Rules of Domination: 1) Treat your sub like your child. Protect them, guide them, when you punish them make sure you do it like you would do a child making sure they are not permanently hurt or damaged but the lesson sticks. 2) Try to understand that in your subs growth is your growth. If he / she achieves something it should tell you in your heart that youre doing something right. That childlike smile that comes on their face when they achieve something which they never knew they could should be your reward. 3) The only power you have is that which the sub gives you. If he / she lets you whip them then even though you are holding the whip it is their moans of pleasure which are giving you your pleasure. If they decide they dont like the whips then no matter how much you whip them, you will never achieve satisfaction. So your sub deserves to be treated with respect. 4) A dom should carter to the needs of his sub, should take his sub to a different level which the sub desires.Remember even though the sub is the person who obeys,he or she is actually a real master of the game and should always be at the receiving end. I have always maintained that even though we Doms hold the whip, the sub is the one who has the power. She has the power to give. A good Dom just has to treasure that and nurture her needs and take her to a level that He knows, she can achieve. Most characteristics of a gentle, caring Dom leads one to being classified as a Daddy Dom. IMHO, without genuinely caring and treasuring your sub, no Dom can be a good Dom. I have always let the sub soar in her own piece of sky, uninhibited, unafraid and unrestrained. She knows that the one who can bring her back to earth is the one who she respects, loves and fears. Though sometimes, she can bring the sky down on you :P its the sub who controls, and being a dom is actually wayy tougher than it actually bounds 5) Give the sub what (s)he wants as much as you can, as creatively as you can, but try and refrain from as often as you can coz IMHO that just tends to lead to it being taken for granted. 6) Know and respect each others boundaries! Push the limits only if both are willing to do the same, else it ends up being like clapping with one hand... 7) Re-affirm and re-enforce set boundaries/ rules/ privileges/ rewards as and when required to root out redundancy. there can be cases when the sub rules the game (Service Topping is one of them), if that is how you set it up. And if that works for the both of them, then great ! But don't say it has to be I am in office so i cud not proof read it, but i hope it solves purpose.