doubt leads to annger, and anger leads to.............The Dark side.... and people, I am not talking about the Dark side that every one enjoys.. But the side that causes issues that hurt your feelings in the end.
Does it not seem strange to the people on this site that there are so many profiles that have the photos of some porn star or models. And that they all seem to have lost a Master to death or some other such bullpucky.. And that they all seem to be unable to put the words together like every other American. Must every site that is out there be hammered by spammers? I have spoken to several iteresting people, not a lot of people since I actually have a life off the net, but a few. But what really seems odd to me is that the people on here who say that they are serious usually do not band together to try to run off the spammers. One should not have to sift through so much weak crap in order to find a nice conversation or a nice counterpart.
It would appear that there are no people from the Nebraska, Iowa, or Mo area that think a Lifestyle club would work. I ask for input and got nothing. Not even the fakers on here had anything to say. The building is still bought, flying J will be putting in something in about a year. and I hope that at some point someone other than cyber sillies join this site
you folks have just got to see this, feel free to tell me what you think
We just got Back from Buying a building in MO. We are thinking of turning it into a center for adult learning. Meaning a Dungon. If there were a place like that, that was outfited totally, what do you think that a good rental fee would be for 4 hours?
Needless to say there would be a ton of paperwork to sign that would keep people from trying to sue us for thier mistakes, but the place will be there and will be low key.
I was just wondering what people think.
Well springtime is comming. I have been working in the adult entertainment world for a tad more than 20 years. I am looking for a woman that would enjoy being used as a model in BDSM a well as fetish pictures. She must be at least 19 years old and able to prove it. I know that many people on this site use this space to live out cyber dreams. I am not interested in them for either my personal desires or my professional needs. I am only looking for 1 or 2 women that have taken care of themselves. That have not let themselves go to waste. This could be full time for the correct woman. If you are a woman that wants to do this type of work but already has an Owner then perhaps you should mention this to HIM or HER. If you do not already have an Owner but are looking, I am looking as well. The Content that you would make would be placed on sites in Europe as well as America depending on what it is. It would have all the realness that you would want. If you are interested in this for real life and you are serious then please contact me.
