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javaman

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Bi sub looking for many things... a real bdsm experience, play partners, friends... and something more meaningful.

It's been a while since I've updated this so here goes...

You: an intelligent, honest and understanding friend, play parter or potential partner who is willing to teach and enjoy the journey of D/s.

me: a willing and honest submissive offering and ear, collar and key to that which is most precious.

In essence: I'm a man looking for what fits right. I'm honest, devoted and looking for more fun in life. Submitting to a strong personality for the right reasons has always been a major draw in my life. Collared and held kindly at the feet of a confident Dominant is really he crux of what I like. Tis a bit vague, but besides the specifics of what kinks we're both into, what I value in the people in my life is confidence and honesty.

I've found that being treated like a human 'pet' is appealing. To me this means being played with and cared for in a nurturing/loving scene. I am not into humiliation or punishment for its own sake or generally treating a sub as bad or deserving of pain. I'd also love to meet someone who would love to hold the keys to a chastity belt for a short period of time. For some odd reason wearing a cb is a straight-fire way to get me into the submissive mindset. It's probably the most powerful trigger I have in that regard. In addition orgasm control is also fun. But above all I'd love to just meet more people, make friends and connections. If this means platonic (let's hang out, watch movies and play board games), play partners (let's have an awesome kinky scene, but not get too emotionally committed) or perhaps something kinkily poly... that'd be up my ally. If I had to pick one of those 3 though, I'd be most interested in playing. Due to some not-so-recent trust breaking I tend to move slow and feel things out. In the end I want to make more connections with folks that I can trust to play with :)

Outside of the lifestyle I love riding my motorcycle and hanging with friends doing anything geeky.

I tend to be shy, but once I get to know someone I open up easily. Final caveat: i am in a LTR with spme openness... we're both comfortable with each other playing, making out and SOME sexy-time (with limits), so if that bothers you.. oh well :P You can also look me up on FL under Javaman21011
1/2/2009 2:13:36 PM
Been a while, but I finally have something to journal about!

I found a great key holder and so far am happy. Been locked since the 30th and haven't had a release in over a week. It's drawing out some new thoughts and feelings in me that I never though I was capable of. I love this feeling and I hope I can get over the minor discomfort this belt affords.
11/13/2008 3:25:57 PM
Hah, and another great one: 

Predominantly heterosexual, but more the incidentally homosexual. You're in the grey area. You are probably one of those straight people who's very comfortable with your sexuality, hell you may even play with the gay in the bedroom. You're probably the boyfriend that will go with your girlfriend to the gay club, and you probably dont care when an obviously gay person checks you out or even hits on you. Yay for you, gay people love straight people like you! Another option, you might also be the bi-curious or confused type, but only YOU know the truth. Last option (least in MY head) is you're a bisexual person, who tends to favor the opposite sex over the same sex.
11/13/2008 12:26:38 PM
One of those automated tests that I thought was pretty spot on about me:

You are assertive, yet still maintain some level of submission. You stand your ground firmly most of the time, and are fairly level. You may not identify with being submissive or dominant, and it's possible that you're a switch (someone who alternates between the two depending on circumstances and/or mood).
11/8/2008 2:04:27 AM
Yay! It arrived today and I am sooo excited :) I'm testing driving it now to see how it fits and so far so good ;) There is a little give but otherwise it is snug!

Can't wait to wear it for long periods and feel the excruciating and delicious taste of frustration!
10/29/2008 12:23:51 AM
Alas, my belt remains in Limbo. But luckily I have some friends over in Belgium who are looking into it. At least some hope is better than nothing.
10/6/2008 12:03:59 AM
Hrm, haven't posted in a while and I dunno why. So much has been going on that I forget this little blog thing exists. I'm still waiting for my chastity belt to arrive and the delay is  frustrating me for the obvious reasons! Ironic that I'm frustrated because I cannot be frustrated :P

In other news, I'm still 'single'/not collared or what not and looking earnestly for the right Mistress. I was told once that I am more like a bottom than a sub. But I find those labels to be silly. Am I willing to do things and make the right person happy? Of course! That's just the beginning of how I define submissives. Someone willing to their Dominants needs above theirs. I try to fulfill that everyday to the people around me... a people pleaser to the end :)
3/6/2008 12:12:20 AM
I never really thought about it, but recently I had a great conversation where I realized that I've never really been properly trained. I'm not sure how that would go.. I've played some but apparently I'm an untrained noobie. I wonder if I could find someone to fill the role of mentor and trainer :)
2/28/2008 10:42:09 PM
So many wonderful people have been writing me, it's been awesome. But don't get blue, I'm still not taken and would love to meet even more people!
2/12/2008 11:37:09 PM
What IS the right thing to do? Be coy and wait or go out there and ask for what you want... What I want is to meet a great dominant and serve them the best way I know how, by giving up and letting them control when or if I get unlocked. :) Now who do you suppose would enjoy controling a young, cute lad like that.
2/10/2008 1:33:54 AM
After a rocky holiday it's finally time. A friend is helping me get in gear and ready to a get a real chastity belt. It's always been a love/hate thing. Get it and be satiated by denial? The thought is quite intoxicating and frightening at the same time. Who to hold the key as well? There is no one long term on the horizon, sadly. But I'll keep looking for that special someone who would enjoy keeping me chaste as much as I enjoy being sadistically denied :)
11/9/2007 12:34:30 AM
Having so much fun lately, for some reason people are just reaching out, it rocks!
8/21/2006 12:24:27 AM
New favorite theme: DJ Tiesto - Just Be, It just fits life so well.
2/9/2006 8:03:16 PM
Hmm... Seeing so many posts that specifically demand "No men" or "looking for female (whatever)" makes me wonder if being a guy is a actually a downside. With the rise of feminist theories over the past few decades one can't help but feel religated to the rubbish pile.
9/28/2005 1:38:07 AM
I'm wondering if some people come at this with the wrong angle. To me it seems like so many are wanting the 'thing' that will fill some need in their life. "I'm looking for a slave, a money pig, a dominant, etc..." instead of looking for the 'person' that will fill that missing part. Probably too sentimenal but people should be the aim not the kink or persuasion they possess.
9/19/2005 6:58:00 PM
I wonder, how does someone filter out the users from the true-spirits of bdsm. I just get the impression that there are some greedy people out there who only approach subs/slaves and want to use their willingness to serve as a mean towards personal/material gain.
9/15/2005 4:48:39 AM
Is it me or is communication really lacking? People chat you up a bit then disappear... Simply saying "no thanks, no interested anymore" is way more courteous than just not responding or removing a profile altogether. Weird eh?
7/19/2005 4:13:26 AM
I just took a quick look at everyone's journal entries and I couldn't help smirking. What's with all the gripes about penile posts and failed searches.

*Quality guy right here* Hot too and curiously kinky.

It doesn't make sense, probably too much quiet on my end, maybe I should break out the gong.
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