I'm a Sydney Dom, 51 years old, Caucasian, solid build, self-employed, looking for regular daytime meetings (in Sydney or close by) with a female sub. I am more interested in the mental/psychological aspects of D/s rather than on the physical trappings, tools and language that many people seem to require.

I'm in a vanilla long-term relationship, hence there is a need for some discretion, and of course I offer discretion in return. But this is not just an older bloke looking for "a bit on the side" - I will explain my particular cirumstances in due course to the right woman.

While I am seeking a part-time relationship, I want it to be with just one sub - I'm not seeking to put notches on the bedhead. And I want it to be on an ongoing basis, as I believe that those conditions are necessary for the close and trusting relationship that I see as necessary for good power exchange.

I seek to build a loving, honest, warm, affectionate, supportive and trusting relationship with my sub as an equal partner both in and out of D/s activities. A good D/s relationship requires equal input from both. I want to revel in her submission and her development. I am her friend, her lover, her Daddy and I treat her as my own child - strict but fair.

I'm not into dishing out serious punishment and pain for the sake of it, and I'm not into serious humiliation and/or abuse, as I find those counterproductive to what I seek. So if you need serious pain and/or humiliation, you'll find me a very big disappointment.

If you view D/s as an emotional/mental (and perhaps even spiritual) journey rather than simply an excuse for putting misogyny into practice in a decidedly one-sided context, then perhaps we have some common ground to start with.

I like strong, intelligent, educated and achieving women who can carry on a good conversation, match wits with me, and present somewhat of a challenge. I tend to think that most women under 30 do not have the maturity for what I seek, but I have met a few who most certainly do. I also admit to a weakness for petite women. If you are married/attached it might be helpful. I'd like you to be warm and affectionate and demonstrative, to love to serve and to want a partner to help you feel fulfilled in all aspects of your submission.

Despite the above, the bottom line is that the person you are means much more to me than your looks, your age and your formal achievements in life.

So I have no criteria set in stone. I'm sure I'll know when I meet the right woman, and she may well be nothing like what I expect. After all, it's an adventure. So I'm not into hurrying things or pressuring you. We can take our time.

I would hope that you have a broad and open and inventive mind, that you don't take life too seriously, and that you love to laugh, because I try not to be too serious, I like to tell jokes and I love to get a laugh...

There is a lot more that I could say, but I'd like to keep this relatively short, and I hope that we will have a lot to say later.

So, if the above resonates with you, please write to me and we can explore each other and see where things go.

D