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StrictSadistic
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Finding the right Dom is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Kinks must align first, then personalities need to fit. It is so important that timezones, location and language match too.
He has to be a confident soul, a good provider (physically and emotionally) and more importantly, he has to be firm. I must admit that I cannot stand men who fumble about and have no clue about what they are doing. My vanilla life is one where I am in charge. I have strong preference to be free of that when I am with my Dom partner. Perhaps that makes me a classic subbie with masochistic inclinations.
He is taller and smarter. I love a man that I can literally look up to and have a decent conversation with. He enjoys being at home, doing DIY things or spending quiet evenings with friends. I like someone who is happy doing normal stuff but is a real bastard behind closed doors.
Big rules that kept me out of trouble.
-No hairy chest (sorry).
-No hairy butt (very sorry).
-No younger men (been there, bad mistake).
-Absolutely no switches please (too stressful).
-No married men (that is cheating).
-Unlikely to submit to anyone who drinks like a fish or smokes like a chimney either.
If this is an to 'market' oneself then I can say that I am slim and unlikely to be anything larger than a UK size 10. I think that is a US Petit 2. I am well travelled and lived in quite a number of countries around the world. All that travel made being home a treasured experience, hence I like to stay a bit and plant my feet into the ground. I am also financially independent. My first experience was 20 years ago, and I have not looked back since.
1950s type household desirable. Submission is natural and only makes sense when it is given to a Dominant who is in his elements. Everything has its place, but we humans love to move things around a bit.
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My favourite Dom is back and spending just a few hours with him is exhilarating !!! |
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I must include a new skill set. Apparently I am an expert at topping from the bottom. I thought it was an exchange of control hence when handed over, the sub is not suppose to be topping at all. Alas, still plenty to learn... |
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There is a big difference between a doormat and a sub, pity some people have not figured it out yet. |
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A gentleman who finds someone to change the light bulb when its a 2 minute job (because he does not know who to do it) is NOT desirable at all. |
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Addiction is a good word to describe BDSM. A gentleman once said to me that some additictions are beningn and liken them to a innocent glass of fine wine in the evenings. I guess we all have our addictions, some like chocolates, others like cheeze. People like us like bondage and whips. We will not die without it, but when it is placed before us, we seldom say no. So says the addict. |
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So many Doms, so few in Asia.
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Not all Doms are bastards, and not all bastards, Doms... It does not take that long to figure who's who.
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Vanilla just got boring. Yes, here I am admitting that vanilla sex is about as interesting to me as watching my grandmother weed her garden. Maybe with the right gentleman, a relationship will grow, that yes... there will be blue skies, a cottage with picket fences, and perhaps even a laundry line in the yard , but lets be practical, its likely we live busy lives already and have very little time for much else. This site offers a quick fix to a decade long itch.
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Get real guys. This Sex and Submission stuff (yes, the DS whips and chains and a slave to do all your bidding) is really a tiny % of an otherwise 99% normal life. There is only 24 hrs in a day and spend 8 of it at work, and 8 hours to recover from work. The next 5-7 hours is spent with family & friends doing rather normal stuff (laundry comes to mind).
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I am not likely to drop everything to fly off to Canada, Finland or Alaska to meet the purrrrfect Dom. Its too nice and warm here in Asia.
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Noted a lot of guys (who call themselves Doms) cannot stand tongue and cheek. Life is too short to be a wall flower.
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It is like looking for a needle in a haystack (a big one too)
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| Age: 22 |
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