jdhoeye

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About jdhoeye

Describing myself
I've lived my life marching to the beat of my own drummer pursuing my ambitions with single minded tenacity, particularly if someone is foolish enough to tell me I can't do that! (professionally speaking) Peaceful by nature, it took me longer than most I think to see conflict on the horizon and manuver to avoid it. (physically speaking) Mentally active, I cannot abide any occupation that mimics an automaton instestead always seek out occupations that are both physically active and mentally engaging. (professionally and recreationally) Good humor and levity are my trademarks, I will not linger long in the company of those who believe productive activity precludes enjoying good humor jocular interactions among those laboring together.


Describing my ideal match

Self sufficient and reliant, independent and active. Self assured, confident about who and what they are. Good humored and optimistic. Not only talk the talk but walk the walk. Honest, caring, curious, open minded and want to expand their horizons through experiance and expermentation. Practice moderation in all things but willing to try anything. Living life with their glass half full. Expect to break some eggs to make an omlett... Comfortable with their own sexuality, communicate thier needs directly, paticipate willingly, explore without boundries...

Additional information about me.
WM Switch who enjoys, well, switching.

I am:
Looking for friends who like and want to socialize and play in a stable casual relationship.

Enjoy: Roll Play, Scening, Bondage, Slavery, Public Sex, Public Bondage, Oral Sex, Digital Sex, Voyeurisim, Exhibition

I am not looking for:
A poly family

I am not into:
Emotional or Physical Pain or Humiliation

So there I was, thumbing, as it were, throught the pages of the 'interest search' selection buttons (made it all the way to bdsm3) when it occurred to me I hadn't noticed an entry for my favorite multiple partner activity - for lack of a better term, let's call it, Furniture...

To explain, specifically; it is a situation in which one participant serves as 'furniture' by supporting another participant comfortably while a third performs acts upon the second.

The level of active participation by the so called furniture is variable and can range from actively supporting a second participant in captivity while others carry out their acts on the second; to, letting others use the 'furniture' as they might a pillow or stool and passively allow them to position me as suits their purpose.

As is always the case, the role can be varied in a multiplicity of countless details; all dependant on an equal or greater number of situation variables.

That I only intended to note the apparent absence of what I have labled the 'furniture' role among the varous bdsm variants listed, this writing seems to be overly long... BUT, when I consider the countless variations of the role I have personally played... it is but a quick mention.

That I prefer multiple partner encounters is a given that must exist prerequite to a participant becoming furniture for the others... and I only mention it because there have been a few who that fact seemed to escape - how they missed it I've never come to understand... no matter how often.

When interacting with others face to face i've always found 'the dumb look' informative - when i'm not getting the dumb look i'm doing it right; inverted, getting the dumb look tells me not.

That said, interactions in an on line environment don't allow real time observation of others real time reactions, facial expressions and body language with obvious results.

Needless to say, as the quintessential newby to overt participation in the lifestyle I've beem wandering around pretty much lost - an understatment of the reality, IMHO.

However, after having occupied my time reading other practitioners profiles and journals i finally read a fair description of my own state of being reletive to BDSM lifestyle. IE: don't know how I should present myself, M or s, in which case to list myself as switch...

Well, okay, that means I've gotten one thing right; that's what I checked in the basic profile form - switch.

I have to admit the choice came naturally, sort of a 'no brainer' because there are aspects about both roles I'm attracted to; and, the inverse is true too. The one that stands out in my mind is my aversion to is any form of real discomfort, either felt or inflicted - mental, emotional or physical.

Reviewing the above it has become clear I don't know if or how I might actually fit into the BDSM lifestyle; the only certainty being: I would like, want, to find out.
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