Islander361

I'm not sure if CollarMe is an appropriate venue to find what I'm looking for, but what the heck....

I've always had some desire to submit, even though I definitely don't enjoy pain. Other than a few playful encounters (which were too playful, so that I never felt like I was truly submitting), I haven't explored these urges. Even so, I'm happy with my life, and generally don't feel a need to go out and seek BDSM experiences just "for kicks".

However, as I approach 40, there is something I am unhappy with - my weight. I'm not even close to morbidly obese, but I do want to lose (and keep off) my growing belly and tone-up in general. Since I do have this urge to submit, it occurred to me that perhaps Spanking Therapy or Domestic Discipline might be helpful. As I said, I don't enjoy pain at all; so I believe that the threat of appropriate punishment would provide incentive to alter my behavior. I also truly believe the thrill of submitting and my desire to improve would keep me from simply walking away from the punishment, despite the pain.

I am not looking for sex!!! I don't even envision any nudity (unless you require it on my part).

I am not looking for a relationship, or to be part of a "public scene or group". I am looking for one disciplinarian, to meet with on a somewhat regular basis, in a safe but private location. I truly want to submit myself for discipline, as she feels is appropriate.

My only limits are for safety reasons: 1) no blood-letting, electrical-play, fire-play, knife-play, needle-play, suffocation, drugs, feces, etc., 2) no lasting marks or injuries, 3) no imprisoning bondage (perhaps this will change once I know someone), and 4) we would have a strictly disciplinarian relationship. The fourth limitation is partly for privacy and safety reasons, but also because it seems that a disciplinarian would be less effective if there was a personal aspect to the relationship. I can provide a place to meet if needed.

I am a professional white male, clean-cut and drug/disease free, 6'2" tall, and weigh about 250 pounds (I'd like to reach 220 - maybe lower). I'll be glad to provide pictures to any potential disciplinarian once it appears we may be compatible; but for now I'm not willing to post public pictures of myself.

I hope this didn't come across as being bossy or pushy, but I felt it would be best to be upfront about both what I am looking for, and what my limitations are. Please let me know if you're interested, and want to talk more.....