I'm looking for a submissive woman to be my soul mate. She desires to be led, loved and protected by one such as I. I am not looking for a hardened pain slut or a mindless sex object, rather I seek one who wishes to grow into a sensual, giving, loving submissive who finds joy in the pleasure of her master. I would much rather see my submissive surrender to ecstasy of sensual stimulation than to see her submit from agony and suffering. I know too that life is more than just two people, even though there will be times when the rest of the world doesn't matter. I am looking for a real life relationship that includes my submissive being a whole happy person in the world; the two of us, together in the world living, functioning as part of it, each in our own way as well and as one soul in two bodies.
Heh, I heard a new one. According to a lovely young woman who refused to believe I am 41 until I showed her my ID, I'm a DILF. She wasn't a bad kisser either.
This is great. I can't watch this without laughing.
Whoa a first for me. I got blocked. I wrote an email to some one and contrary to my intention it was taken negatively. Her response was polite enough, so I wrote back to apologize for not communicating well enough only to find out that I was blocked. :( tough luck I guess.
Put the lime in the coconut and call me in the morning.
There is no such thing as the National Bureau
of? Sadomasochistic Standards and Practices that issues rulings about what is and what is not "real" SM. Therefore, people must work out between themselves what does and does not work for them.
One the other hand, there is actually fairly close consensus among experienced? practitioners regarding the broad outlines of what is and what is not appropriate. That being the case, it would be smart to seek out a variety of such opinions.
More to the point, it would be very dumb of you to depend upon only one source of information, no matter how "convincing" or "authoritative" that (usually male) source of information tries to
appear.
I would say that this is more about SM and? "playing" rather than D/s relationships, but it is still good advice.
Want to find a ton of fake profiles?? In the Keywords section, type "yahoo com" (no quotes) and have a look... pretty much the same thing for "gmail com" ??
Some Philosophy ? Aristotle believed in the idea that people and things have a "true nature" or a telos.? He also held a lot of other views that I DON'T agree with but he was working with limited knowledge and some factual misconceptions, but I do agree with the foundations for some of his ideas. ? ? Anyhow my take on it is that every one has a "true nature," but the world is not as binary as Aristotle envisioned it.? I'm not going to use the words "superior" and "inferior" because these are loaded words.? These words are used by racists, bigots and misogynists.? I am none of these.? Instead I will use the words "leader" and "follower."? I believe that Some people are natural leaders and some people are natural followers.? There are also people that are neither (or both depending on how you look at it).? I think that the world has more of the third kind of person in it.?? ? ? I believe that people's true natures vary across the full spectrum.? There are men that are followers (slaves) and that there are women that are leaders (masters).? Gender doesn't dictate one or the other, but I do believe that there are women who are naturally slaves and men that are naturally masters.? This being the case it is only natural that in order to realize their true natures each would seek out the other.? (That's why we're here on collarme.com)
Something has been bugging me for a while about submissive women's profiles on this site. Most say they are "looking" for a certain type of Dominant man. That's fine. To each their own, but what I have a problem with is the "looking" part. In actuality they are not "looking" they are putting up a profile and pic then reading emails of people who have looked THEM up. Ladies, if you are actually serious about finding what you describe in your profiles, then how do you expect to find it by sitting back letting men email you? That's not searching, that's lazy. Then most have the nerve to complain about the mails they do get for what ever reason.
I guess though that if you are reading this you must not be one of the people I'm talking about. If you think we might be compatible drop me a line. If not good luck with your search.
Is any one else getting tired of that Anais Nin quote?? I mean sure it expresses what some may want, but geez put a little more on your profile.? You're not original.? Talk about "form letters" this takes the cake.?
An interesting quote.
The decorum used while speaking is very much a reflection of the condition of a female's heart, soul, and mind, and it is my opinion that many are living, breathing contradictions in this regard. While claiming to be tamed, many spit venom like a wild animal. But in any given circle, polite and meek-mannered females stand out because such behavior is most flattering to our sex. We must put this conflict between our minds and our mouths to an end and seek to tame our tongues, even if it means being muzzled.
Some excerpts from a recent personality test I took. Effective communicators have strong emotional intelligence, and you seem to have an excellent level of emotional intelligence. It is expected that you show considerable tolerance of ambiguity and emotional expression. You have the capacity for being extremely sensitive to other?s feelings and to their body language. Those who know you well would probably describe you as patient and eager to listen to others. People in this scoring range are also not afraid of making or admitting to mistakes. They consistently and bravely show vulnerability to others. In fact, they are keenly aware how their behavior impacts others. You can communicate your needs and feelings honestly when someone engages you directly. In this sense, it is likely that you seek to understand others, rather than seek for others to understand you. Bottom line: you need someone who will not put up emotional barriers when you seek to understand his/her thoughts and feelings, but rather will communicate with you intimately and candidly.
You are very comfortable with being intimate and vulnerable with a partner. People like you have big hearts and an impressive openness to your partner. That openness includes lessons learned from your past experiences and relationships, extending trust, believing your partner returns your feelings and devotion. In fact, you probably feel very uncomfortable ? and even guilty ? if there were any secrets between you and your partner. Likewise, you regard your lover as your best friend and your foremost confidant. There is typically no hesitation discussing current problems or concerns with this person. It also seems that you have realistic expectations for a committed relationship. You are willing to act on the belief that your partner?s feelings are equally as strong as yours. Therefore, you are probably not deterred in taking the risks associated with being vulnerable on all levels. Bottom line: you need someone who believes and acts on the belief that the intimacy of a relationship is sacred.
People like you are characterized by a strong self-esteem, sense of self and sense of accomplishment. Those who know you best would likely describe you as influential, patient and accepting of others ? and calm, cool and collected most of the time. You are content with your personal qualities and feel you are an attractive person. Moreover, you probably have a good sense of control over the events in your life and are decisive in managing your life. In this sense, you likely do not overreact to circumstances as others might do. Rather, people in your scoring range are quite adaptable and are able to maintain a balanced perspective on situations. Additionally, you are also very influential and persuasive with others. Therefore, it is expected that family, friends and acquaintances often come to you for ideas of guidance across a range of issues. You are confident that people who are important in your life understand you, but you also tend to be comfortable not giving in to peer, family and other social pressures. Family is indeed important to you, but their expectations do not strongly influence your life. Instead, people who score like you tend to have their own well-defined ambitions and goals ? and may even set specific benchmarks to monitor the progress made toward achievements.
You seem to be happy and content in your life. This is an excellent foundation for a committed relationship. In fact, most people in this scoring range have a clear vision and a sense of purpose for their life. They can connect well with others with effective relationship and dating skills, they have well defined ideas about where their life is headed and they are assertive and resourceful in meeting their goals. Therefore, you likely feel in control and are able to take charge and go after what you want in life and in a relationship. Your housekeeping is also probably in check ? meaning that you do not have any negative baggage that can weigh down a relationship, like financial or legal problems or emotional, health or family issues. As such, you appear to be looking for a relationship to complement your life.
Effective conflict resolution has nine general elements: View Conflict as Positive; Address Conflict in the Proper Atmosphere; Clarify Perceptions; Note Needs, not wants; Draw on the Power of a Positive Partnership; Focus on the Future, then learn from the past; Identify Options for Mutual Gain; Develop ?Doables? or stepping stones to action; and Make Mutually-Beneficial Agreements. Your score indicates that you are fairly strong on all of these basic elements, except for Making Mutually-Beneficial Agreements. This suggests that you are very flexible and action-oriented when addressing problems, yet not so eager to find resolution that you settle for quick, temporary agreements. Settling on a temporary agreement is often a way of avoiding conflict, and it can lead to needs not being met. You do not seem to avoid conflict; instead you appear to evaluate the possible solutions and then actively engage your partner to work on a positive outcome for the relationship.
Scientific models of love and attachment always include physical chemistry and sexuality. It is a crucial topic for any couple to address, because it involves issues of control and vulnerability. People at your scoring level have a firm sense of their sexual orientation, preferred sexual activities and comfort level. You like sex that is romantic, adventurous and fun, but for you sex is not a casual event. Sex has great importance in your relationship, and it is reserved for someone you love. You may think your sexual preferences would be viewed as conservative by others, but you are hardly a prude. You tend to be very confident in your sexual ability, you are not self conscious in bed and you are open to try various activities. People in this scoring range are not sexually selfish. While you appreciate spontaneity and wild abandon in sex, you also seem to like for sex to be planned to some extent. Most times this probably reflects the fact that you like to set the mood, build anticipation and ensure you have privacy and no interruptions.
Bottom line: you need a partner who is energetic, enthusiastic and has high self-efficacy like you and will support or even participate in your personal and professional interests that feed your sense of identity and accomplishment.? You need someone who is realistic about the hard work it takes to build and maintain a stable and satisfying relationship.? You need someone who will join you in taking time to find a complete and genuine resolution to issues as opposed to avoiding conflict by settling for quick, temporary agreements.? You need someone who regards sex as a meaningful bond between people in love and who appreciates when it is planned to some extent rather than completely spontaneous.
?One way to spot a scammers fake profile. Their ethnicity says Native American. This is not intended to be offensive to actual Native Americans, it is just something I noticed. I believe it is becasue the scammers are not native English speakers so they don't know that most white Americans call themselves caucasian. Plus caucasian has the word Asian in it, which might cause trouble for non-native English speakers. Another thing to look at is their weight. 5'7" 99 lbs isn't realistic.
Some example profiles. lonelycaren003 mariah213 sexydaph? lilly4cool
I know this topic has been probably been done to death, but I want people looking at my profile know my opinion.
I think that the idea of submission being a gift is BS.
I want a submissive who is submissive because thats what she needs to
be in order to have a fulfilling relationship. She will choose me
because I meet her needs and I will choose her because she meets my
needs. We will choose each other. She will submit to me and I will rule
her. Her actions in our relationship will be the result of her desire
for fulfillment as a submissive woman. Acting in her own greater self
interest is not a gift, and that is how it should be.
I got a gift for you....
Today is a gift.
That's why it is called "The Present"
Women on Internet Dating sites.
I recently met some one who runs an Internet Dating site, but not this one. He interacts with other people in his position at other Internet dating companies. We had an interesting discussion. He explained to me that a significant number of women put up profiles for ulterior motives. Not that they are scammers, or those fake webcam profiles (yeah those are annoying too), but that they don't intend to answer any emails. They put up profiles becasue they get an ego boost from recieving a lot of emails. I guess these women get an ego boost because they think that recieveing so many emails means that guys think they're hot. My acquaintence told me they usually have a pic showing a lot of skin. He also told me that they rarely even look at the profiles of the men that they receive emails from and that they almost certainly never actually do their own search. To me this indicates that they aren't really looking for some one, they are just here for the ego boost. Now the site my acquaintence works for is a vanilla site, but it does offer free profiles. I think that is probably important. Free and easy profiles allow these women to easily feed their ego without commitment. Just another reason not to send out emails.
Well if you're reading this you must NOT be one of the one's using this site to prop up your ego. Drop me a line.
