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I'm complicated, but that's why I'm trying to keep things simple. ;-) Since I was a teen, I have been attracted to cross-dressing and submission. In my mid-20s, I had a Master for several years who pushed my limits, and I became passable enough to go out a number of times. I still cherish the memories, but sadly, our relationship ended when I moved abroad. For the past five years however, I've come to enjoy my male body more (lots of sports!) and I have tried domming occasionally. So am I a sub, or am I a dom? With the right person, I could be either, or (best of both worlds!) maybe both.
- As a dom, I believe I have still lots to learn. In particular, I am very interested in rope and psychology. I could actually be interested in finding a buddy / sub to practice on and/or go to workshops with (it doesn't have to be sexual).
- I wouldn't mind subbing again -- but the chemistry would have to be right. Full disclosure: I already am in a stable relationship, mostly vanilla but still deeply rewarding, and I don't expect it to change.
What I can do is accommodate a side, kinky relationship on the side. I am extremely serious and caring, but you have to remember that you will come second to my existing partner -- and of course, I don't expect to come first to you either. Other things about me:
- I love very high heels. Watching girls struggle in their fuck-me stilettos when they totter down steep streets is one of my guilty pleasures, and (having worn some myself), I have all the more respect when they manage it effortlessly, hovering above the street like butterflies.
- I love beautiful lingerie, the sight of bra and suspender straps on a woman's body, harnessing her like tight ropes on a ship. I actually want to learn more about shibari.
- The Story of O is one of the books that impressed me the most. I love the way she comes to associate pain with pleasure and love.
- I actually love the intensity of feeling that pain brings. Yet I wouldn't characterize myself as a pain slut -- I haven't gone very far in that direction. (Yet?)
- Somewhat of a book worm. Whatever the book, you can try me, chances are I have read it already -- especially if it's SF or Fantasy. Worse -- sometimes I write stuff like that.
- Quite versed in psychology -- mostly because I wanted to become a better person and understand other people. Not too good on manipulation -- for ethical reasons -- but in the right context I'd love to try my hand on it. :-D
- I'm very approachable and happy to make new friends, even if we don't end up playing together! So, let's speak soon. :-)